Beginner's Guide to Singles Chat Rooms

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Looking for dates in singles chat rooms is an interesting experience. You can meet some great people this way. But you are also likely to meet people who you wish you hadn't. Telling the real people from the phonies is your biggest challenge. Think of yourself as a love detective when you chat with people, and keeping a sense of humor about it will help prevent you from getting too frustrated.

What Are Singles Chat Rooms?

Singles chat rooms are websites designed for single people to chat with each other. Chat Avenue is an example of one; see Free Chat Rooms for additional sites. More broadly defined, singles chat rooms are anywhere single people can talk with each other. This includes Internet Relay Chat (IRC) and even instant messaging programs like Yahoo Messenger.

How to Use a Chat Room

When you first log into a chat rooms, you will be asked to pick a username. Choose either a nickname or something more descriptive, such as your age and location. You can try and be creative if you want. Just don't use your real name.

After entering the chat room, you will see conversations that are already taking place. You may see ads once in a while, such as someone who posts the same message repeatedly at set time intervals. It can be confusing and even disorienting at first, so take some time to see what everyone is talking about by just observing.

Chances are you will most often see people asking what everyone's "ASL" is. ASL means age, sex and location. If you are a 25-year-old female living in Iowa, you could reply back with "25/F/IA". You may get tired of typing this all of the time, which is why a creative username is an option to consider. In this example, a username such as FarmersDaughter25 would let everyone know that you are a 25-year-old female. Your state isn't revealed, but people really don't need to know your location in order to enjoy a nice conversation.

Safety in the Chat Room

The major problem with singles chat rooms is you really don't know who you are talking with. Another problem is that the most often talked about subject is sex. Maybe this is fun to try sometime, but if you want to actually meet someone you'd consider dating, you'll quickly become annoyed by all the sex talk.

Begin all conversations assuming the other person either wants sex or money, or is all-around not who he or she seems to be. You know, just like you would at a bar or club. This will sufficiently keep your guard up to prevent you from being too disappointed, but don't harden yourself so much that you become unable to recognize genuine people. Don't give out your real name if someone asks for it. Don't give out this kind of information either:

  • Where you work
  • Social Security number
  • Phone number
  • Credit cards

Keeping your employment secret is more for your long-term safety. You may have some nice conversations with someone and eventually give your name. If that person turns out to be a phony or worse, you may receive unwelcome phone calls at work.

Reveal Your Feelings

While your personal information needs to remain secret, your feelings do not. Go ahead and tell the chat room you are frustrated about something and see if you can find a sympathetic person willing to listen. The anonymity and personal space of a chat room can be incredibly freeing. You may be able to discuss a sensitive topic with your keyboard that you never could with in person. So what if everyone knows your feelings-they don't know the person behind the feelings, and easing the emotional weight off of your chest just may open you up to finding someone interesting to add to your life!

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Beginner's Guide to Singles Chat Rooms