Are you not sure or nervous about what things to talk about on the phone? Don't be. Talking on the phone should actually allow you a chance to get to know someone without having to factor in worries about how you look.
A List of Things to Talk About on the Phone
If you are someone who gets nervous or easily tongue-tied, talking on the phone may not come as easily to you as it does to others. Don't worry about your phone skills or lack thereof and prepare for future calls by putting together a list of telephone topics in a handy spot. A telephone topic list can be jotted down on a note card or even in a text document on your computer or on the notepad function of your telephone.
Creating your list of telephone topics should be more like cues of what to say so you avoid the dreaded "um" or worse, the long, empty pauses that might convey a negative message that you don't intend at all.
Telephone Topic List
When you are putting together your telephone topic list, remember three key things:
- Never use shorthand you do not understand. In other words, if the letters "secty" do not mean secretary to you, do not use it.
- Keep you topic list generic, do not write a "script" because the last thing you want to sound like is a telemarketer reading from a script.
- Let the conversation flow, remember your telephone topic list is a guideline and not a rule.
Now that you have these things in mind, you are ready to create your own personal list of things to talk about on the phone.
Create Your Own List
The following is a sample list of topics you can use to fill in the empty places in your conversation.
- Talk about what interests the person
- Discuss popular films
- Discuss favorite television shows
- Ask what if questions
- Fantasy vacation spot
- Fantasy date
- Fantasy job
- Personal and professional goals
- Talk music, past, present and future
- Talk favorite foods, movies, places to visit
When to Call
If you have just gotten to know someone you like and you have the person's phone number, don't hesitate calling and saying hello. In today's Internet world, you are more likely to have the person's email or Twitter identity before you have a phone number. If the man or woman you are interested in gave you his/her phone number then it is a safe bet that he/she is inviting you to call.
It may be easier if you have a purpose for the call. For example, you want to talk to the person about a movie you think he/she would enjoy or an item on the news you just saw. Have a general idea of what you want to say on that first phone call. Perhaps you want to invite the person to check out a Taste of the Town hosted locally. Keep why you want to talk to the person firm in your mind, whether it's just to chat or ask him/her on a date.
Last Piece of Advice
If you do call someone and you don't have a better reason than you just wanted to hear his or her voice, consider being honest. It may open up a completely new avenue of conversation for the two of you. Ultimately, when you are stuck for something to say on the phone, consider just listening. One of the best things you can do for a person that you like is to listen.