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Hi Casey,

Sometimes it takes a long while before you finally are able to get through a day without thinking about someone that you had such strong feeling for. Give yourself some credit and allow yourself to grieve the separation you and this crush have. Good luck to you!

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

i liked this guy for ages, but then on the last day of summer i found out from his friend he was leaving to a different country, its been 11months, but i still cant get him out of my head! help! what can i do?

-- Contributed by: casey

Hi Jessica,

I'm sorry about your recent break up. However, it may be for the better. A boyfriend should be beside you, encouraging you to be the best that you can be. He should not be trying to hold you back, which is what he sounds like he is doing for not sticking with you during this busy time in your life. A relationship is about each of you having your own identity but then coming together and sharing things. You shouldn't be made to feel that you have to give something up in your life to be with him. Give your heart time to heal and when you're ready, you'll find someone who will be there for you. Good luck.

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

I meet my exboyfriend at my moms job. He was dating another girl, and we were just friends. After him and his ex broke up he told me that he was "diggin me" by all mean i did not know what that ment. So I had to ask his best friend. He told me that he likes you. so we hooked up and we were together for TWO AND A HALF YEARS. Two weeks ago he told me that he was not going to wait for me, because i was working and going to school at the same time. It feels to me that I would not find another person, or am I just scared to be alone???

-- Contributed by: Jessica

Hello, This letter is more of an inspiration to all the girls or woman feeling like they don't have anyone that wants to be with them or are being used as a safety blanket. I was with my ex for 6 months and after that I waited for him for a year and a half. Not just a month but a year and a half. I went through some major changes, not good ones either. I found myself being jealous that he would flirt with other girls all the time and would treat them better than me. When we were together he did this a lot to me too, but I was so content with being unhappy that I didnt know what happiness felt like. I gave this boy the world. I treated him like a king and he did nothing. I bet youre probably wondering why I stayed around if he treated me like this. Well, the truth is in the beginning of our relationship after 2 days he told me he loved me. That was a bit too sudden for me, but I guess because he made me feel good, things changed and I thought I loved him. Although, it took me a month to love him and actually say it I dont think I ever fully let him in. Anyways, its been more than 2 years and I have finally found someone new. Before I met this new guy my ex would constantly tell me that he loved me and that he wanted to be with me, and of course I gave in to that. After listening to all his lies and seeing the way he behaved with others I had to snap out of it and realize that Im more important. I think thats what most of girls or womens problems are. Were too afraid to think about ourselves, but the truth is, when I did that someone way better came a long and that quote about things being too good to be true is a myth to me. Love is in the air, you just have to be in the wind to feel it. We were friends for about 5 months and now weve been together two weeks, to me thats sudden, but I feel like Im falling for him. Hes totally different than my ex in many aspects. He treats me like a queen and I do the same for him. Its a two way street and we understand each other. Love is about being happy, so if youre unhappy than how can you possibly love someone?

-- Contributed by: Robin

Hi Ash,

Sounds like he may have commitment issues. He cares for you but doesn't want to be tied down with the label of boyfriend/girlfriend. I would be careful with this situation, since you are not in a committed relationship with him but still having sex, it may come back and bite you. He may end up seeing someone else or having sex with someone else and then tell you that you two were really not together. Protect yourself by approaching him about your feelings as well as the situation you are in. If he doesn't want to commit to the relationship, it may be a good idea to move on... Good luck.

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

am 18 going to 19 and i have been with this boy for 3 years, we are always on and off and right now we are off, he kepps telling me that he still cares about me and loves me but he just dosen't want to be with me , yet he still sleeps with me and dose other things that a boyfriends does , i don't know what to do because i do a lot for him and i feel like i have been waiting for him , yet he dosen't want to be with, am so hurt that when i look at him i just feel so sad and so unhappy , i feel like i can't be loved by the one person that i love with all my heart. i don't know what to do plz help me.

-- Contributed by: ash

I'm a 35 yr old woman going through a divorce with no kids. Before my final divorce I spent a lot of time with a married male friend (he is 10 years older) because he was also having marital problems. He & his wife are both my friends, I've known them for about 5 years now. I've always adored him as he has a very sweet nature. Somehow due to certain events he & I started to hang out. We talked about our experiences with our spouses and found comfort in each other. We also found that we had a lot of things in common. We enjoyed each other's company immensely.

