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Hi Diana,

You can just be honest with him by telling him that you are looking for closure and ask him to tell you the reasons why again that he decided to end the relationship. Explain that you didn't expect it and wonder what went wrong. The most important thing that you need to remember is that you won't be able to change his feelings, so if you are secretly hoping that talking to him will turn into talking him into having a relationship with you again - you'll need to let that go. Good luck!

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

hi, mi ex broke up with me a couple of months ago. we were perfect till then, so it was unexpected when it happen, that's why even if he told me the reasons I kind of didn't believe him. even he seem unsure for his reasons. i think that he got scared or confused, we ended up as friends and when run up ocasionnally we say hi. this week i decided to tell him if we could talk, as friends, but i want eventuallyy to bring the issue again, i think maybe this time i will understand him better and get my closure or maybe make him think. how can I talk to him casually but still bring the subject up?

-- Contributed by: diana

Hi Stacia,

It sounds as though you are craving more from this relationship than what he is giving you. You need to discuss your feelings with him. You need to find out where he stands so you know if this relationship is going to last.

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

my ex and i dated for about a year. after 6 months he broke up with me for his x who was his dream girl but realized he didnt love her. he came to me and said i think ur the one.. its not fair for me to be with someone and think of someone else(me). we were together ever since after that till about 6 months later we broke up cuz we argue over the stupidest stuff. we wouldnt talk and we would pass each other all the time and when i stopped answering his texts/phone calls he coudnt talk it and when he asked me to stop by one day i did.. i dont know y i did.. the passion he gave to me was amazing.. he goes idk if this will bring us back together but i want it to and i hope it does. o and after about 3 months in our relationship i moved in with him at hi grandparents. we have inseperable and now just in the end of may he moved down to orlando (im still in missouri) and he tells his friends we r together but between him and i he says we r not.. i dont understand y he calls me almost everyday when he is over 1000 miles away. y hasnt he asked me to come down there with him. none of it makes any sense and i miss him soo bad and its so terribly hard. he moved to orlando for school. then for christmas after only dating for just under a year he got me these princess cut beautiful gold diamond earrings.. when i was asleep i heard his friend ask him so what did u get her a ring? and he said no but i thought about it. he brought up that if we were together for about another 2 years he didnt see y we shouldnt get married. sometimes ill feel like he never wants to talk on the phone. sometimes i feel like its not near as hard for him as it is for me.. idk what to do how to handle things.. he moved down in may and ive been down to see him 3 times already and everytime we r inseperable.. maybe im just reading into things too much but im soo lost and so confused.. he means so much andi tell him but he doesnt respond back cuz i thing he doesnt know how but im not sure.. can u plz help me cuz none of my friends seem to be able to

-- Contributed by: stacia

Hi Taylor,

It sounds like he isn't interested in getting into a relationship with you, especially since you've tried to show your interest and he didn't reciprocate. You can't make someone love you or even like you. All you can do is have love for yourself and find someone who will love you easily. Also remember, the more desperate you act, the more unattractive you look. You've done what you needed to do to let him know you want to reconnect, now step back and see if he comes to you. If not, move on.

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

i have a similar situation to mylove. my ex and i dated for just a month nearly a year ago, we remained good friends and text each other often. he lives a lil far away so catching up is a challenge, we have seen each other only like 5 times since our spilt. this week he asked me to come to his house on the weekend, then the next day he was being weird, like not responding to me and being standoffish, we didnt end up meeting and i just dont know what to do. i figure if he really wants to meet up he'd organise something, as ive tried several times but he didnt have enough money. im confused because i still really like him and would like to see where out relationship could go, just doesnt seem likes hes that keen. How can i get him to say what i desperately want to hear!-Taylor.

-- Contributed by: Taylor

Hi MyLove...

My advice would be to just meet up with him and see how it goes. I wouldn't get too excited about it until you figure out what his true intentions are. Like you said, him saying he will meet you and then doesn't could mean that's it's difficult to meet up with you since you two live in different towns or it could very well be that he is playing you. Just enter this relationship cautiously... time will tell you whether he is genuine. Good luck to you...

