10 Important First Date Questions

Marcelina Hardy, MSEd, BCC
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First date questions can help you find out whether you want to go on a second date with someone. First impressions are everything, so you want to make sure you ask the right questions in the right way. Read on to find out some of the best questions to ask on a first date.

Communicating with Your Date: First Date Questions

Keep in mind that the person you are going out with is probably just as nervous as you are. You want to try your best not to make a fool of yourself, but if you stutter or say the wrong thing, don't worry; chances are the person is too self-conscious about him or herself to notice.

When asking first date questions, be sure to ask him or her while in a discussion. You don't want to start firing off questions and making your date feel uncomfortable. Pay attention to how the person is handling the questions, if you sense your date doesn't like the question you asked, do not push the issue.

Important Questions to Ask Your Date

  • What do you enjoy doing for fun?

This will help you determine what you should plan for subsequent dates. It will show how interested you are in your date's likes and dislikes.

  • What types of movies do you enjoy watching?

You can tell if this will be a form of entertainment you can enjoy together. You can tell a lot about a person by the movies he or she watches.

  • How do you feel about - insert an important issue here?

Don't go in depth about politics or religion but choose one thing that you feel strongly about. This question is helpful if you are turned off by incompatible views.

  • When was your last relationship?

Some people do not like talking about their past relationships especially on the first date. However, it's important that you know if your date has had time to heal from a previous relationship. Pay attention to how your date responds and if you sense he or she is uncomfortable do not approach the topic again.

  • Did you break up with the person or did the person break up with you?

If your date was okay with answering the previous question, feel free to explore this one. This question will help you find out if your date might still have feelings for his or her ex; usually people who break up with someone have already let go of feelings before the break up occurred.

  • What are some of your goals in life?

It may be important for you to find someone who is ambitious and who knows where he or she is going in life. You may find out that you have similar goals, which will bring you closer together.

  • What are some of your pet peeves?

Pay close attention to the answer because you may have to make minor adjustments to your behaviors or actions so you don't irritate your date.

  • What's your family like?

You can learn a lot about a person by listening to how he or she talks about his or her family and what type of family he or she comes from.

  • What do you do for work and do you like it?

Find out what type of job he or she has and if it's stressful for him or her. This might tell you if the person has time for a relationship and if your date mentally brings his or her work home.

  • If you had three wishes, what would they be?

This is a fun question that could lead to interesting discussion.

Answer What You Ask

Be careful of the questions you choose to ask because most likely, you will have to answer them too. If you don't feel comfortable answering a question yourself don't expect your date to answer it.


Remember, it's best to ask first date questions when there is an awkward moment of silence or during a discussion of a similar topic. Have fun with these questions and learn about the person who may just end up as your soul mate.

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10 Important First Date Questions