Six Ways to Tell if a Guy Is Attracted to You

Crystal Schwanke
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Your guy friend has started acting strangely around you, and now you are trying to tell if he is attracted to you. While the best way to find out if he likes you as more than a friend is to ask him, there are signs to help you figure it out without having to be so bold.

He's Always Looking Your Way

Have you noticed he has been looking at you a lot more often these days? If you notice he is making more eye contact with you or staring at you, he is probably attracted to you. He is enthralled by your beauty and probably fantasizing about kissing you. According to Cosmopolitan's list of body language to watch for, he may not leave it to intense eye contact to communicate his feelings as that is too uncomfortable. Instead, he may spend some time looking at your mouth and nose while you chat. Pay attention to how focused he is on your face versus looking over your shoulder or around the room for clues as to his real feelings.

He's Touchy-Feely

Besides looking at you, is he touching you much more than he has in the past? He may touch your shoulder, arm or hand as you talk. This is because touching you tapers his intense feelings of attraction temporarily. The experts at Cosmopolitan, note if he touches your knee or pushes your hair back from your face - he's totally into you.

He Takes up More Space

Today.com says when a guy is interested, he'll stand with his hands on his hips, elbows out, fingers pointing down. He's playing up his physical size and trying to appear confident with this stance. If he's seated, Cosmopolitan suggests he may sit with his legs far apart.

He Gives You Extra Attention

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Obviously, several guys will check you (and possibly several other females) out over the course of the day, but is there more to it? Was he just admiring your gorgeous shape for a second, or could there be a strong enough attraction to pursue something further with him? An attracted man will do what he can to keep the conversation going and will gravitate your direction, according to professional dating coach Mike Goldstein. He'll keep providing new information meant to make you feel safe or view him in a positive light, all while inching closer to you. If possible, he'll attempt to reignite dwindling conversations before he gives up and walks away.

He Tugs on His Socks

Relationship expert Tracey Cox says a guy who pulls his socks up while he's talking to a girl is interested in her. This habit is rooted in a point in history when men would wear their nice suits for rare special occasions. They wouldn't get new socks for the occasion and would just wear their old, loose fitting ones, then spend the evening tugging them back up.

He Notices Little Changes

He may notice little things and say so out loud. He may even compliment you by saying something as simple as, "You look nice." This is one that a guy may or may not feel comfortable doing if he's attracted to you. Giving compliments to a girl could be too intimidating and leave him feeling too vulnerable, so not all guys who are attracted to you will do it. However, if a guy does go out of his way to tell you that you look nice, mentions your hair is different, or says he likes your dress, there's a good chance he's attracted to you.

Glamour says a guy who's attracted will compliment you or notice something different, something minor, and comment on it. A guy who isn't attracted to you wouldn't notice a small change. He'd have to be paying special attention to you to catch it.

If He Is Attracted to You

If you conclude he is attracted to you, it's up to you to decide what you want to do next. If you're not attracted to him, don't seem interested in him by seeking him out when you need something. If he is flirting, you can gently let him know you aren't interested by not flirting back. If you are attracted to him, you can either wait until he asks you out on a first date or you can ask him.

Six Ways to Tell if a Guy Is Attracted to You