Signs a Man Is in Love

Heather Long
A man in love is a different person.
A man in love is a different person.

Signs a man is in love include his inability to focus on anything else, see any wrong in the woman and forgive his friends or family if they put down the object of his affections. At least, those are the signs defined by Percy Sledge in his classic song, When a Man Loves a Woman.

Five Key Signs a Man Is in Love

The first sign a man is in love begins with the softening of his rough edges. Even the toughest, most alpha of males, will gentle his voice and relax his demeanor around the woman he loves. Romance authors embrace this concept, romantics celebrate it and romantic comedies tease their audiences with it. When you fall in love, you put your partner first, caring more about his or her feelings and his or her reactions than you do about yourself. A man's natural instinct to protect enhances this depth of caring. The more in love a man is, the more protective he becomes.

He Learns How to Check In

One of the first signs a man is in love is the desire to ask his partner before he commits to anything. Before falling in love, if the guy wanted to go somewhere after work, he likely said sure and just let his girlfriend know he wouldn't be available. A man in love checks in with his partner before he commits. He'll ask if that's okay with her, because truth be told, he'd rather spend time with her than with the guys, so he doesn't want to miss out on any opportunity or inadvertently hurt her feelings.

He Acts with Romantic Intentions

A man in love enjoys the more intimate dinner setting. He goes out of his way to make sure it's just the two of you. He takes the time to think about what you enjoy and how you would enjoy it. He'll even eat at restaurants you couldn't have paid him to try before because he knows how much you may enjoy the cuisine.

He Calls Her

Men and women tend to communicate at different levels. Women call just to hear the sound of a man's voice, even over inane issues. Men typically call only when they need to receive or impart information. A man in love, however, will pick up the phone and call, he'll text, he'll email and more. He wants to hear her voice and he wants to know how she is doing.

He Strives to Improve Himself

A man in love takes greater care in his appearance because he wants his lady love's approval. If she doesn't like something that he's wearing, it's a pretty solid chance that he will not wear it again. He will likely lean towards wearing her favorite colors, cologne and even hairstyle (if she's mentioned a preference). He'll take her criticisms and compliments of his appearance far more seriously.

He Embraces Spontaneous Gift Giving

He'll notice flowers at the checkout counter or a particular brand of chocolate that he knows she likes. He'll see a movie, book, CD or some item that makes him think of her or that he thinks she will like and he'll buy it. The spontaneous gift giving is all about creating the smile that he loves to see on her face.

When a Man Loves a Woman

Men falling in love do not tend to be as emotionally intimate with their friends as women are, but the signs other men will notice first about a man in love is his eye will not wander. Men in love may still admire other woman, but it's a far more abstract admiration and less primal instinct.

Signs a Man Is in Love