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Have you met him before? Have you been in an online relationship this whole time? If you are 18, please be cautious. I recommend you discuss this all with your parents. They will be good people to give you guidance on what to do. If you don't feel comfortable approaching them, find a trusted adult to talk to. I wouldn't recommend visiting someone you only know virtually without someone to go with you and help.

-- Contributed by: Debbie Vasen

I have been with my bf for a year and 4 months, although it seems like forever. We met online about 2 years ago and i fell for him instantaneously...he's my life and I love him with all of my heart. He is everything a girl could ever want. He lives near St. Louis and I live near Chicago, so it isnt a big distance that separates us. I want to see him, but I am unsure about it. He wants me to go there and I think that he should come by me. We have both given our sides and it usually only ends up in fights and him threatening to break up with me. I love him and do not want this to happen, but I am only 18...I dont believe that I should be the one to make the sacrifice and go there. He talks about...having a physical relationship...but that usually leads to other fights...I dont know what to do anymore...

-- Contributed by: =/

Thank you so much for your comment Alyssa!

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

I have been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for a year and 2 months now. We were best friends for 4 years, then last spring he asked me to be his. Unfortunatly I was moving to another state a month later and had to tell him. With our faith in God, help from family and friends, and trust in eachother, we have survived this realtionship VERY well. I am happy to say that we are both very in love and cannot wait to get married when I finish college! My advice for anyone in a long distance relationship: Get to know the person very well. Know their vlues and beliefs. Set boundaries on what you are and aren't going to talk about physically. My boyfriend and I have discovered that the only times we have trouble is when we start communicating only about eachothers bodies and not enough about our minds. Do not jump into a long distance relationship, and most of all, be sure your partner is strong enough to handle it, its tough! TRUST is VERY important too. A long distance relatonship CAN NOT survive if there are trust issues, or jealousy issues for that matter. So these things take alot of time, patience, love, strength, honesty, and trust, but they CAN work!

-- Contributed by: Alyssa

Thanks for the information. I've been with my gf for almost 2 years long distance, and we do all we can using todays technology. All i want is to be with her, but she feels if i just visit and leave it would make her too sad, so the only way is to be with her and not leave, so i haven't seen her for this whole time after asking to see her many times but she always says no, and it makes me depressed.

I'm left to either marry her or get her pregnate if i see her to get her to be with me permenently and it seems like alot since we haven't lived together yet, I feel if we don't at least visit and be together physically to grow our relationship and spend time together we will grow apart. I love her and it makes me mad to lose her but at the same time im sad and lonely without her. I don't know what to do if she won't let me at least visit her. It is horrible to not be able to ever kiss or hold my gf for 2 years. Should we break up?

-- Contributed by: :(

Sad,

You sound like you're in a tough position. You might try reading Ending Unhealthy Relationships, How do You Know if Your Girlfriend Really Likes You and How to Move On from a Bad Relationship.

-- Contributed by: HVLong

-- Contributed by: :(

Ke'juan, I'm glad you found the article helpful. Thanks for visiting LoveToKnow Dating and good luck!

-- Contributed by: HVLong

I think the information given in this article was really helpful. and it make feel much better about my long-distance relationship. My lady lives in Indianapolis, IN and i live in Wichita, Ks. But i think this long distance is jus gonna make us be more faithful and stronger and wanna have sex more too.

-- Contributed by: Ke'Juan Moses

Long distance relationships are NOT easy but it's possible to get through this time apart. As long as you are both committed, patient and hold on to the fact that it's just temporary.

-- Contributed by: Marcie

Love2x,

I would listen to your family and friends advice, they know you best.

However, it is worth also discussing this problem directly with your boyfriend. At least give him a chance to offer up his side.

-- Contributed by: Debbie Vasen

i have been seeing my boyfriend for 2 1/2 yrs now and last yr and this yr we've been seperated because im off at school. hes in houston,tx and i am in corpus christi, tx. we talk daily and i'm not gonna lie... this has tested our relationship but i think in the end it will only make us stronger :)

-- Contributed by: Ginny

I'am A Filipina Women Who Are Now Living Here In U.S.A. While My Dearest BoyFriend Was In The Philippines. We've Been Together For Almost 7 Months; Heartily Happy,Soulfully Contented, In Our Belief-by God's Eyes Were Married. It Was My Parents Dicision As Well As My Choice To Relocate Here In U.S.A. Before We Started These Relationship I Told Him Every Little Thing Of Whats Happenning After 7 Months. It'll Delightful Between Us, Until I Flew And Left Him My Heart As He Locked It With Prayers,So Do I! Its Tough, Knowing Hes Miles Away From Me. I Had Have A Deep Trust And My Love Was So Strong, Since From The Very Beginning Until Now, Were 2 Years And 2 Months Resently. I Called Him Every Monthly,For He Cant Afford The Long Distance Charges; Or In My Spare Days nor Time I Sent Him A Message. Since His Cell Phone Was Broke,He Does Find Way To Insert The Sim Card To A Buddies Or A Friend-Nun Since He is A Maintenance Of NUN Way Back/ They Has 2 Convent Building; The Main He Were And At the Place I Live,1 Hour and a Half Drive To Where I Born. The Relationship That We Had Was Very Peaceful,Full Of Hopes And Dreams,All The Ingredients of a Relationship.

