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Reading the above article and detail about a married man in an affair with a single girl hurts me even more than breaking up with the lady I have loved for three years - nearly. Im married and intimacy is zero. I stay for my children and another very important personal reason - which will fortunately have a conclusion in a few years, but cant be discussed here (family matter). But I am not staying because I love my wife. She has made it clear time and again that she dosent love me anymore on more than one occassion over the last 20-years. She has even encouraged me to go to a massage parlour if I needed relief as she is no longer intimate with me (not my style Im afraid - guys, it aint a nice feeling having permissin to do that - trust me). I have never had a problem in being a friend to female work colleagues, or any lady I happen to meet. I am sociable and am usually the witty one in the group (der). I never took anything futher with anyone until I was caught like a rabbit in the headlights with the most capitvating beautfiul lady I happen to have met at salsa. I fell in hook, line and sinker. I fell head over heels and so did she. She awoke my spirit, my soul...my very being. I wrote her songs (Im musical), poems (eh). My creative side went into overdrive. I just wanted to please her. Hear her voice, smell her scent, touch her hand, hold her close..in my arms. We fell for each other hard. In a short time, we were having an affair. Excitement, intimacy (eventually), spiritually. She was there for me and I was there for her. Everything was beautiful. I should have left my wife to spend my life with this beautiful gentle caring creature - as there is n love at home. My lover is not a natural mistress and Im not a natural liar, but we had both stepped over the line...felt wrotten when we werent together, but felt right when we were. However we were living a lie...stolen moments, going to dances together with the blessing of my wife (God I feel sick about that now). But I didnt leave my wife for her...and I dont know why. We didnt start out to be together, but love took over. But my cowardness has made her re-evaluate the situation - rightly so. To cut a long story (ongoing) to a shorter one, she made an effort to start dating. I was even supportive, but it cut like a knife. We got back together again, but she caught the eye of someone else. She needs to be with this single guy (who is actually a really nice chap - I met him at salsa). The situation though is tearing us apart. We have both been really desperate. Tears (I dont cry...ever, but I have done over her). I cant concentrate on my business anymore. I constantly check my email and texts for any scrap of communication. Now it doesnt arrive (we pre-arranged for comms to stop for a bit - to give each other a break so we could breath). It doesnt help though. She is stronger than me, however we have both been on the floor with breaking up with each other. But we know we cant go on like this. I hear from mutual friends who have no idea we were once together as to how they are now getting on. It tears me apart. I am trying so hard to let go and the only thing that keeps me going is my promise to myself not to let her down...to give her the freedom and reciprical love and support she deserves....what I couldnt give on a regualr basis (snatched moments you see when you have an affair). The hurt is that niether of us have anyone to talk to about it...not in the way a friend would support you when a normal relationship might end. As I type, my loss aches..selfish...I know. I have lost my lover, I have let myself down (even my wife), and I dont know what to do. Every day I wake and think of her (it seems like I think about here every 5 or 10-mins. I stop myself from texting, calling and emailing her. I promised myself I would let her go - to allow my most precious beautiful lover to be free in her life. God bless my bella luna. God bless..and Im so sorry. I miss you..and I always will x (teary now). T

-- Contributed by: married man loses salsa lover

I think dating a married is not a bad thin if you know how to play your card right.i have ben dating a married man for about 3years now nd it realy worked good because we love each other.so i say go for but be careful though.

-- Contributed by: Lorraine

Sometimes you cant help when a friendships turns to more. However unlike a well scripted movie its a bad mistake and a dilemma I wish upon nobody.

-- Contributed by: stan the lobster

Very true analysis done, ppl don't think once what they are doing and what would be the after effect of all this ....

In case where a women loves a married man and then get married then she totally put her in a mess, she can not take interest in her Hubby and finally one day when her hubby come to know her affair its too late...take it serious all ladies because the man who the wife is dating before marriage has nothing to loose, he will remain in his home but that woman will suffer.

What would happen if husband ask her wife to borne a baby from their marriage and wife plan to have a child from her married affair partner and then one day before they do this all come to know the poor husband who only loves his wife like anything...would not he dishearted???

would not its his right to leave such a cheap woman who is his wife?

friends, this all happen to me, now my wife wants to come back, but this is too late, she has left me in a deadlock in which divorce is solution....again my questionwhen woman finally understand this then why they don't take care it well before in time when her hubby knows nothing about her relationship with other man...i would say think ladies, how much it is good on moral and humanity grounds.

-- Contributed by: melody

Steve,

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-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

how do i find married women in my area ( zip 24073 ) who want to have a affair with a married man

-- Contributed by: Steve
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