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Hi Steph,

It's natural to feel a bit of jealousy when you see your mate with another girl. It means you care. However, when it starts to interfere in your relationship, it becomes a problem. It sounds as though you don't have much confidence in yourself, which could be why you feel that he may leave you for someone else. If he has never given you any reason to believe he would cheat on you, you may have trust issues that you need to work on. However, if he has cheated on you before, then you need to decide if you will be able to get over what happened. If you can't, the relationship will not succeed. Trust is THE most important part of a relationship, if you don't have that...you won't be happy.

Also, if you've talked to him about these girls and he continues to do the same thing, you may not be able to deal with a guy who has many girlfriends. This is nothing negative on you or him, it's just what it is and you may find more happiness with someone who doesn't have as many female friends. Good luck!

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

ive been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years and iasm so jealous it makes me sick and i cant stop it.Its causing so many problems to the point that were moreless breaking up i just hate to see him having a good time with other girls as it makes me feel that he never laughs that way with me and i worry that he'l leave me for them silly i know, but i cant help it. Also as most of his friends are female its very hard, i do try and say to myself shut up but most of the time i cant.What shall i do...Every time he mentions one of his female mates i end up saying some horrible comment before i can even stop myself.plz help

-- Contributed by: steph

Leeann,

It is confusing but some people are like this because they have a difficult time admitting that they still have feelings for the person. Your ex probably doesn't want to be in a relationship with you but still carries feelings for you, which explains why he is jealous. Hope this helps!

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

my exboyfriend say he dosen't want me back but he always calling hates me with anothger man even if were just talking im confused

-- Contributed by: leeann

Nadine, if he is in another city, how do you know he is talking with girls? Is it possible that you just think that he is? Jealousy can be sweet when its not taken too far because it lets the other person know you really care. But taken too far, jealousy turns into paranoia and can kill a relationship. Observe how often he still talks with you and the quality of the conversations. If he still appears to be in love with you then you have nothing to worry about.

-- Contributed by: Rick Fulks

I am 21 and me and my boyfriend live in seperate parts of the state because he is going to school.I'm engaged to him but the fact that he feels the need to talk to other girls on the phone and not feel the need to tell that makes me feel like maybe he can't be trusted. He always says he would tell me if a girl text or call him or he calls or text a girl but from what i see he does the opposite he doesn't tell me at all but when i confront him he says i was going to tell you but i don't believe him.

-- Contributed by: Nadine

Kris, even though he may not cheat with his ex, his behavior is inappropriate for someone who is engaged and claims to be in love with you. Let him know that his involvement with this girl makes you uncomfortable. It's good that you aren't trying to control who he talks with, but he is going to far with his ex. He needs to decide if he really wants to be with you or if he wants to get back with her. I suggest not moving forward in your relationship with him until he decides.

-- Contributed by: Rick Fulks

I am 15 and my boyfriend is 17. We've been dating for almost a year. I really love him and I know that he truly loves me. I'm fine with him being friends with other girls and his exes. one of his exes however i am not fine with. He use to tell her that he loved her and all that. Well, i got on his myspace and read a message where he asked her to go see a movie. Then another one that asked her to go to the waterpark with him. I know he's not the cheating type and he would never want to. We're engaged by the way. I told him to stop calling ehr goreous and he did for awhile but then he started calling her that again. I really think that he has feelings for her again. We were playing 20 questions and i asked him if he wasnt dating me, who would you date, and he said that same ex. then i asked who he would want to kiss besides me and he said her again... What should i do? i am insanely jealous and have never been this way before.

-- Contributed by: Kris
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