Will He Ever Propose

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“Will he ever propose” is a question that many women ask themselves at some point in a relationship. Not knowing if he wants to get married can impact your self esteem, and may even be heartbreaking. Fortunately, there are some things you can do to help make it through this difficult time, and maybe even get him to propose in the process.

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Focus on Yourself

If you spend too much time thinking about him and wondering will he ever propose, you may forget to take care of yourself. This is not good for your health and can even be bad for your relationship. Here are some tips to help maintain a healthy balance:

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  • Enjoy your hobbies. Remember that life you used to have before you started dating? Make time to reconnect with the things you used to enjoy doing. Besides having fun, it will also take your mind off your predicament. Being away from your partner may also cause him to start missing you—and possibly help him realize that he needs to marry you.
  • Exercise. Unless you are a very active couple, chances are you no longer go to the gym as much as you used to. Remove the dust from your gym membership card, grab a bottle of water, and head out for a good workout. You’ll feel great afterwards—and staying in shape will not hurt your chances of getting him to propose.

Will He Ever Propose?

Instead of wondering if he’ll ever pop the question, take a look at the possible reasons why he hasn’t got down on one knee yet. You may find that there is a good explanation.

  • Money. It’s expensive to get married, and it all starts with one the biggest expenses of all—the engagement ring. Your partner may be trying to save money so he can buy you the perfect diamond. If you suspect this is the reason he is waiting, you have a choice. You can patiently wait for that nice ring, or let him know that size doesn’t matter and you’ll gladly accept any ring he gives you.
  • Career. Men usually like to feel secure in their career before proposing. He has a provider instinct, and that instinct tells him that he should only marry you once he can take care of you. Even if you make far more money than he does, the feeling may still be present within him.
  • Loss of Independence. He may love you with all of his heart and has no desire to be with another woman, but if he is very independent, the thought of settling down can be discouraging. Ease his concerns by telling him the freedoms he will keep--and the new ones he will gain--once you are married.
  • Fear of divorce. It could be he hasn’t proposed because he’s afraid it will lead to the eventual destruction of your relationship. While you may need to help him overcome this fear before he will propose, at least it means he plans on taking his vows seriously.
  • He’s unsure about you. This is the one that causes you to lose sleep at night, but it needn’t be an emotional rollercoaster. Realize that having been together long enough to even think about marriage is a good sign. It also means that he takes marriage seriously; as he contemplates whether you are someone he will devote himself to. Continue having fun together and pretty soon he’ll decide that you really are the one for him.
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Comments

Thanks for adding your thoughts and advice "Best to wait"!

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

Sick to Death, Don't feel bad at all. I was with my high school sweetheart for 6 years and really wanted to get married but I was not in love with him. I did not know what being in love was until he actually came along. Fortunately for you, you have not married this guy. Take your time because as soon as you hit 25 you will start to discover who you are. That is why your questioning the relationship. Best to just wait two more years to see if you still feel like he is the love of your life. I thought I was in love but one day I got fed up with him and never looked back. 8 months later I meet my boyfriend who I am truly in love with. Everyone around me sees the love on my face when I saw his name or think of him. I have stronger feelings now then I did 3 years ago. He works hard to do little things to make sure I think he will be a good husband. He makes me coffee and a smoothies every single day just because he wants to. Everyday I fall in love with him again. Now it is not a question as to whether he will marry me..I already know he is. If your not sure...forget it! just move on!

-- Contributed by: Best to wait

Hi Sick to Death,

It seems as though your boyfriend is just not quite there yet. You said that you've given him an ultimatum but it didn't work. What do you mean by this? If you said, "If you don't propose this year, I am leaving you." and you didn't leave him, then you're ultimatum isn't really one. You may have to take a break from the relationship to let him figure out how much he wants you to stay in his life. Remember, set him free, if it's meant to be, he will come back to you. Good luck to you.

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy
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