Things to Consider Before Losing Your Virginity

Losing Virginity

Losing your virginity occupies the mind of many young people and is the subject of numerous movies. You'll have sex countless times during your life, but there is only one first time. Make it memorable and enjoyable by taking it seriously and preparing for the experience.

Losing Virginity: How to Prepare

Losing virginity is often most enjoyable, and more romantic, when there is some advance preparation. Save the spontaneous sexual encounters for after you lose your virginity.


Make sure you have adequate time to be alone with your partner. This includes having time to spend together before and after having sex. You don't want to feel rushed, and you definitely don't want to be interrupted.


The backseat of a car is not a place to lose your virginity. It is cramped and not very private. Do it in a place where you will feel comfortable. A bedroom or hotel room are your best options.


Buy condoms or some other form of protection before you make love. Practice putting the condom on before the big night so that you won't be fumbling around when it matters most. Anything you can do to be more relaxed is a good thing.


Take your time enjoying each other before having sex. Foreplay will help both of you to get in the mood mentally, along with preparing your bodies physically. Make sure that he has an erection and that she is lubricated before you attempt intercourse.


Speaking of lubrication, you should buy some when you purchase condoms. KY and Astroglide are two popular brands that are usually located near the condoms in the pharmacy section. If the girl is a virgin, she is likely to be tight. Even if she has lots of natural lubrication, adding some extra will make the experience better for both of you.

What to Expect: Mentally and Physically

What you experience your first time will vary from couple to couple. It depends on factors such as:

  • How much non-intercourse sexual experience and knowledge the two of you have
  • Whether one or both partners are virgins
  • Your opinions and attitudes regarding sex
  • Comfort level with your partner
  • How alert or tired you are
  • The time of day and the time of the month

However, many couples share some common experiences.


Don't expect your first time to be a magical experience. Remember when you had your first kiss? It was exciting and fun, but also somewhat awkward. The best kisses came later after you had more experience and felt more comfortable. Sex is the same way. You'll always remember your first time, but you'll enjoy it far more the second time and beyond.

For girls losing virginity, expect your first time to hurt at least a little. This does not mean that you won't enjoy your first time, however. Have your partner go slow when he starts to penetrate. Withdraw and apply more lubrication if he is having trouble getting in.

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For boys, don't expect it to be like you see in the movies. It takes practice to learn how to move in ways that are pleasurable for you and her. You are also unlikely to last very long your first time because the sensations are so new.


It is possible that you'll feel emotional closer to your partner after sex. This is one of the reasons you should select your partner carefully. However, you may not notice any difference, at least not right immediately. It can take some time to process how you felt during sex and how you feel afterwards. Give yourselves some time to think about the experience before you discuss your feelings.

Losing Your Virginity

Sex is wonderful, but it is also worth waiting for. Like any new experience, what happens the first time can affect how you feel about the activity. Start your sex life in a good way by selecting the right person and finding the right time. Choose a partner that you love, respect and trust and who feels the same way about you. Have respect for losing virginity, but don't create too large an expectation because that will result in being let down. Enjoy the memorable experience and realize that it marks the beginning of sexual enjoyment, not the end.

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