According to Doctor Love Coach, Janice D. Bennett, Ph. D, asking your partner questions is critical to creating a lasting relationship. Whether your relationship is brand new, or you have been together for a while, asking questions - both serious and fun - is a great way to get to know your partner and spark meaningful conversation.
Fun Questions to Ask Your Boyfriend
When your relationship is still fresh, it's nice to get to know the silly basics of what makes your man tick. What's his favorite color? Which food does he absolutely despise? Can he beat you in a game of Monopoly? Here are some fun questions to ask your boyfriend.
1. If you could spend the day with someone famous, alive or dead, who would it be?
2. What is your favorite board game?
3. Describe yourself in a single word.
4. Describe me in a single word.
5. Would you go dress shopping or shoe shopping with me?
6. Another girl hits on you in front of me. How would you handle it? What about if I wasn't there?
7. What is your favorite body part?
8. What song reminds you of me?
9. Do you think we've met before in a previous life?
10. Who is your celebrity crush?
11. What's the weirdest thing you've ever eaten?
12. What's the weirdest thing you've ever eaten-and liked?
13. Can you tell me about your most embarrassing moment?
14. What is your favorite item of clothing?
15. Are you superstitious?
16. If you could be anyone else for a day, who would you choose?
17. What do you think of public displays of affection?
18. Describe your dream house.
19. What's your dream job?
20. If you're having a bad day, how can I cheer you up?
21. When you're sick, do you like to have someone taking care of you, or do you prefer to be left alone until you're better?
22. What's your favorite sport?
23. What sport would you never want to watch?
24. If you're lost, do you ask for directions?
25. Describe the ideal vacation.
26. Describe an ideal weekend.
27. What's your favorite dessert?
28. Do you prefer coffee or tea?
29. What would you do if I were suddenly unable to speak your language?
30. How organized are you?
31. What's one household chore that you don't know how to do?
32. What's one type of household chore that you're unwilling, or at least very resistant to do?
33. If we were in a group at a party, and I told a horrible joke that no one else laughed at, what would you do?
34. Who's your hero?
35. What's your favorite book?
36. What's your favorite magazine?
37. How much time do you spend on social networking in a week?
38. Will you tell me if I have lipstick on my teeth or if my hair is standing straight up?
39. If you won the lottery, what would you do with the money?
Serious Questions to Ask
1. How did your last relationship end?
2. Are you and your ex still friends?
3. How many sexual partners have you had?
4. Have you put yourself at risk for an STD by skipping protection?
5. Have you been tested for STDs/HIV?
6. Would you be willing to go in for testing again before we get more involved?
7. How would you handle it if you thought another guy was hitting on me?
8. How do you cope with stress?
9. Do you have any bad habits I should know about?
10. What's the worst thing you've ever done?
11. Have you ever broken the law?
12. How would you handle it if you lost your job?
13. How would you handle it if I lost my job and we were living together and sharing expenses?
14. Are you able to keep your anger under control?
15. Do you like to travel or would you rather stay home?
16. How do you handle disagreements?
17. Do you think men and women can be platonic friends?
18. Do you think it's okay for men and women who are in separate relationships to go have coffee or lunch together?
19. What is something that you do that could possibly cause me to question your loyalty?
20. What are some of your ideas for how to keep a relationship strong over time?
21. What do you think of my dream of becoming a ______? (Fill in your own goal, like novelist, karaoke star, or TV personality.)
22. Do you think it's okay for people to vent to others about their significant others, or do you think that it's completely disrespectful and complaints should be kept within the relationship?
23. When you break up with someone, how do you do it?
24. What's the worst break-up you've ever experienced? Why was it so bad?
25. What are your thoughts on marriage?
26. What are your thoughts on divorce?
27. What do you consider cheating, besides the obvious?
28. Are you comfortable talking about where our relationship is going?
29. If I were offered a promotion and had to move away, would you move with me?
30. Where do you see us in five years?
31. If a girl asked for your number, would you give it to her, just in case we break up?
32. If one of my friends flirted with you, would you tell me?
33. If one of your friends or family members told you to break up with me because he/she didn't like me, would you?
34. How do you feel about my family and/or friends?
35. How would you deal with a disagreement with one of my family members or friends?
36. How much time do you think we should each spend with our family/friends outside of gatherings that require us both to be there?
