18 Interesting Things to Talk About on the Phone

Crystal Schwanke
using Smartphone

You like him, and you think he likes you. But, you get tongue-tied and nervous on the phone. Don't let your conversation grow cold by not having topics to discuss. Having a list of things to talk about on the phone can make sure you aren't witness to that awkward silence and weird nervousness. And remember, these topics aren't a script, it is a guideline of stuff to talk about on the phone to keep the conversation moving naturally.

Sample List of Interesting Topics to Talk About

If you want to avoid awkward silence, create a list of topics. However, don't script your conversation; your list of topics should be more like cues of what to say so you avoid the dreaded "um" or worse, the long, empty pauses. The following is a sample list of good topics to talk about that you can use to fill in any empty places in your conversation:

  • Talk about what interests the person
  • Discuss popular films
  • Discuss favorite television shows
  • Ask "what if" questions
  • Fantasy vacation spot
  • Fantasy date
  • Fantasy job
  • Personal and professional goals
  • Talk music, past, present and future
  • Talk favorite foods, movies and places to visit
  • Find out what he likes to do in his free time and how often he gets to do it (Sean Cooper, the Shyness & Social Anxiety Guy, recommends asking more specific questions like, "Do you play an instrument?" or "Do you like dancing?" as well)
  • Talk about your favorite classes, whether you're in school together or reminiscing about the past
  • Discuss your favorite books
  • Ask her about where she grew up
  • Ask if he has a big group of friends or just a few of good, close friends
  • Find out what she did last weekend (this could give you an idea of whether she likes to party or prefers quieter evenings)
  • Share crazy dating stories (or just ask about his first date, like Glamour suggests)
  • Ask what people are often surprised to find out about her, or what people compliment her on the most (other than her looks)

If you're running out of things to talk about with your boyfriend or girlfriend, it's always good to ask an open ended question. Fun relationship questions help you get to know him or her better while keeping things light.

Key Things to Remember

When you are putting together your telephone topic list, remember three key things:

  • Keep your topic list generic, do not write a "script" because the last thing you want to sound like is a telemarketer reading from a script.
  • Let the conversation flow, remember your topic list is a guideline and not a rule.
  • Don't over think whether you should call. If someone gave you his number, that was an invitation to call him.
  • Come up with a topic or purpose for the call so there's less room for awkward silences and nervousness. Maybe you want to invite him somewhere or find out what he thought about something you saw in the news.

Sometimes Listening Is Best

If you do call a girl or guy you like, and you don't have a better reason than you just wanted to hear his or her voice, consider being honest. It may open up a completely new avenue of conversation for the two of you. Ultimately, when you are stuck for something to say on the phone, consider just listening. One of the best things you can do for a person that you like is to listen.

Was this page useful?
18 Interesting Things to Talk About on the Phone