Things got worse for him at home & he often leaves the house to stay at motels. I was very much in contact with him and was trying to comfort him and offered my advice. One thing lead to another and we got physical. We started seeing each other whenever we can. I did feel a little guilty and unsure if he was just using me physically at first. I was afraid I was a re-bound and was just conveniently available. But he was so reassuring and said if it wasn't physical, he'd still be with me. He told me he was falling hard for me, so was I but I never said it.

Shortly after I had to leave for a 2 month vacation which had been already planned. I was sad to leave, but I told him he needed time to think about what was he going to do next about his broken marriage and if he was sure about us. While I was away, he made a lot of effort to keep in touch. He was writing me emails and started to call every other day!!! I felt very touched but scared at the same time that his wife would find out. He once again re-assured me by the time I returned home, it wouldn't matter anymore. He would have left the house and they were headed for a divorce.

I was happy to come home and seeing him after my vacation. However, he started to appear nervous around me but we still saw each other. Then about 2 weeks later he said that his wife was catching on & that it was making him uncomfortable. He decided we should go back to being just good friends. I asked him what was the real reason & he said he was confused and scared of the future. Afraid he might not live up to all he had said in the past especially about giving me a child because he knows I want one so bad.

Little did I know that he has started to see a woman (heard from his wife!) he was doing some fixtures for. He had mentioned this woman to me before and said she was an older woman about 50. I was really shocked and hurt. He had told his wife there was no chance of reconciliation and he would like to settle on the divorce and move on...to date as well. I understand that he had on several occasions brought his kids to see this woman. His kids had started mentioning about her to their mother that's how she found out.

I confronted him about it and he said he can't really explain what was going on but he does like this woman. His wife also came to find out about us and we did have a 3 way confrontation. He said he still wanted to remain friends with me because he does care & love me.

On thanksgiving I bumped into him and his friends at a pub, one of whom was the woman he is currently seeing. He did appear a little nervous but I graciously introduced myself. They left early. The next morning he called me to tell me that he was really glad to had seen me and how fantastic I looked. And then he asked if I had met anyone and went home with anyone last night . I said I have never ever done such a thing. I asked why was he asking me all this and he replied - "Coz' I don't think I can handle seeing you with someone else, I'd be very jealous!" I was like wow! You ended the relationship but you still wanted to know if I was seeing anyone? He also told me he missed being with me and that he will always love me. I asked him what was wrong with his new woman and he said "Her skin is not as soft and her kisses not as intoxicating." I'm mad & was sure that it is the physical aspect that he can't get over but at the same time I can't bring myself to stop being friends with him or hate him! I can't understand how he was so after me for months and suddenly just dropped me like that & has gone for another woman. Plus he still wants to 2 time and see me!!! Help!!!

-- Contributed by: Maggie

im 19 years old, and ive had my fair shard of bad breakups but ive never been rejected. ive known the man i love for over a year now and we've always loved each other but it always been bad timing for us so we've never had that bf and gf relationship and i he's always stayed in love with me and always been there for me, and i finally realised that i was unhappy and that he made me happier more than anyone else has. so i told him that i wanted to be with him and he said he needed time so i gave him time, and i ended up with a late rejection and im not coping with it. he;s in love with this other girl that he's only just met, but he says he still loves me, and he lies to me about how he feels about her and i find out on my own and it hurts even more/. i just dont un derstand he's wanted a relationship with me for over a year and he had the opportunity once and he threw it away and that hurt and i give him the opportunity again and he's throwing it away again and it just hurts so much that the man ive always loved has broken my heart twice. i dont know how to get over it as ive never stopped loving him and when i admitted to myself that i loved him just made it hurt so much more. please help me.

-- Contributed by: a long love lost

Everyone says teenagers are too young to fall in love. Regardless, I fell in love with a guy. He sometimes would put me down and push me sexually, but other times he was sweet and funny. after four and a half months he realized I wasn't ready for sex and three weeks later broke up with me for another girl. I keep teling myself it isn't worth wonder what I did, that it was him, but now I'm afraid if I fall in love again...I'll get hurt.

-- Contributed by: Lorraine
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