Then, Just Recently I Had Heard A News From My Little Sister Over The Phone, Saying She Saw "My Boyfriend" Dating To A Nuns Helper (In My Place). For All I Knew He Wouldnt Go There Except If Theirs Emergency. Additonally, My Mother Toldt Me, That My MAN Has A GF & Found Out From The Girl That My Man Did Calling Her? It Happen When That Girl Bought Some Soft-Drinks In The House And Mum Did Saw My Man Secretly Went Into The Back Road Of The Convent,Door. I Dunno What To Do, I felt So Empty Up To Now. After All These Years, Hes My Strength, My Life, My Everything. Unbelieveable, We Just Talked Last Month (Aug.)As We Start This Relationship, One Thing I Beg To Him,I Even Please That Lies Are Prohibited unto My Existence Includingly In The Relation We Have.

Can U Guys, Help Me, I Needed Your Advice. What Am Gonna Do, Do I Have To Believe My LiL Sis and Mum, Take Theyre Advices To Forget Him,Not To Call My Boyfriend Anymore? Honestly, I supposed To Call Him This Month, For Greetings. But Deep Within Me.I Cant Imagine My Life Without HIM, Am So Scared, Very Afraid To What He Might Gotta Say. I Havent Not Yet Talk To Him About What I've Heard From My Family Which I Knew They Wont Tell Me Any Lies Too=-(

I Will Call Him Or Not,Please..I heartily Needed Your Opinion Base On What Just I've heard...

Thanks In Advance...

May God Blessed You'll

Sincerely Yours, Love2x

-- Contributed by: Love2x

Cody, I'm sorry to hear that you are not able to talk with her as much as you would like. I think you should e-mail or write a letter and find out why she is unable to talk as much as before. Do her parents not approve? Does she have a huge cell phone bill? The reason makes all the difference. If her parents don't want her to continue in this relationship with you then you will probably have to end it. But if the reason is something that can be worked out, then you'll be able to keep going. This is why you need to find out what the problem is.

-- Contributed by: Rick Fulks

Ive been happy in my 4 months that me and my girl been together though we never met she makes it a priority to keep in touch with me and i do the same but lately it seems things are keeping her from being able to talk to me. It used to be i could call her no matter wut and everything is fine but now it seems it cuases a huge problem between her and her family. I need some advice plz

-- Contributed by: Cody

William, a long distance relationship needs a lot of trust and a lot of communication. Her being hard to get a hold of is not a good sign. If she enjoyed your visit as much as you did, she'd want to be talking more. Long distance relationships are very hard and should only attempt one with a woman you think is very special. Based on what you wrote, it sounds like you are better off ending this relationship and finding a new girlfriend. If she wants to move closer to you that is her decision, but I don't think I would encourage her to move.

-- Contributed by: Rick Fulks

I met someone a few months back on the holidays I asked her out when I went back to university on east coast of Canada and she went back to California then, we kept in touch via MSN through out the term, afterwards I paid a visit to her in California, for 2 weeks things went amazing! I have been home over a month now, but she has been offline so much more and hard to get in touch with her and she won't share much about whats going on. she is very trust worthy and says she'll never cheat or so on. but despite this as of recently with limited communication and having no one here to support me, with an ear to listen/hugs, kisses and so on I feel as though things are dying. Even small things that bothered me ever so slightly are getting to me and making me wonder such as spending more time with her pet bunny then myself during my fairly short visit, and not sticking with jobs for long periods of time/commitment to an occupation. any suggestions on what I should do. would be greatly appreciated I am back on the east coast and shes back in California, but not enjoying her current job and deciding on what to do. Thanks alot. please email me a response to aboves address?

-- Contributed by: William

Kari, I'm glad to hear that the two of you are managing such a long distance relationship. Meeting will be a lot of fun. Be prepared, however, for a different kind of challenge after you meet. If you think it is hard being apart now, it gets harder after you have met (assuming it goes well).

