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LOVE IS KIND CARING BUT CAN SOMETIMES BE HARSH AND CONDITIONAL

-- Contributed by: TEE AND VICKY WHITE

This is very interesting. I needed to know this.

-- Contributed by: Glenda

Abbey, I'm sorry to hear about your baby. You have certainly been through a lot lately and it can have an impact on your relationships. The two of you should talk about how you are really feeling. Get him to explain exactly why he doesn't feel like you are showing him your love. It could be that the two you really still do love each other but are just not expressing it in the way the other person needs. I also suggest seeing a therapist together to discuss the issue and just as importantly, to help you recover from the loss of your baby.

-- Contributed by: Rick Fulks

Jonny, thanks for the question. Letting go of someone you love is a very difficult thing to do. It sounds like she needs to work through some issues on her own that have nothing to do with you. Your options are to break up and move on or wait for her. I think you should take some time to think about it before making a decision. You might want to give her a period of time that you decide on, say a few months for example, and then try and find out how she is doing at that time. If she is recovering, then decide if you want to wait some more. Many successful couples do breakup at one point before getting back together. You should follow your heart but also don't be blind to this situation since it could be a long time before she resolves her issues.

-- Contributed by: Rick Fulks

Confusedfrenzy, thanks for the question. I'm sorry to hear that you are having problems with your girlfriend. Instead of expressing your feelings on Friendster and texting back and forth, try telling her how you feel in person or on the phone. As for not having anything to talk about on the phone, that is sometimes an indication that two people are not a good fit for each other. If you talk everyday on the phone, try doing it less often so you'll have more to talk about. Also try thinking of some topics before you get on the phone, or just start telling her what's on your mind about whatever interests you that day.

-- Contributed by: Rick Fulks

My boyfriend and i are together nearly two years.we love eachother.but 5 months ago we had a bad break up a week later i discovered i was pregnent we got bk together and our love felt stronger.during my pregnency i was very sick he looked after me alot and rang me alot of times during the day.i sadly lost the baby, a few days later we were talking on the phone and a little argument started and he was saying i dont show that i love him i only care for myself and that i just dont seem bothord and we need to have a serious talk.he said he feels like i dont love him.but plenty of times a day we tell eachother we do.we spend a lot of time together.he already has a young daughter.he is a few years older than me.i want to no is this relationship coming to an end and did we only get back together for the sake of the baby.???

-- Contributed by: Abbey

I've known my g/f for almost a year and i started dating her 7 months ago and we tok all the right steps we were not trying to move things to fast. then she used an excuse as a way to get out. But after talking with her she still wants me and loves me but needs to fix herself and for that to happen i am not to talk to her or anything. I mean is there really such a thing as if you love someone you let them go and if it was ment to be they will come back but what are the chances that this will happen? Or if she doesn't want to talk anymore how can i still fight to keep her.

-- Contributed by: Jonny

Hi. My girlfriend and I have been together for more than a month. Recently, there was this guy, who was her ex-classmate,who would call her up and chat on the phone with her roughly everynight. After that, she would start saying how chatty and nice this guy is, and how he would bother to do things such as sing songs and entertain her. After hearing that, I started to feel jealous and why I'm always being compared to others. Usually when I talk to my girlfriend privately on the phone, we would always have a lack of topics and subjects to talk about.Then, I would feel pressured as to why I cannot think of any nice topic where both of us can happily chat about, while that guy can. After the phone call, I expressed my feelings on Friendster, indicating how pressured i felt and my emotions at that point of time.

The following day, she came across it and started to reply me via text-messaging and MSN, in short 'Nos' and 'Yes'. I asked her whether she was angry at me but she just said she was ok. Earlier that morning, we had some problems regarding the phone call but it was resolved not long after.

Please tell me what I should do as I still love her and will not give up so easily.

-- Contributed by: confusedfrenzy

Gerrit, I'm sorry to hear about your girlfriend. Getting your girlfriend back starts with understanding why she broke up. Was it something you said or did? Or is she seeing someone else now? You will need to address whatever issues led to the breakup by determining whether it's something that can be fixed. Talking with her is fine, but it's possible she may need a little space. Backing away from someone you love is very difficult. But by giving her time to think things through, all the while experiencing life without you for a while, may help her clarify her own feelings about you and your relationship. She could decide to remain apart from you, but she might also decide she still does like you and wants to start dating again.

-- Contributed by: Rick Fulks

Hello, My Girlfriend broke up with about 2 weeks ago. I did not want this to happen, she seemed very cold when she did it. I am still in shock and so confused by this. I love her so much and I miss her so much it hurts. We still talk a few times a week. I want her back but I don't know how to do it. Can you please help me figure out how to do this? She still loves me I can hear it in her voice. When I see her I can still see love in her eyes. Please help me get her back.

-- Contributed by: Gerrit

Metha,

The most important piece of a truly loving relationship is communication. Please talk to him about your feelings.

Good luck!

-- Contributed by: Debbie Vasen

Hi, my name is Metha (22 y.o), I'm from Indonesia.

Can you give me some advice? I have 4 years relationship with my boyfriend (26 y.o). And now, he begin often lie to me. pretend he is sick and pretend go to hospital (after I check to his house, he was in his house). He do some like that when I or we have a trouble. He seems like want to run from the problem or uncomfort situation.

I have think to say to him that I already know that he lie. But I'm scared if that idea will make the situation worst, like he try looking another way to close his faults.

Help meeee.....please.. !-! What must I do?

-- Contributed by: Metha

It is also important to keep in mind that long lasting love relationships take a lot of work. Too many couples give up too quickly after an arguement. Be realistic and realize that love is truly a roller coaster and the low times are important learning experiences.

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