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

Hi! Well to whoever still comes to this page, I was wondering what do you think about my situation? Okay, so it's like this: my ex-boyfriend broke up with me last sept. (we only dated for about 3 months, and two of those months we didn't see each other, it was just through email) anyways, after the break-up it was horrible; we hardly talked and it was very awkward, he was a complete jerk most of the time, but after awhile he got over himself and apologized...but it was still a bit weird, after about 5 months of awkwardness, he started hanging out with me and my friends during lunch and after a bit, we became friends, I suppose you could say, and he started flirting again, I followed suit. I still like him, but a lot of other girls like him too. He could have any of his pick, I wonder why he picked me first...and then he just threw me away. Anyways, it's been a little over a year now, and we're still talking. Lately he's been more affectionate in his words and he keeps on telling me he wants to hang out with me, but he's bailed on me 4 or 5 times now; it might be because he lives in the next town over and he doesn't have a ride (yes, this is/was a high school relationship), and that's always his excuse. Anyway, this friday, he gave me the "for sure" answer that we would meet, he never said for sure the other times. And I'm just a bit nervous about it, 'cause he told me he liked me a few days ago but then he flirts a lot with other girls so I don't even know if he's being truthful, sometimes I feel like I'm being played. I still want to be with him, but I don't think he's ready for a serious relationship. I'm just so confused. -mylove

-- Contributed by: mylove

Shogun, thanks for stopping by LoveToKnow Dating and sharing your perspective. It's a great idea to give a guy some time and to treat that first opportunity like a first date. For more ideas on how to handle a first date or for some refreshers, check out: First Date Tips and First Date Etiquette.

-- Contributed by: HVLong

From a guys perspective: If he broke up with you, give him a little bit of time to miss you. I personally think textings alright.But wait a little bit and then contact him and ask him to go somewhere specific. If he agree's then treat it like a first date. If not, then wait a while longer and ask again, or you might just have to let it go. If you broke up with him: i think it would probably be better to just contact him after a little while and start to communicate about what happened between you guys. see how he feels. anyways always make sure that getting back together is the right choice, sometimes you need time to think it through.

-- Contributed by: Shogun

Melanie,

I don't know the specifics of why you two broke up but if you feel that he wants to get back together then ask him if he wants to grab some coffee or a meal, that is if he has broken things off with his current girlfriend.

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

I agree with these terms but I still dont get of how you stop texting because that's all me and my ex-boyfriend are doing right know is texting eachother... I think he doesnt like talking on phone and i kinda dont because I never have anything to say or i mite be nervous.. But I still want to know more details about this.. Because I really still do like him. I cant stop thinking about the times we had and well he does have a gf. But I asked him you know how is you and your gf? And all he says is "idk". And im like oh okay then. I dont know what happened between them but he said she was a little bit mad at him.. But when he texts me now its like I think he likes me again... Im just so confused and dont know what to do... please any advice?

-- Contributed by: Melanie

I very much agree with the texting thing. My ex girlfriend broke up with me and tried to worm her way back into my life with texting...turned me completely off. She looked like a coward to me only because she wanted to get back but didnt have the guts to speak to me..needless to say I have not replied and it showed me that she did me a huge favor. If the relationship meant anything be very careful how you approach your ex because it can easily get worse and they can lose all respect for you.

-- Contributed by: Mikey

I recently seen my ex-boyfriend but what i wanted to say i didn't only thing i did was wave at him. i' mad at myself because i didn't approach him when i couldn't.. my best bet is that the next time i see him i make up a good conversation that will give him a hint that i want him back..

-- Contributed by: taleshia

Lindsey, if you think your ex boyfriend may interested in getting back together with you, I suggest that you tell him how you feel. If you need to win him back, then just be nice, ask him how he is doing and flirt a little. Think back to how it was when you first started meeting each other, right before you started dating. What you did then is what you should do again when around him.

-- Contributed by: Rick Fulks

SO, my ex boyrfriend of months came to my houe yesterday.I had NO clue what to do.So i just said hello, and then made up an excuse for him to leave.I still love him. What can i do next time, something like this happens?

-- Contributed by: Lindsey
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