Love Games

Good Love Games

Some games actually help us attract our mate, and many of these so called games are actually hard wired in the human brain. Others, on the other hand, hearken back to formal arcane rules of courtship. Also, keep in mind that a lot of the "games" we play, like flirting, are completely without conscious thought. Most of these things we just do without thinking about it.

• Flirting is the number one game most of us play and with good reason. It’s one of the best ways to convey our interest and let another know we find them attractive. Not sure if you’re doing it right? Concerned you may be missing an important someone’s cues? Well, unfurl that brow and read on.

• The second love game is the classic “we really have to stop meeting like this”. You know, “bumping into” the person you like, say, oh, about five times a day! The funny thing is it works. We are more likely to be attracted to people we see in our line of vision. Who cares if you break your neck running to the office kitchen when you see him grabbing a quick cup of coffee? It’s worth it.

• The last of our love games that actually work is the “I’ll just inquire of so-and-so, if so-and-so is available,” all done of course, with the intent of it actually getting back to the desired so-and-so. Doing this shows interest, and that’s much more attractive than, well, no interest.

Bad Games

A lot of these are such hard and fast rules of love that we feel, for better or worse, that we must play them.

• Appearing disinterested when the person we like is around, or speaking to us. Oh, you know the game. Pretending you don’t care when he mentions that he has two tickets for the hottest show in town, or nonchalantly shrugging when the Cindy Crawford look-a-like says she headed to the local coffee shop "alone". Don’t do it! Many of us have done this; only to be burnt later on as we watch the person of our dreams ride off into the sunset with someone else.

• The next game that gets you nowhere is the waiting-to-call game. It gets you nowhere because while you were waiting one to two days to call, someone else called, and scooped the person you liked up. They happily date, while you sit and wait for day three to come around, so you can finally make your move. Not pretty. The lesson here? Call. A lot can happen between the getting of the number, and the actual dialing of the number.

• And finally, we’ve come to the three-date-rule. Talk about hard and fast rules, most women could recite this one in their sleep. We’re not saying to toss your morals out, and hop into bed, but we are saying that every romantic relationship is different. As such, evaluate on a case by case basis.

A Final Word

Yes, there are many love games, and we’ve only just scratched the surface, but alas, our time together has ended. Perhaps lurking somewhere in the future is a part deux, but for now, we part. In the meantime, let the love games begin!