37. What do you tell your friends about me when I'm not around?
38. If one of your friends flirted with me and I told you about it, how would you handle it?
Questions to Ask Before Moving in Together
1. Do you want to live together?
2. When do you think you will be ready to move in together?
3. How will we handle paying the bills?
4. If we were to break up, who would move out?
5. How long do you think we will live together before getting married?
6. How will we make sure the chores around the house are divided fairly?
7. Are you a neat freak or do you tend to have socks and other items lying around everywhere, most of the time?
8. Do you plan to adopt or purchase a pet in the near future?
9. Would you ever consider having additional roommates to cut costs if we had a place with enough space?
10. How will we make sure we each get to spend time alone when we share the same place?
11. If I have to work really late, will you have a problem with cooking or picking up some dinner for both of us?
12. Do you see us getting married in the near future?
Questions to Ask Before Getting Engaged
1. Do you want kids? How many?
2. Where do you want to live in the long term? City? Mountains? Country?
3. What are your retirement plans?
4. What is your philosophy on money within a marriage-is what's yours mine and vice-versa, or will you prefer separate accounts and a roommate situation with bill paying?
5. How do you feel about taking in family members during a hard time? Elderly parents?
6. What's your take on getting the housework done if both partners work outside the home?
7. What are your thoughts on how to discipline children?
8. What kind of dad do you want to be?
9. How important do you think date nights are when you're married and have children?
10. Are you open to the idea of marriage counseling?
11. How much time do you expect us each to be able to hang out with our friends once we've had children?
12. Would you be agreeable to staying home with the kids if my career was about to take off or if I made enough at my job to support that arrangement?
13. How will we spend our holidays?
14. Who will be responsible for screening babysitters or a nanny?
15. Are you a spender or a saver?
16. If our spending/saving goals differ, how will we compromise?
17. Do you want a small wedding, a large one, a visit to the courthouse, an elopement, or do you have no opinion at all?
18. What's your opinion on credit cards?
19. How much debt do you have right now?
20. What are your plans for getting out of debt or staying out of it?
21. What would you say if I told you I have a large amount of debt?
22. Will you support my decision if I want to go back to school one day?
23. How would you handle it if we found out our child had a terrible illness or disease?
24. Do you think that prenatal tests for certain birth defects or disorders should be done? How would you react to bad news?
25. What do you think each person's role is in a marriage?
26. Would you be willing to temporarily take on two jobs if that's what it took to make ends meet?
27. Are you satisfied emotionally and sexually in the relationship?
28. What is your stance on divorce?
29. If I got really sick with a long-term illness, would you stick around to take care of me?
30. If I have a disagreement with one of your family members or friends, will you stand up for me?
1. Where are you originally from? Where else have you lived? What was your favorite place and why?
2. What was your parents' relationship like?
3. What was your relationship like with your parents?
4. Do you feel that your parents treated you and your siblings the same or was there favoritism?
5. What kind of student were you?
6. What are some of your favorite childhood memories?
7. What was your favorite subject in school and why?
8. Do any health problems run in your family?
9. What's the kindest thing you've ever done for someone?
10. What's the kindest thing someone's done for you?
11. Are you close with members of your extended family?
12. What are some prominent things that have happened in your past that you think have contributed greatly to who you are today?
13. What are some things in your childhood that you'd like to improve upon for your own child/children?
14. Tell me about your favorite childhood pet.
15. Did you have a lot of friends as a child, or did you have just a few really good ones?
16. How did you spend your summer vacations?
17. Who was your hero when you were growing up?
Printable Questions to Ask Your Boyfriend
Use What You've Learned
Try not to jump to any immediate conclusions during your question and answer episodes. Instead, take a day or two to mull over his answers, and decide where you want the relationship to go.
Think about what's really important to you in terms of your current relationship. While you won't want to have his answers chosen for him ahead of time, you will want to think about what kind of answer you'd like him to give. Think about which things are non-negotiable, and which issues you are willing to compromise on. If you find more often than not, that his answers are not compatible with yours, you may want to cut your losses early. Of course there are always ways to compromise when someone is very special to you.