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Hi Kiara,

Trust is the foundation of a relationship. If you don't have that, you won't be happy in the relationship. This trust is even more important when you have a long distance relationship. You need to decide if you can let go of what happened and stop wondering if he is cheating on you, if you can't, then it's best to not pursue a relation with him. You can find someone else who you will love AND have complete faith in. Good luck to you.

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

Hello everybody , well i found this website cuz i guess i have the same issues as everybody , and by that i mean trust , this is a short story of how i met the guy i love , it wasa about 6 years ago , im hispanic , he is dutch , well i was taking english classes and i decide to get more practice on chats , we met on ares , a lot of good quimic since the first day , we became very good friends , in 08 we decide to start something, offocourse it was in the distance but it was beautiful , i felt that he was the one i could put my whole trust and opened my heart , he is the kind of guy that likes to hang out with his friends , he is not the typic party guy or the player lol , but once he deside to go into a lowands concert 08 , i was scared cuz he will be gone for 4 days , i was very afraid that he might cheat on me.. everyday i only wanted to sleep cuz i didnt want to think whats he doing , and the times he called me there was a lot of noise we couldnt even talk well , he left me a voice mail saying he loves me but he was drunk... on the day he was comming back to his place , i was online and so was he , deepest inside me i was very happy to know he was home , but then he said that he needed to talk to me , we all know what that phrase means , he said he got drunk and he kissed a girl 3 times , you know when i read that i didnt know how to react , i only decide to run away , i was very dissapointed very upset very bad , he sent me emails everyday , called me saying he was sorry but i cant just forget. in 09 he came to my country for 1 month , i wont deny it was very beautiful but this is killing me , there were times when i said to myself i want to let him go cuz he doesnt deserve to be with someone that has been hurt in the past , he never had a relationship , he only had relationship of 1 week and stuff , so i just dont know. i cant trust each time he is out and it kills me .. i really need help , hope someone can help me

-- Contributed by: KIARA ALARCO

Terry,

Your girlfriend needs time. If you are willing to wait for her to heal than you can regain her trust. It takes a long time to trust someone after cheating. You both will need to work on it. If possible, seek out counseling for the reasons for your cheating and lies. You can also do couples counseling to help you get your relationship back. Good luck.

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

Ashley,

There's not much more you can do at this point but be patient and let your boyfriend heal. He is hurt by the infidelity and will need time to rebuild trust in you. This is not going to happen quickly and if you want to recover, you will need to wait for however long it takes him. He probably doesn't want to tell his family/friends because he's afraid of the ridicule he will receive. His family and friends love him and want the best for him, which is why they are protective of him. In this situation, not only are you fighting to win back your boyfriend's trust but the trust of his loved ones as well. If he means as much to you as you say, keep working on it and everyone will begin to have faith in you again.

Just a warning though, if your boyfriend can't get over you cheating, take the lessons you learned in this relationship about trust and remember them for the future. Good luck to you!

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

Hi, me and my boyfriends relationship has been shakey for the last month. he says he loves me but he never shows it. the only time he wants to be with me is whenever he has freetime and if i have something to do im suppose to drop everything. everyone has been trying to break us up they say were nothing a like. but were like pepper and salt completely different but perfect together. well 3 different people told me he cheated on me. then he went to a different state to visit his friends and he couldnt call or text me because he had no service there well i was so insecure that he might be cheating on me that i turned around and cheated on him. he found out and ended the relationship. were working on things again but he refuses to tell his friends or family about us retrying. this makes me insecure to and it causes tension. how can i get him to tell people about us and rebuild the trust. i love him with all my heart and i didnt mean to heart him i just felt hurt myself. and once i found otu the truth that he never did any of that..i realized how bad i messed up and id do anything for it to be the same again please help me

-- Contributed by: ashley

Hi, my gilfriend doesn't trust me and Im not sure how to regain her trust. She says that she wants to but sometimes she gives up on. Well first she doesn't trust me because for the last four years we have been off and on in our relationship and I cheated on her numerous times and lied over and over again. She wants to trust me she just doesn't know if she can. She doesn't know how to trust me after all that i did. I have explained to her that I would never hurt her again and i understand the damage that i did to her and if she was willing to give me another chance i would show her that i can be trustworthy and faithful. Even after all that i have done she still wants to be with me, how can i get her to trust me again?

-- Contributed by: terry
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