You love it when he says just the right thing at the right time, don't you? Boyfriends love to hear compliments, words of encouragement, and other sweet sayings too. So, don't be shy - let your man know how much he means to you.
Sweet Things to Say to Him
At Behavior and Relationships, Monica Strobel, author of The Compliment Quotient, explains that, "To give a genuine compliment, couples must refocus their attention onto something positive. A compliment interrupts the patterns of common couples' gripes and resentments." She also explains that it's a way to avoid taking each other for granted. Saying something sweet to your boyfriend will strengthen your bond by making you both feel uplifted.
It's simple, and it's a common courtesy you'd pay anyone after they did you a favor, but sometimes couples tend to take each other for granted. Stop and thank him for fixing your computer or thank you for giving you a ride to work when your car was in the shop. Toni Coleman, psychotherapist and relationship coach, suggested changing up your routine. Instead of using an accusatory tone, ask him nicely to do something and then thank him.
Some guys come across as confident enough to know that they're good at what they do, but that doesn't mean that they honestly feel that way on the inside. Give him a few words of affirmation; let him know that you think he's a top-notch chef, drummer, or that he awes you with his understanding of politics or history. Be specific in your compliments. Dr. Gary Chapman, author of The Five Love Languages, explains on his blog that words of affirmation--compliments--can have a tremendous effect on happiness. In his example, a husband is giving his wife a compliment on her writing skills, but it can work on a guy too, regarding any skill he's practicing. If you're boosting your boyfriend's self-esteem and complimenting him on things he cares about, you'll strengthen your bond.
You Make Me Smile
Telling him how he makes you smile, lets him know that he's a good boyfriend, and he can cheer you up no matter what. It means he knows the sweetest things to say to you as well, and probably has a great sense of humor. This statement is several compliments wrapped up into one.
You Are a Fabulous Kisser
Men take pride in the ability to sweep a woman off her feet. Stroke his ego by complimenting him on his kissing skills, and he'll want to practice with you even more.
You Make Me Feel Safe
Most guys like to protect their ladies and make them feel safe and secure. Let him know he's doing a good job. Playing up the masculine and feminine differences in your relationship help keep your bond strong, as Lana Holstein, MD, director of sexuality and vitality programs for couples at Miraval Resort said in the Cosmopolitan article. This ties into the kissing compliment as well. Saying sexy things to your guy is one of the sweetest things you can do. Holstein recommends that you, "Save the gab sessions for when you hang out with your girlfriends and your sexy energy for connecting with your guy."
I Love Your Family
It's important for you to like the people in his life. There could be tension, hurt feelings, and plenty of awkward moments if you actively dislike the people who are close to him. Let him know that you love him and those he's surrounded himself with.
Men don't always seem as openly concerned with their appearance as women, but most of them do still care. Compliment his looks and you're sure to see that smile you love. If you want to take it further, you can compliment him on his eyes, the way he smiles, his biceps, or anything else you really love about the way he looks.
You Are Strong
Men love it when a woman comments on their physical strength. John DeVore at GuySpeak.com says this is a question your guy won't mind hearing.
Fill in the Blank
Each guy is different and has his own unique qualities to offer, so try to fill in the blanks and see what you can come up with:
- I really appreciate it when you ___________________.
- It means a lot to me when you ___________________.
- Thank you so much for ___________________.
- You make me happy because ___________________.
- You really helped me when you ___________________.
Say Sweet Things at the Right Time
You won't want to compliment his kissing skills in front of his mother, but he might appreciate it if you compliment him on his strength in front of other people. Use your instincts to know when your guy would most like to hear your compliments--some are better for when you're alone while others can be advertised.