Lets Get Married

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Are you ready to say “Let's get married?” Marriage is a big step that requires careful consideration. Before taking the plunge, think carefully about your decision. There are many things to consider. The questions below will help you get started.

Let's Get Married: Kids

One of the biggest questions a couple needs to ask is whether they want children. Most people want kids, but not everyone agrees on how many to have or when to start a family. Make sure you are in agreement about whether to have kids. How many and when to start can be negotiated and determined after you are married. Once you are engaged, the number one question you will hear from friends, family and coworkers is “when are you going to have kids.”

Common Questions and Issues with Married Couples

Do You Like Spending Time Together?

It may seem obvious that you enjoy spending time together, but would you be content to spend considerable time with your partner? If you are not living together before marriage, the time you are around each other will go up exponentially after you are married. Can you wake up each morning next to your partner? To help you decide, imagine to yourself if you were no longer able to see or speak to your partner. If that thought really bothers you, consider it a sign you may be marrying the right person.

What are Your Expectations?

Some couples have completely different expectations about marriage. A woman may want, for example, to have a high-powered career and have a nanny take care of the kids. If her potential husband views marriage as a place where women stay home and raise kids, there are going to be problems. Discuss long before you get married what your expectations are to avoid any surprises.

Where Do You Want to Live?

Are you a city person? Would you love to have a loft downtown, where you can step outside and immediately be surrounded by the energy of the city? That is fine, but what if your partner wants a house in suburbia? Discuss with each other where you see yourself living, both immediately after you get married and in the future as well.

It is also a good idea to establish cleaning habits. Is one of you messy and the other neat and clean? Differences like this shouldn’t prevent you from getting married, but it is something you need to be aware of and communicate how to overcome the difference.

Ready to Commit?

Before you should say let's get married, you first need to feel comfortable with the idea of commitment. There will be days in your marriage when you can’t believe you are married, when the thought of spending your whole life with someone feels overwhelming. Even in the best marriages, you will have days, even weeks like this. Being committed, to your spouse, to the institution of marriage, is what will see you through the darker days.

Sex

Despite all the jokes about how infrequently married couples have sex, the truth is sex is a big part of marriage. Whether you are both virgins or have mastered the Kama Sutra together, expectations regarding sex need to be discussed. Discuss how often you would like to have sex, along with finding out how important sex is to each partner. Also talk about ways the two of you can make time to be together even when other demands take away the time you have to be together.

Finances

Talking about money can be a very sensitive subject, but it is crucial you talk about it before getting married. Discuss how much money and debt you currently have, and your spending and saving habits. Do you both like to follow a budget, or do you prefer to spend now and pay later? These are all questions you need to ask each other long before you get married.

Conclusion

Marriage is a lot of work, but it can also be fun and fulfilling. Improve your chances of having a successful marriage by asking the big questions before you walk down the aisle. Asking questions will also give you something to do while waiting for him to propose.

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