8 Tips for Having Great Sex With Older Women

Crystal Schwanke
Contributor: Tamsen Butler
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Are you in a relationship with a woman more than a few years your senior, or do you just dream of having sex with an older woman and wonder what it would be like? The relationship - or sex - can be rewarding, if you know what to expect.

8 Tips for Sex With an Older Woman

All women are different, no matter their age. Open communication is the key to a fulfilling sexual relationship.

1. Embrace the Age Gap

If you're in a new relationship or you're looking to have sex with an older woman, keep in mind how different views on sex could be exacerbated by an age gap. A young man looking to "hook up" may not have the same outlook on sex as an older woman looking for a committed relationship. Men think of sex as a physical connection primarily, but women think of it as an emotional and physical one.

2. Consider Past Relationships

An older woman may even wonder if it's OK to be interested in someone much younger, so she could question her wishes to have sex with a younger man even if their relationship has been building over time. If she's recently divorced, she may wonder how soon is too soon to be interested in having sex with someone else-and fear that her interest in a much younger man is inappropriate or related to getting over the shock and pain of divorce. If a past relationship is still fresh in her mind, the progression to a sexual relationship with you might happen slower.

3. Make Sure She Feels Good About Her Body

Beautiful senior woman with long blond hair

Because everything isn't necessarily as taut and toned as before, an older woman may feel uncomfortable revealing her naked body to her younger lover for the first time, or even every time. For men, the key is to focus on her whole body and make sure you tell her you like what you see. For the older woman, the trick is lingerie! Not only will it intensify the intimacy, but a well-placed undergarment can instantly enhance and hide the parts of your body that you choose.

4. Reassure Yourself the Relationship Is Acceptable

Unless a person is under legal age, there is nothing wrong with having sex with a younger man. However, be aware of the challenges - both in your feelings and others. Remind yourself that age is only in your mind!

5. Take Your Time

Sex with an older woman should be slower and more thoughtful. No longer are you needing to find time for a "quickie!" Enjoy the leisurely pace.

6. Wisdom Is Sexy

An older woman has been around the block a few times when it comes to sex. She knows what she likes, and she knows a few tricks. Make sure to let her take the lead and show you what she can do.

7. Changing Hormones Come Into Play

Older women do respond to sex different from younger women, but it is not consistent. For some, they become significantly more interested as hormones shift. Others find themselves less interested due to dryness issues or other discomforts. Don't expect an older woman to have a specific sex drive. There is not a one size fits all when it comes to changing hormones.

8. They Know What They Want

Older women know how to flirt, they have years of practice. They also know how to be clear if they want sex or not. Whatever signals she sends - that is what she wants. All you have to do is ask her, and you will get a clear answer.

Safety Advice

Older women may experience arthritis or general aches and pains later in the day or may awaken feeling stiff from the night's sleep. Talk to her about what time of day is most comfortable for her in general and plan your intimacy for those times. She'll be more likely to feel amorous (and more flexible!) during those peak hours of the day.

STD Prevention

Even if a woman is past the age of childbearing and can't get pregnant, she is still susceptible to sexually transmitted diseases, no matter her age. Older women may have STDs that have laid dormant for years and can pass these along unknowingly to present partners. Condoms are still a good idea when having sex with an older woman, not as pregnancy prevention, but for STD protection.

Enjoy Your Relationship

If you are an older woman interested in pursuing a relationship with a younger guy, know that it is completely acceptable, but also be aware of the challenges. If you're a young man involved with an older woman, understand that you may need to go out of your way to quell her fears about her body or the longevity of your relationship. Take time to get to know each other and commit on physical and emotional levels, and you can both feel completely fulfilled and happy within your intimate relationship.

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8 Tips for Having Great Sex With Older Women