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Simple Text Messages to Say "I Love You"

Gabrielle Applebury
Woman reading text message on phone

Texts have become such a common part of life that saying something as personal as, "I love you" in them is no longer thought to be weird. However, sometimes saying it in a text message can feel impersonal. Learn a few ways to say I love you that neither your partner nor you will ever find trite!

Text Messages to Say I Love You

Use these ideas for telling someone you love them by text. There are many options to choose from depending on what you'd like to share with your partner.

Thinking of You

Send a text message telling your partner that you're looking forward to seeing him/her for some reason and that you love him/her. Here are a few examples:

  • "I can't wait for dinner tomorrow night. I love spending time with you. Oh, I love you too ;)"
  • "I had so much fun with you yesterday. So excited to see you later, love you xo!"

Praising the Expert

Ask your partner about something you know that he/she is knowledgeable about and slip it in at the end. Examples include:

  • "What drill bit do I need for this box? I know you'd know--it's part of why I love you!"
  • "What's the recipe for that delicious (insert dish) you cooked the other night- I'm so lucky I'm in love with a gourmet chef!"

Cheering Up

If you know your partner had a bad day, try to pick his/her day up by telling them a reason that you love him/her. Try texting something like:

  • "I'm sorry your day went badly--but I love you and I know that your optimism will get you through!"
  • "I'm thinking of you and I love you so much - hope your day gets better."

Wishing You a Goodnight

Smiling man texting in bed

Before bed, send your partner a quick note to wish him/her a good night. Try something such as:

  • "I'm heading to bed but I just wanted to say that I love you and hope you have sweet dreams!"
  • "I hope you have a great snooze- I love you so much."

Just Because

Just send a quick note telling your partner that you love him/her. No need to sugarcoat or hide it. Sometimes, that is all that is necessary. You can say:

  • "I love you. Just wanted to say that."
  • "Just wanted to tell you how much I love and adore you."

Loving Their Quirks

A sweet text can mean the world to your partner. Try sending them:

  • "I love how serious you are about watching (insert sports)- I love that about you."
  • "I love your obsession with (insert food or favorite show)- just one reason why I love you so much."

Why Say It in a Text

To some, it might seem odd to tell someone that you love him/her in a text message, but texting how much you love someone has become the norm. A few reasons why some people tell the one they love about how they feel in a text message include:

  • Being somewhere that you cannot make a phone call. For example, if you are not allowed to use your cell phone for calls at work but still want to stay in touch with your partner, you might tell him/her that you're thinking about him/her in a text.
  • Being somewhere with poor cell phone reception. For many of the major cell phone carriers, it is hard to make calls in areas of poor service. However, you can often send a text message with what you're thinking, even in a bad service area.
  • Not wanting to interrupt your partner. Perhaps you know your partner is busy in the laboratory all day or driving all night and you don't want to break his/her focus with a phone call. A text message is a quick way to make your partner's day better.
  • Sending a text message for no reason other than saying, I love you!

Tips for Sending Love-Loaded Texts

Knowing how to send a sweet text can brighten your partner's day. When it comes to texting, you may want to keep the following tips in mind.

What to Avoid

  • Don't text your partner several times a day to tell him/her that you love him/her unless there is a good reason. Saying it too much in such an informal style might make it mean less.
  • Don't hold back. If you want to send your partner a text saying you love him/her, do it. If you are already with someone, there's no need to spend the day planning how to say it in a text.
  • Don't use a text message to tell your partner that you love him/her for the first time or to break up. Do it in person, if possible.
  • Don't text your love so much that you never end up calling him/her. While it can feel good to read it, it is often much better to hear that someone loves you.

Things You Should Do in Texting

  • Be honest. No matter how silly it is, if there is a reason you love your partner, it is okay to say it.
  • Give your partner time and let him/her text you too. You shouldn't be the only one texting. Wait for a response from him/her before you send another message.
  • Use texting as a way of staying in touch. A few texts throughout the day can keep any couple close--especially in a long distance relationship.

Texting Keeps the Fire Burning

No matter what stage of a relationship you are in, texting can help keep you in contact. While it can sometimes seem impersonal, texting your love to your partner can be a great way to keep the fires of love alive--even when neither of you are around!

Simple Text Messages to Say "I Love You"