Interracial Relationships

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In this melting pot we live in, interracial relationships are more the norm than the exception. As the world grows smaller, differences between people naturally blur and similarities become more obvious. Still, mixed race relationships can pose unique challenges. Luckily, mutual respect and understanding can help to solve these problems.

Interracial Relationships

What IS an Interracial Relationship?
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It used to be that the term "interracial" referred to people of different skin colors, usually within the same country. Today, it can also refer to people of different ethnicity, even if their skin appears the same. The world is increasingly multi-cultural, and "mixed" couples of all varieties exist.

Cultural Understanding

"Culture clash" can occur in any relationship between people of dissimilar backgrounds, but it is more common in interracial relationships. The way people are raised colors their outlook on life, including their ideas about relationship roles, gender differences, love, and respect. In order to fully understand your partner, it is important to understand where he comes from. To do this:

  • Study his country of origin
  • Get to know his family, if possible
  • Ask questions to define his ideas and beliefs

Religious Understanding

Problems are also common in relationships between people with different religious backgrounds. Religion has a strong influence in many people's lives and this definitely comes to play in relationships. For example, traditional Islam has very definite ideas about the role of men and women in marriage. A non-Muslim woman can be caught completely off guard by her conservative Muslim partner's expectations.

If you and your different race partner are also from different religious backgrounds, it is important to discuss this before your relationship gets serious. If neither of you are particularly religious, then this is probably not an issue. If, however, one or both of you are extremely spiritual, this could become an explosive difference. If you intend for this to become a long term relationship, you should discuss:

  • If you have children, which religion will they follow?
  • Will both of you be allowed to worship freely?
  • Will one or both of you be expected to study the other's religion?
  • Will one of you be expected to convert?

Language Barriers

It is often said that men and women speak different languages. This issue is even more obvious in interracial relationships. Sometimes, couples of different backgrounds have radically different ways of speaking. Someone from a different country, for example, might not initially understand a slang term and could be unduly offended. In other cases, one partner is not a native speaker, and misunderstandings ensue. When faced with these issues, patience and a sense of humor go a long way! Also take the time to learn about your partners language - not only will this help with communication, but will also demonstrate how serious you are about making the relationship work.

Maintain Identities

If either or both partners strongly identifies with his or her racial or ethnic group, it is vital that they are allowed to continue their association with that group. For some people, race or ethnicity are important elements of their identities. For the relationship to be truly healthy, both parties must be free to be themselves. Neither one should have to change their skin.

Focus on Similarities

Despite any differences, people are people and love is love. If you have truly found your match, you will be able to overcome any obstacles. While it is important to acknowledge and accept differences, it is more important to honor your similarities. All relationships need some middle ground. For a long term love relationship, it is important that you share a basic outlook on life and that you have similar values. With love, mutual respect, and a solid foundation, you can overcome anything!


 


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