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Lori, There is a boy in my class and I've always loved him, and he knows this. We're best friends and i wanted it to be that way but something went wrong. He kept on asking,"Who do you like?", and i thought this was a chance for me to tell him, and find out if he likes me. I knew that previously he liked my best friend. But when were together i feel like he likes me. It's complicated..some just say that's just how love is. I need help. I don't know if he likes me or not and I want to ask him if he like me but im to afraid we wont speak at all...Like before. We talk, hang out, and we always seem to stare at each other. Like in your article of "How do i know a boy likes me?" i realized how some of the things are what he does. It's hard for us to make eye contanct anymore, and he used to stare at me ALL the time. My friend even saw him during reading. I would like it if you could help me...ther's more to say but i don't wnat to write it all, haha. Well I hope you write back soon.

Love, TroubleInParadise

-- Contributed by: TroubleInParadise

Lori i have been dating my boyfriend for 3 months now and i can honestly say i love him and i want to be with him for ever. But lately he been wanting to have sex. I would go back in forth. I would tell him that i want to but at the last second he will ask me if i really want to have sex and i would change my mind and say no. I really want to say yes wjen he ask me that but he doesn't want to use a condom so i dont want to take the chance to get pregnant and ruin both of our lives. When i tell him that he will tell me that you can't get pragnant the first time you have sex but i doubt that. I truley love him but the look in his eyes when he finds out that he isn't getting sex is painful to me. So instead he will try to finger me, try to get me to give him a hand job or blow job. At first things we great and just being togeather is the only thing we wanted but now that we spend almost all the time togeather its making things harder. It feels like I'm not ready to have sex but how do i tell him that. The last thing i want is to hurt him or ruin what we have.

-- Contributed by: Raven

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-- Contributed by: Debbie Vasen

Dear Lori, It has been a year since I last sought your advise. I thank you again from the depth of my being for guiding me through the initial stages of dating especially the phone skills & way to approach her during the wedding night.

Your advise on using mirror while talking on phone is what I still use when I feel a bit gloomy.I keep a smile when talking & the joyous mood returns often . Sharing the events during the day helps with sharing our lives.

I hardly ever had a dull day with her during our over a year of marriage.

I am now at another crucial juncture of my life. We are expecting our first child around Sept 5th.

I ensured that she never feel ignored during the pregnancy. She has been living with her parents during the last trimester.

I have called her without missing a single day . And by the same method ( Phone Skills you advised on during dating) ,I found our conversation would be on average over an hour a day. Her voice , eagerness tells me that she must be liking it as well.

My main purpose was to convey to her that I love her & despite all the hectic schedule of mine at work, I can always find time for her.

Now my concern & question :

1) What Changes should I expect in her behavior for next 3-6 months after the child is born ? ( I mean if there are any typical behavior pattern of a new mother)

2) I find her attractive & I have frequently told her so. But how do I ensure that she continues to feel liked .

3) I heard sex is best avoided for quite weeks after delivery . I feel the pangs but I do not want to hurt her. I am afraid if I abstain too long she may feel I do not now find her sexually attractive. What do I do ?

4)I plan to take a break from my job of over 8 years. I have decided to pursue studies further ( One year -MBA Program ). I will have option to keep my wife & children with me at the institute family hostel or she can stay with my parents / her parents . The program starts in 6 months time from now. What sort of preparations do you think I should be making so that my wife & child also are taken care of ( The MBA program is sure to take away lots of my time). I am afraid my wife may feel neglected during the study period.

Regards Dhiman

-- Contributed by: Dhiman

Lori I have been knowing my ex for seven years, and out of the seven years 4 years we were a couple. I love him so much I don't want anybody else. He and I are friends we talk everyday, and I want him back, but I seem to get jealous when he get with his other friends or when he talked to a certain people, how can I get him to take our friendship back to relationship he has my heart

-- Contributed by: Aaron

Pearlie,

I have submitted your question onto Lori's Ask the Dating Coach page.

Thanks!

-- Contributed by: Debbie Vasen

My daughter doesn't want a boyfriend, she is interested in having boys as friends but they all want to date her or be her boyfriend. Any suggestions?

-- Contributed by: Pearlie
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