Choosing the Perfect Nickname for Your Lover


As you become closer as a couple, it's typical to develop cute nicknames for your lover.

The Origin of Nicknames

Most nicknames develop naturally over time as you get to know someone. They tend to come from the intimate moments shared together, often as inside jokes or terms of endearment. A nickname is often a symbol of an emotional bond between partners.

A Sign of Acceptance

While everyone has a name, a nickname is a special thing that is often just between two people. Your lover is likely the only one who calls you by your sweet nickname. Sometimes nicknames start as a way to say "I love you." They might be just one word and then morph into others, but what a nickname really represents is a token of acceptance and appreciation from the other person. It lets you know you are special.

Nicknames for Your Lover

There are some common nicknames that couples use. Many of these names can be taken and blended or mixed together to create unique nicknames. A nickname can also be a made up silly word.

For Girls

  • Angel
  • Gorgeous
  • Darling
  • Muffin
  • Princess

For Guys

  • Cowboy
  • Handsome
  • Hunk
  • Tiger
  • Cuddle Bear
  • Teddy Bear
  • Stud
  • Sugar Daddy

For Either

  • Baby
  • Honey
  • Babe
  • Sweetie
  • Hot Lips
  • Sugar Lips
  • Amore
  • Lover

How Nicknames Usually Work

Your lover will use your nickname in place of your real name, as a way to address you or get your attention. Most nicknames develop naturally as your relationship progresses, but not everyone has them. Some couples just prefer to use their real names, while others enjoy having sweet names for each other.

Also, anyone can have a nickname, from kids to pets to friends. Sometimes a nickname can stay with a person his/her entire life. With a lover, it depends on the person, your relationship stage, if you're just causally dating or if you're moving from friendship to couple.

Use Your Nickname With Care

While having a nickname with a lover shows you are closely bonded together, you shouldn't use the nickname too much in public. Other people, like friends and family, might find it maddening to listen to the cute nicknames back and forth all the time. Employers or teachers will especially not appreciate knowing your secret nickname and it could result in a lot of embarrassment. So keep your nicknames special by saving them for when you are alone or simply using them with care in public. Some great times to use nicknames include:

  • Text messages and email
  • Writing love letters
  • In the bedroom
  • During a heart-to-heart conversation
  • After an argument when you're making up
  • After you say, "I love you." (i.e., "I love you, baby.")

Test It Out

When it comes to finding nicknames for your lover, the options are endless. Find an endearing name that really fits your lover's personality and test it out to see how he or she responds. If you get the green light, you might have just created a nickname that sticks.

Choosing the Perfect Nickname for Your Lover