Dating And Breaking Up

by LoriGorshow on October 11, 2009

I have spoken about rejection before. For the most part, I put a positive spin on breaking up. You can read my latest positive spin in the forum under what have you learned about dating and breaking up. It is true that I believe there is something to learn when a relationship ends, but that is not all. The flip side to relationships is that they don’t all work out. Time is the only thing that mends a broken heart, as clichéd as that sounds.

I have always enjoyed my time dating, but there were times, particularly when a relationship ended or was coming to an end, that it wasn’t so great. During those times I can remember crying in my bed or on the phone to a friend. Intellectually I knew that this feeling wouldn’t last, but I wondered all sorts of things about me. Like was I lovable, worthy or had I done something in a previous life and was being in this lifetime.

Why am I sharing this with you now? Well, to be inspirational. How many relationship professionals, therapists or coaches do you know are willing to say they don’t know it all? Really though, I am admitting my own fallibility. There are moments in our lives when we are walking on a tightrope without a net, or at least it feels like that sometimes.

When you’re dating or in a relationship, sometimes you will feel lost. During those times you will question your self-worth, and you may even wonder if you’re being too picky. It’s moments like this when you may not have the answers, but you need to trust yourself the most. Listen to the wisdom of your heart and trust yourself.

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