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very true. us women have a sixth sense when it comes to these things i think we just choose to ignore that nagging feeling in our gut. but these signs are 100% correct.

-- Contributed by: landi

Heart Broken,

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-- Contributed by: Debbie Vasen

I have been with my boyfriend for a little over 3 years and we have a daughter. I have a son from a previous relationship and my boyfriend is mean to him. We fight all the time and he usually starts the argument and leaves right away. He ran downstairs to use his cell phone in the garage when it rang the other day. Then he came up stairs off of the phone. He has been with other women before and fooled around on the internet ever since we have been together. He also calls me a failure of a girlfriend and a failure of a mother. He loves to talk down to me. Especially if I want to talk about something really important he loves to talk about how I have no common sense. He takes every opportunity to be disrepectful and be hurtful and then says "I don't disrespect you" then he makes you feel like he never said anything at all and you made it all up in your head. Then he gets upset and leaves. He loves to leave just a little too much. I can't go anywhere unless I take the kids with me because he says he is trapped at home. He has to be gone if I have somewhere to go. If I want to know where he is this angers hime too. I landed a rel winner!

-- Contributed by: Heart Broken

For those of you who write, asking if your boy or girl friend is cheating... keep this in mind. Cheating is often a symptom of problems in a relationship. Try to start working on what is wrong with the two of you first, before you spend so much time looking for signs of cheating.

You also should read some of the advice given by our dating coach to these readers:

-- Contributed by: Debbie Vasen

I've noticed that my boyfriend has been spending more time with friends, we fight all the time, and he accused me of cheating on him with his friend on Thursday 4/09/08. What should I do, talk to him in person, on the phone, or write him a note and give it to him, then go in the shower or something while he reads it so he has time to think about his responce?

-- Contributed by: Sarah

My boyfriend and I have been together for about 3 years. Quite awhile ago, my boyfriend told me to feel free to look at his phone whenever. I don't usually snoop through it.. but sometimes i'll pick it up and look at his calls. Just the other night as i was going through his calls, he said, "you know how i told you to feel free to look through my phone awhile ago?" i said, "yes..." he said, "well that doesn't mean that at every chance you have, you can go through my calls and be all suspicious.." i replied with, "i hardly ever pick up your phone, let alone go through your calls" and he said, "well why are you asking me what i do after you leave and go home, and who i hang out with all the time when you aren't around?" and i said, "well,, i think its normal for a girlfriend to ask their boyfriend what they're up to.. out of curiousity!" -- and then he just shut up for awhile... later that night, i had his phone, and took a picture.. he demanded that i give his phone back. and i didn't even have it for long. Just long enough to take a picture. I remember as i was leaving, he was calling someone.. and i had left his house close to 2. The next day, I happened to have his phone.. looked at the calls, and there was no call history for that time. This has been bugging me ALL day, could something be up? or am i overreacting??

-- Contributed by: amber

my boyfriend and i have been together for a year and things were fine in the beginning. things are changing more that ive noticed like we spend less time together, we fight about little things that dont matter, he always want to be with his friend and hes starting to accuse me of cheating on him. he want us to move in together and im not sure if is a good idea. he gets mad when i spend money or if im on another call with family. i have a son from my last relationship and i think it bothers him. he has kids of his own and sees them often. lately ive been kinda feeling like hes cheating on me and when i ask him hell say no youre the one i want and love. i need some advise on what i should do. should i stay with him and try to work things out to see if they get better or should i just leave?

-- Contributed by: jennifer

I found a strange number in my boyfriends cell phone, I had a bad filling in my stomach and wrote it down. I later asked him whose it was and he said it was his bosses. the feeling in my stomach wouldn't go away, so i called it and a girl answered.i asked him again whose it was because i wanted him to be honest with me even if it was a girl friend, but he got really upset and said it was his boss and that i need to stop overreacting, should i be suspicious of him cheating?

-- Contributed by: crystal

Heather, thanks for the question. I don't suspect he is cheating on you unless there are other indicators of cheating going on. Instead, I think he is a very controlling person with a possible jealous streak as well. It doesn't sound like you are enjoying the relationship and I suggest you start looking for a boyfriend that will treat you better.

-- Contributed by: Rick Fulks

my boyfriend always accuses me of cheatin on him..n hes always gettin ...ed bout lil things..especially if i want out with my friends..hes allowed to hangout with his friends but im not allowed to..does this mean that he could be cheating on me..

-- Contributed by: heather

Dear Brenda, I'm really sorry to hear that you and your boyfriend broke up. Even if he didn't cheat on you, all the texting and calling with that girl friend was not the best thing for your relationship together. My advice is to take some time for yourself to heal. When you are ready, start looking for a guy who will realize that he has found a great woman in you.

-- Contributed by: Rick Fulks

Dear Lizzie, I'm sorry to hear that your boyfriend cheated but I'm glad the two of you are back together. It is possible to move past cheating, but it will take time and effort. The sense of trust that is lost must be rebuilt and it takes time for that to happen. You really need to be asking yourself if you love your boyfriend enough to want to make this effort. If you want to give it a try, start by talking about your feelings with your boyfriend. You need to air all your feelings instead of bottling them up. He needs to know how much it hurt you, but he also needs to know that you want to work on repairing the relationship. Next, try to kind of "start over" in your relationship. Don't focus on your future together and whether it will work. Instead, have fun and focus on why you fell in love in the first place. If after trying this you still can't get over your hurt feelings, then its probably best that you find a new boyfriend. I hope that the pain eases soon and the answer becomes clear to you.

-- Contributed by: Rick Fulks

Dear Mariah, thanks for the question. Your suscipions are justified since he has cheated in the past. However, you also need to look at the signs, or lack of signs in his case. If he is really cheating again, you will probably begin to notice suspcious behavior based on fact rather than feelings. It could be that he feels sorry about cheating and learned how bad it can feel when his ex-girlfriend cheated on him. He may in fact really love you as he says. Enjoy your time together and don't worry about cheating until you see concrete evidence.

-- Contributed by: Rick Fulks

My boyfriend whom I just recently decided not to see anymore did some things that led me to believe he was seeing other women or another woman. First when I was over at his house and we were intimate with each other and he would receive phone calls and not answer them. AT first this didn't bother me but then he would always keep his cell phone right by his side. He also started spending a lot of time on the internet. I know he said he was trying to get a home business going but when I walked into the room when he was on the computer I notice he would switch from his email back to his stock site and then stop and look at me. He would tell me he would be finished on the computer in a minute. He also said that he didn't have a lot of money to spend and go out, but he always found time to go out to bars, restaurants and whatever with his friends. He also had a friend who is a girl that he said is just a friend and she is constanly calling him and texting him. I tried to talk with him about our relationship and he would just say we have had these conversations before and he can't take it. We dated for five years and I do love him and still do. I hope that one day he realizes that he had a great woman and he just was too messed up to realize it.

Sincerely Brenda

-- Contributed by: Brenda

My boyfriend had cheated on me and we are trying to move past it. Is it possible to do that? What should I do about how I feel about it and getting past the pain of being hurt?

-- Contributed by: Lizzie

2 years ago i was dating a guy then he dumped me for a girl. he still cheated on her with me. then that girl cheated on him and the broke up. now were back together and i wonder if he's cheating on me. non of the signs fit in cause i'm always around him and if his family can't get a hold of him it's me who does. he always holding my hand and holding me and kissing me and every morning he says " I Love you" he calls me a lot too but i dont know hes very sneeky am i parenoid?

-- Contributed by: mariah
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