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Hi Hannah,

If he's dating your best mate, then you need to step back and let him figure out who he really wants. You can make someone like/love you, no matter what you do. If he really is interested in a relationship with you, he wouldn't be with someone else. Don't spend your precious time following someone who won't follow you back. Set your eyes on someone who is available and will love you as much as you love him. Good luck.

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

HELP! There is a boy who I am in love with more than anythin but he is dating one of my best mates. I have dated him 6 times but I have blew it 5 and i have proof that he use to love me to cos last valentines day, he got me an amazing card, a bear and heart shape chocolates and thats when he loved me, we weren't even goin out. I want him back, I need him back and my friend understands that I like him, but she doesn't know how much I love him and I don't know if I should tell her how I feel, but the boy I am crazy about kinda knows how I feel should I keep tryin cos I hav been since he dumped me the day of our high school prom and then asked my friend out two days later. Should I tell her and keep tryin or should I give up, Hannah xx

-- Contributed by: Hannah

Hi Jenny,

It's great that you've found a good friend in this guy, however, you do present a threat to his girlfriend. Especially since you have only started being friends with him recently after him and his girlfriend have already been in a relationship. It appears that you are coming in and trying to take him away from her. You may not be doing that or mean for it to look like that but that's what others see. It's sometimes helpful to think of this type of situation in reverse as if it was happening to you. I'm not saying to stop being friends with him, just to back off a bit and letting you friend know that you don't want to cause any trouble in his relationship with his girlfriend. Good luck!

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

My best friend is a guy and he is naturally flirty. He has a girlfriend though and I keep being accused of flirting with him but nobody believes we are JUST FRIENDS. His girlfriend really hates me though and gives me dirty looks anytime she sees me. They have been together for over 6months and are in a pretty solid relationship. Me and him have only been best friends for about a month. We aren't inseparable or anything but we are big parts in each others lives. I can't imagine not having him as a friend but I dont want people to hate me either

-- Contributed by: Jenny

Anna,

It is a trick to balance guys and girlfriends. Just as our dating coach talks about in this article, those guys can really wreak havoc on our friendships. I hope your friends find a way to make peace soon.

-- Contributed by: Debbie Vasen

Two of my best friends are fitting for some guy. My Friend Jakie was goin out with some guy for 3 months.Then this year they broke up because he supposly started liking one of mine and Jakies best firend. Her Name is Alyssa. He called Alyssa on the phone and told her that he wanted to go out with her.But Alyssa told Jakie about this. Alyssa also promissed her that she wouldnt go out with him. 2 days later we found out that Alyssa was going out with this guy. My friend Jakie was so sad because Alyssa lied to her and she also knew that Jakie still liked that guy. Know they fight every day and me and some other friends dont know what to do and this is really affecting all of us friends.

-- Contributed by: Anna

Jesse, love sometimes separates friends, often for irrational reasons. I think you should try and talk with her. Tell her that you are happy for her that she has a boyfriend, and then tell her that you still want to be friends. Keep being a good friend to her even if she isn't giving back. If she values you as a friend as well, eventually she will realize her mistake and will want to hang out again. Also, keep in mind that when someone starts dating a new person, the couple often will drop their friends so they can be together as much as possible. It hurts, but try not to take this personally. Eventually the couple will come back to the rest of the world, so to speak, and start seeing friends again.

-- Contributed by: Rick Fulks

Me and my bestfriend have been friends for almost 3 yrs. know and we both have never really had steady boyfriends. So she met this boy and were talking for a while and when we both went to meet him for the first time....he was rude to me and had a attitude with me the whole time but I don't know why. So I told my friend how I felt and she got an attitude with me..know everything she does is with him and his friends and her other friends and leaves me out...how should I handle this.

-- Contributed by: Jesse

Janice, thanks for the question, I'd be happy to help you. It's really not worth losing a friend because of a couple guys. If you both start competing for the same guy, it will be hard to remain friends and neither one of you may end up dating him. Either talk with your friend about this, or just let her have the first shot at the guy.

-- Contributed by: Rick Fulks

dear lori, i really like these guys and i think they like me but my best friend is breaking up with her bfoyfriend just to talk to the guy i really want to talk to and its ...ing me off but i stil want to be frinds what should i do? ~janice

-- Contributed by: janice
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