-- Contributed by: Rick Fulks

I live in england and my long distent boyfriend lives in The USA... we have been together for 2 yrs and 7 months.. and so far its great.. we have discoverd each others personality in ways a person who has been going out for 10 yrs couldnt.. this will all change im october this yr as we are going to be together... but all i can say is this relationship is defo the best ive had... me and him will last forever and i feel it even tho no physical contact has taken place as of yet :D:D<3

I defo feel that there has to be a certain type of person to be able to survive a long distence relationship.. you have to be open minded... trustworthy amoung lots of other things and if u really love the person you will know :D

-- Contributed by: Hayley

Bria,

give him the boot. there r plenty of other guys that will appreciate you more. do not respond/chase him/call him anymore...period...i wouldn't even give him a courtsey break up call just move on....when you ignore him he may come around...be loose, apathetic...the more you play hard to get the more he will want you. in the meantime...find another guy, get involved in something else...go to the gym, entertain yourself...forget about this loser....he's just not that into you...

-- Contributed by: carrie

My boyfriend lives in England and I live in the USA. It's tough, and we've been together for 20 months now without personal contact, but in June that will all change <3 It really is difficult, but we're managing =]

-- Contributed by: Kari

Bria, thanks for the question. Long distance relationships are very difficult, and they are even harder when you are not regularly communicating with each other. Text messages just aren't a substitute for talking on the phone. You need to decide first if you want to be in a long distance relationship--with anyone. It may not be the kind of relationship you want and that is ok. If you are willing to do a LDR, then decide if your boyfriend is someone worth continuing dating. Based on his actions I suspect he doesn't enjoy the distance thing. You shouldn't view it as him not liking you as a person; it's just the distance isn't something everyone can handle. You might try e-mailing him and asking him directly if he wants to still keep dating before making your decision. Based on everything you have said, however, I suggest you find a new boyfriend who looks forward to talking to you.

-- Contributed by: Rick Fulks

well, i am a young girl, im very nice, intelligent, attractive, respectful, still a virgin, not a slut,well i am in a long- distance relationship. I have a question: Ok, i will call my partner up and start a conversation, then in the middle of that conversation he will say " I'll call you back. He never does. Only once in a while he will but rarely. Then i will call and ask him why he didn't call me back , he will say: I forgot or he will apologize and tell me the reason why he didn't call back: " I was sleep, you were too quiet on the phone or I went somewhere with my relatives(his cousin,mother,aunt etc} is usually his reasons. A few weeks back I asked him was I his only one because I felt maybe he is cheating on me ....his answer was "Yeah, why did you ask me that....I told him i was juss askin because it's a lot of girls that i've seen get played and the results of it were not pretty and I don't want that to happen to me. Then i remember when he had called and got an upset with me because he was busy playin with his video game and once again he said he will call me back, well i got upset because he always says he will call me back.....So i sent him a text message sayin "Why because im quiet" and his response was u be texting me on some bull........and i took that comment lightly and juss politely asked him to not get an attitude....he replied back by sayin why shouldn't I...I said because you shouldn't . Afterwards, I juss gave in and said well i'll hang up. Then i realized the text message was impolite so 2 hours later I sent him a text message sayin....."i apologize for the impolite text message,i juss been mistreated by my 1st boyfriend , so i juss done realyy trust any dudes but im getting over it."(my e-mail to you is about my 2nd boyfriend)He never replied to my apology and he text me the next morning conversating about his sports tournament, which was ok...i complimented him because he won 3rd place. he gives me compliments about my lookz, he says he likes m because I am easy to talk to and have a good personality. I also asked him did he mean all of those compliments :He says " Yes" ....Before my cell-phone got stolen he would text my on a regular dialy basis. But he would never really call. We don't even talk on the phone very long because he always has to do something or call me back....He hasn't been calling me lately..I don't know what's going on and im thinkin about gettin out of this relationship . But before I do so i just want some advice and information.In other words i just want to know what should I do first?????

-- Contributed by: Bria

My boyfriend is in Melbourne while I'm in Manila. It's tough and we're literally breaking into pieces but knowing we love each other and that we'll be together in two years max makes everything bearable. This article helps a lot!

-- Contributed by: Christine

This is a great article, as my boyfriend and I are going off to college in a few years, and are going to have to have a long-distance relationship. We feel like we are ready for it in a way, but it's still going to be hard.

-- Contributed by: Amanda

I am currently helping long distance lovers keep in touch in a way they never imagined!!! I am currently promoting the use of VIDEO PHONES all over the area, and unlike a webcam, it's real time camera! For more information, PLEASE e-mail me! I have helped dozens of people see each other through the video phones and make their lives much better!

-- Contributed by: Juan Sanchez
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