Lesbian Dating Sites

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Lesbian dating sites can help you find someone special locally or internationally. If you are having a difficult time finding someone you can connect with, it may be time to broaden your search and start dating online.

Everything You Wanted to Know About Lesbian Dating Sites

If this is the first time you considered using lesbian dating sites, you may have some questions about its use. Here are some of the most common queries people have about lesbian online dating:

Will there be men on these sites?

Many lesbian online dating sites restrict straight men from becoming members. Usually, if there is a problem with one of the members, you will be able to file a complaint and the issue will be resolved by blocking the person from the site. This helps members feel secure and confident when talking to other single lesbians.

How do I know if the woman I am talking to is really a lesbian?

You won't know if someone is who she says she is until you get to know her. There is no way the site can screen to see if a woman is lying about her sexuality. Just like in the offline world, you will have to take a chance.

I am butch and I only date femme lesbians; are there sites dedicated to butch and femme matches?

Yes! You can join sites that give you the option to choose if you are butch looking for a femme lesbian or vice versa. If you don't have a preference, you can still use these sites as well as many others.

Since I am a lesbian, I probably don't have to be as cautious, right?

Wrong! You absolutely have to be cautious. Whenever you meet a person you've found online, you should do so in a public place, and you should never give out personal information. Just because the person is female and is lesbian doesn't mean she is trustworthy. The best way to stay safe is to take precautions.

Is there a cost involved for using lesbian online dating sites?

Some sites charge you to become a member. These sites are usually ones that help you find a match rather than offering a simple forum for lesbians to meet others on their own. Free online dating sites for lesbians are usually more open and have a large number of users, but there are also many people claiming to be someone they are not.

Dating Sites for Lesbians

You will discover that there are many different dating sites for lesbians. Take some time to browse through the sites before you start registering, and most importantly, paying any membership fees. Here are some dating sites to start with:

This free site caters to the butch femme community. You can take part in forum discussions, post or browse personals, chat with members, and shop at the online store.

This is a matchmaking site, which charges a fee to become a member. With your membership, you can receive a personalized profile, e-mail other members, send smiles to other members to break the ice, search its large database of lesbians, and share pictures.

Curiouslove.com claims that it is a 100 percent girls-only dating and personals site. The site strives to maintain a safe and secure place for lesbians and bisexuals to meet. When you register with this free site, you will be able to create a profile, upload up to ten pictures, add audio and video, and search its database of members. This site also provides a video and audio chat room, e-mail, and instant messenger.

FemMate.com is a lesbian and bisexual women matchmaking site. The website uses personals to help members meet. You can place free ads on the site, but you will have to pay a fee if you would like to use the site's other features.


Sometimes the best way to know if a dating site is worth joining is through word of mouth. Are you a lesbian, who is already an active member on a dating site? If so, please share which sites you have joined and your experience with them in the comment box below.

Lesbian Dating Sites