12 Subtle Signs Someone Has a Crush on You

Marcelina Hardy, MSEd, BCC
Contributor: Tamsen Butler
Girl and boy flirting

You might be asking yourself, does someone have a crush on me? It can be hard to tell whether someone is just being a good friend or if he or she has a romantic interest in you. Some people are naturally loving to others, which can make it appear like they have a romantic interest. This is what makes it hard to determine whether someone has a crush on you. The good news is that there are ways to know if someone likes you more than a friend.

Does Someone Have a Crush on Me?

The easiest way to find out if someone likes you romantically is to come right out and ask, "Do you like me?" However, this can be embarrassing and make the relationship awkward afterward. There are subtle ways to know without coming out and asking directly. Common signs someone has a crush on you can help you answer that burning question: "Does she have a crush on me?" or "Does he have a crush on me?"

Staring

Your potential love interest stares at you while you are in the middle of something or talking to someone. He or she may look away when you catch them staring at you, or might hold eye contact as if they're trying to memorize your features.
Boy staring at girl

Smiling

Smiling can be involuntary when there's genuine elation about seeing someone. Pay close attention if the smile encompasses their entire face, lighting up their eyes. Big, genuine smiles indicate happiness and can indicate a crush.

Winking

While it's true that friends can wink at each other without it indicating attraction, you might wonder what it means when they wink at you. If the person doesn't generally wink at others but starts picking up the habit of winking at you playfully, this can indicate flirtatious behavior resulting from a crush.

Laughing

An increase in laughing or giggling at your jokes or just in normal conversations can signal romantic feelings or nervousness about being near a crush. People with crushes want the person to whom they're attracted to feel good about themselves and the time spent together, making laughter and lightheartedness a good indication of attraction.

Interest in Your Life

He or she becomes overly interested in your hobbies and your close friends. It is a way for him or her to get closer to you and know more about you and open up potential future conversations.

Behavior Changes

When you first met this person, he or she may have acted much differently than he or she does now. This behavior change is usually dramatic and there is no mistaking that something has changed. Sometimes behavior changes when a person realizes an attraction is there, particularly when they realize it's evolved into a full-blown crush.

Finding Reasons to Talk

You may receive calls to ask you a simple question that he or she could have found the answer to elsewhere much more easily. Your crush probably craves more interactions with you an will find excuses for them.

Increased Time Spent Together

This person suddenly changes his or her plans to spend more time with you. Your potential love interest may make excuses so you will spend more time with him or her. If you look at your schedule and suddenly realize the other person has worked their way into most of your days or evenings, this can be a good indication that it's intentional because they want to be with you.

Popping Up Everywhere

You start running into your friend in places you normally never see him or her, especially if you visit that place frequently. If you share locations on social media, there's a chance they keep an eye on this or perhaps ask friends where you'll be.

Making plans

Your friend invites you to events in the future. This is a good way to ensure that you are available later on so he or she can spend additional time with you. The more effort they put into spending time with you, the better the chances that there's a crush there.

Touching More

Your potential love interest starts to touch you on the arm, back or hand more than normal while talking. This is a primal desire to connect with you since they have a crush on you.

Teens holding hand by a lake

Friend's Help

If you have a friend who is also close to the suspected love interest, he or she can ask about interest in you. Usually done without the person thinking you know anything about it, this person can say something like, "I noticed you are acting different, do you have a crush on him or her?" Alternatively, if you notice the other person's friends asking you about your feelings, it may be that they're fulfilling a request from the person who has a crush on you.

The Knowledge of Having a Crush

If you answered yes to most of the above attributes than you probably have someone who likes you romantically. Now, it is up to you what you want to do with this information. If you feel the same way, this is your chance to move forward.

Feeling the Same Way

Of course, you may still be afraid that you are wrong about how the other person feels about you so move slowly. Give the person more attention and notice the reaction. Start making plans with the person and use some of the same attributes above to show that you are interested as well.

Letting Your Crush Down Easy

Alternatively, if you do not want to move forward, try to find ways to let your love interest know you are not interested. Simply avoid some of the advances such as changing your schedule or hurrying conversations because you have somewhere else to go. After some time, he or she will either understand or grow tired of the chase since you are not feeding into it.

Is a Crush Love?

A crush can mean different things to different people. For some, "I have a crush," actually means, "I'm falling in love." Most frequently, however, a crush indicates an attraction and a desire to get to know someone better. An initial crush can easily evolve into something more or can result in a friendship; there's no way to predict the trajectory of any relationship starting with a crush. Remember that feelings can change and attraction can wane, so crushes can certainly be temporary.

12 Subtle Signs Someone Has a Crush on You