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-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

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-- Contributed by: good

I dont like generalizing or being racist. I ve dated an indian man (fob). We were friends before for years,he told me abt his older gf who was a widow with no kid. His gf was gorgeous,well educated,great career and same religion. But his parents strictly againts their relationship. Later on we hooked in chemistry but he maintain good friends with his exes. The same thing happen again,he didnt speak honestly abt me to his parents. I told him to be a man and stand on his own. But he postpone of being clear and keep telling me he loves me,cant forget me and so on. I left him for another man (an asian bt nt indian). But this man keep trying to maintain a secret relationship. Im geting annoyed as he wouldnt accept logic and my values as a woman. Im a chinese.

-- Contributed by: Christy

Avelina, there are people who date someone knowing they will never consider marry him or her. This happens regardless of race, religion, culture or sex. It is the risk everyone takes when they go on a date. I think in some cases, however, the person has a conflict between their heart and their family expectations. What do you do if loving someone means your family will disown you and never want to see you again? Some people, Indians included, face this very situation. We can't know exactly what this feels like unless we experience it ourselves.

-- Contributed by: Rick Fulks

I appreciate the sensitive advise given by Lori. It is very wise. But I wonder when does it become appropriate to call something racism and prejudice? As well, if a culture or a family forbid inter-racial dating, why do those of that culture date outside of it. It seems that that would only lead to pain and hurt. Do some Indians date non-Indians with false pretenses? Meaning, do they really know they will never marry outside of the race but date anyway?

My sister dated a Lebanese Muslim for 8 years. He claimed that she was is soul mate. He brought coffee to work and often sent her flowers. The girls at her work were shock when one day,the day after they had had an elaborate and romantic evening, he disappeared. She desperately tried to find out what happen to him. When she called his work his boss told her he had gone back to his home country to get married. She has never seen him or talked to him since. She has handled it well and move on but wow. Where is the integrity in this?

-- Contributed by: Avelina

I don't know if this advice will help, but here it is. My friend who is white and is married to an Indian man, spoke to an elder within the temple where his parents worshipped. After that the guy spoke to a uncle (His father's brother)that had a spouse that was western, to see what his knowledge was of what the father's views were on the subject of marriage to non-Indians, the guy spoke in hypothetical terms. They did this to test the waters, and see if the parents reaction would be. They let the subject rest for a while and then he would bring up ideas of marriage to western people hypothetically to his mom. The mom will discuss this with the dad, most likely and when the subject is brought up again, she will give you her opinion and most likely the dad's opinion too. This is something they did over the course of a year. In the end they eloped (secretly got marriaged) and then told his family. They were accepting of it, they kind of had to be, since what was done, was done. Given the fact that they had been exposed to the idea and were able to think of a possible liklihood of this happening, they were more open to it, then having it come out of left field.

-- Contributed by: FoolforIndianMen

I am a white guy dating an indian woman she is the best thing that has happended to me we have been dating for 2 years. Everything is fine with my family I explained to them the love i have for her however her father does not approve of her seeing a white guy. He is in fact talking to a family in Pakistan to set up an arrangement. My girlfriend does want to marry me however she is caught between the way we do things in western culture as well as how her family does things which is arranged.

I do want to confront the parents because they refuse to see me and have concluded for themselves i am not good. I am a stable guy i have a good job and i can take care of her I love her more then anything in this world.

Do you think I should try to meet the parents even though they don't approve to seeing me because I do want to get to know them better i don't think they are bad people but just don't know how i am. i do want to preserve my girlfriends culture I love the fact she is indian. I wish i could help her family they are going through money troubles i would like nothing more then to inject some ideas to help them.

What i am trying to say is would it be a good idea to just introduce myself to her parents considering they don't want to talk to me or see me because i am white? Your help would be appreciated.

-- Contributed by: Michael
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