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Hi Cory,

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-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

i sometime wonder if i will ever find someone to love me know that i got herpes. Whan i first found out that i had it i tired to hurt myself because of it but with the help of god i made it through so far true its not easy at all to leave with it today i have an little girl with her and i am wondering if you can help me to keep moving on with my life cause is some days i get upset and and hurt because of it

-- Contributed by: cory clark

Hi trm,

Sorry to hear about your recent news. The good news is that your life is not over. Many...many...many people have herpes and other STDs that go on to have satisfying and long term relationships. As far as your current relationship, you MUST tell your partner about this news. Your partner may or may not break up with you, but it will be something you will need to work through with or without your partner. If you don't tell him, when he finds out he has contracted herpes, he will definitely break up with you. You might as well be honest now and have a chance of him being understanding...

Good luck.

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

I have been talking to this guy for a while over the phone. Long distance thing. And in nov we made plans to see each other. I recently went to the doc because something wasn't right and I got my results and found out I have herpes! Since then I feel my life is over and this person I really wanted a relationship with I fear is over. I haven't told him and I can't bring myself to do so. What do I do?

-- Contributed by: trm

Marcelina Hardy,

Thanks so much for your advice. I was actually asking the question you answered :). I only think he was wishy washy because he was afraid of his feelings getting involved and what I may have thought about it. But I am for sure going to take the advice you've given.... I mean we've been taking it slow for the past couple years, so why not continue and see where it goes. Thanks a bunch!

-- Contributed by: Unidentified

Janee,

You mentioned you saw a dentist, I would suggest that you speak to your physician as well. Good luck!

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

Unidentified,

I am not sure exactly what you are asking but I think it's whether you should take a chance with a man that seems wishy washy and has Herpes. If this is the case, take things slow. You don't have to jump into a close relationship right away. Date him and really find out if he is "the one" and then make your decision based off that. Good luck.

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

I have known this guy for almost 2 year. We're totally compatible and he is everything I want in a man. We've never had any sexual contact but only a few kisses and hugs (simply because he lives in another state). The more we talked and began to get feelings for each other he would go on a hiatus and not talk to me for months, so recently we reconnected and he finally told me why he's always gone on his hiatus. I really like this guy, but I don't want to affect myself.... What if I give him a chance and it doesn't work out??? I'm totally confused at this point because as I mentioned he is EVERYTHING I want in a man, minus this one issue.... I just can't grasp it... Any advice?

-- Contributed by: Unidentified

I have this gut feeling i have both types of herpes...i had chicken pox as a kid...but i have never had a cold sore...earlier last year i was raped and after that i went on this sexual rampage , and one night i went home with this guy from the club. We didnt end up having sex but we did kiss and he put his finger in my vagina...about two weeks or so after that my lips felt weird and i had little pin size pimples on only on my top lip and in the inner lip i felt burning...my tounge also felt weird on one side and my gums felt weird and the roof of my mouth hurt...it lasted a week and i went to the dentist and she said nothing looked wrong, but i feel like there is something wrong...now close to a month later the same thing is happening minus the small bumps on my lips and the toung thing lasted 3 days but my lips are chapped and they hurt...i havent noticed an outbreak but im scared...i swear if i get oral herpes i might kill myself...im already close to the edge..and this seems like the push i need to finish everyhing off....HELP!! i feel like dying and i need help!

-- Contributed by: Janee

I just met this girl that I really like and after about 3 weeks she told me she has herpes. It was a shock but I really like her a lot. We have came close to sex a few time but never did now I understand why we didn't? Any advice

-- Contributed by: a confused guy

I feel like its all over, I'm really sorry to hear that you have herpes. I can tell that you are very upset right now. You need to remember that thousands of people have herpes and are still able to live a normal life. Assuming you have oral herpes, you should be able to kiss your kids whenever you do not have an active herpes outbreak around your mouth, which will be most of the time. Also, because you will not be kissing your kids with an open mouth like you do with your girlfriend, the likelihood of transmitting to your kids is low, even when you have an outbreak. I know its really hard right now, but just hang in there, Ok. I suggest you take a look at the website The Herpes Resource Center. It is a website made by people with herpes.

-- Contributed by: Rick Fulks

I just found out i got herpes i told my girlfriend and she amazed me by the fatc that she will stay. but what concerns me is that i dont want to give it to her. Can we still kiss? what about the future with kids. Can i Kiss my kids freely. Will i be restricted contatct with them I'm worried i Fell like ... someone plz comfort me

-- Contributed by: I feel like its all over

Hi, I'm sorry to hear that you may have contracted herpes. Did you kiss someone that had a visible sore near his or her mouth? The best thing to do is see a doctor immediately. Even if you do have herpes, you should still be able to kiss. Many people have herpes and still enjoy all the physical intimacy that people without herpes enjoy.

-- Contributed by: Rick Fulks

i dont know if i have it yet but i kissed a random person and now i think i do. Im said because now i feel ive ruined things for myself because i cant just kiss someone because now i have to worry about giving it to them. I wish this never happened

-- Contributed by: unanamous
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