SheMale Dating

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Whether by accident or curiosity, you may find yourself interested in Shemale dating. Maybe you discovered the good-looking lady at the bar was actually a man. Or, perhaps you have always been curious about alternative lifestyles and find the world of Shemales fascinating and attractive. Whatever your situation may be, this guide will help you explore Shemale dating.

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She Is a Person…Not an Object
Because of the focus on the physical characteristics of transsexuals, it can be easy to think of her as a physical object rather than a person. Don’t fall into this trap. Whether you meet a transsexual by chance or by choice, remember that you are dealing with someone who has feelings, hopes, fears and dreams just like you do.

What Is A Shemale?

For those of you who don’t know, a Shemale is a woman inside a man’s body. A pre-operative Shemale has a man’s genitalia but likely appears very feminine, both in facial appearance and emotional make-up. A Shemale likely has larger breasts than a man, either from surgery or by taking female hormones. You could say that a Shemale is a woman who was born in a man’s body and is taking steps to become a physical woman.

The word Shemale is actually considered derogatory and is usually attributed to the porn industry. A real Shemale considers herself a female or a transsexual.

What Kinds of Shemales Are There?

There are three kinds of transsexuals:

  • Pre-op Transexual
  • Post-op Transexual
  • Non-op Transexual

Pre-op means the person is planning on having sexual reassignment surgery; a sex-change operation. Post-op means the surgery has been performed; the male genitals have been removed and replaced with female genitals. Non-op means the person does not plan on having sex-change surgery.

Why Make The Change?

The desire to have sexual reassignment surgery is because the transsexual feels trapped inside the wrong body. She feels like a woman, she acts like a woman and may even look like a woman, but her body is still male.

Imagine being a Boston Red Sox’s fan but forced to wear a Yankee jersey all day, every day. You identify with the Red Sox, you may even love the Red Sox, but the world thinks you’re a Yankee because of your appearance. You too might want to have surgery to remove the Yankee uniform and have it replaced with a Red Sox jersey—if surgery was the only way to make the change.

Is it Ok to Be Attracted?

If you find yourself attracted to a transsexual, it may lead to confusing feelings. Focus on what caused you to become attracted in the first place. Was it appearance, or the way she talks, or maybe how she acts? Often a transsexual will be very feminine acting, which appeals to many men. She may even seem more feminine than some females you know. Don’t automatically dismiss the possibility of a relationship just because she is a transsexual. Share your feelings with her, think about your own feelings, and maybe seek guidance from someone that you trust.

How to Date a Shemale

There are no special rules for dating a transsexual. Like any woman, she will want to have fun on dates and talk to learn more about you.

  • Talk about how you feel dating a transsexual—just don’t let the subject dominate every conversation. If you did not realize she was a transsexual before meeting, obviously the subject will come up. Explain your interest in her but also your apprehension, if you have concerns. It could be that with further explanation of the situation, you will feel more comfortable and ready to explore the possibility of a relationship. But once any concerns have been addressed, there is no need to keep bringing it up.

How to Find a Transsexual

If you would like to find a transsexual to date, try using the following websites:

  • TS Match. This site is affiliated with TS Girlfriend and is free to use. The site is intended for true transsexuals instead of transgender (cross-dressers) individuals and is for those seeking real relationships. If you are looking for a sexual encounter only, this website is not for you.
  • TS Girlfriend. While not specifically a dating website, they do offer free chat rooms. More importantly, this website has many great articles about transsexuals and how to date them.

Conclusion

You never know where or with whom love will strike. Keep an open mind with everyone you meet so that you will never miss an opportunity for a loving relationship.


 


Comments

TS Woman,

Thank you for taking time to share your thoughts!

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

It should really be noted that the term Shemale and Transsexual are not the same. A shemale is a derogatory term, as pointed out in this article: to the Transsexual. Why should the term Shemale be derogatory? Because Shemales are individuals who are involved in the sex trade and who love their manhood, and like to use it. A Transsexual however does not like having male body parts, or female body parts for the F2M male. (Do you find F2M Shemales advertised? Think about it) Transsexuals will go to such extremes as having genitals and breast removed and altered to reflect who we really are. Whereas a Shemale will enhance their bodies for a more pleasing and desirable feminine structure, while retaining their ability to function as a male. When the definition of a Shemale and Transsexual become blured and the Transsexual is referred to as a Shemale. You can be sure an insult has been delivered albeit perhaps in ignorance. It would be nice to have seen this article differentiating between Transsexuals and their counter parts, the Shemales. Rather then trying to lump us all together as if we could ever be one in the same. This article has been responded to by a married TS woman. Who renounced all rights assigned to males in her life. Opting rather for her feminine rights. She was never and could never be a Shemale.

-- Contributed by: TS Woman

Thanks fo a nice article.. I always been a fan and active participant with shemales acitivities. Thanx. But i would like to know whether she can be dominant in play acitivities with me. because till now i had only came across submissive onces

-- Contributed by: Ramakant Nevse
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