Fixing a broken relationship
My boyfriend and I had a fight last Monday evening and he went out the door with only his wallet and the house keys. He wants to think about whether or not he wants to go on with our relationship or not. I want to know if we are going to be together again because I love him so much and want him back. I am afraid he doesn't want me anymore.
He won't talk to me, but he reads my mail that I send him and doesn't throw it away. Is that a good sign?
Advice (1)
Hi Mariska,
Unfortunately, the decision for him to stay or go is on him. You can make him stay no matter how hard you try to get him to. I know this may make you feel helpless but if he's decided to end the relationship, all you can do is respect his wishes and move on to find someone who will love you and want to be with you as much as you want to be with him.
The other thing is that if he walks out on arguments often with no communication for days, this is a not a healthy way to handle disagreements in relationships. This could ultimately cause a lot of problems and make you and him unhappy in the relationship.
While you don't want him to leave, if he isn't committed enough to stay and work through problems, then he isn't committed to the relationship.
Now to answer your question - he is saving your mail. That is a good sign, it means he is most likely reading them more than once. Give him some time to cool off. When he comes back if he comes back, it may be necessary to discuss how he leaves during arguments because it's not good for communication.
Good luck
