Six Ways to Tell if a Guy Is Attracted to You

Marcelina Hardy, MSEd, BCC
flirty guy and gal

Your guy friend has started acting strangely around you and now you are searching for how to tell if a guy is attracted to you. While the best way to find out if he likes you more than a friend is to ask him, there are signs to help you figure it out without having to be so bold.

How to Tell if a Guy is Attracted to You: Step by Step Guide

The following steps will lead you in the direction of how to tell if a guy is attracted to you. Don't worry, you won't have to do anything too obvious to find out, all you need to do is study him a little closer to find your answer.

Step 1: What's He Looking At

Have you noticed that he has been looking at you a lot more often these days? If you notice he is making more eye contact with you or staring at you, he is probably attracted to you. He is enthralled in your beauty and he is probably fantasizing about kissing you.

Step 2: A Bit Too Touchy Feely

Besides looking at you, is he touching you much more now? He may softly touch your shoulder, arm, or hand as you talk. This is because touching you temporarily tapers his intense feelings of attraction.

Step 3: Check His Personality

Now that you examined if he stares at you and if he is touching you more, take a look around at interactions he has with other people. Does he gaze at other people as he does with you (especially females) and is he generally comforting? This will help you determine if it's just a personality trait or if it's really because he is attracted to you.

Step 4: Taking it a Step Further with Flirting

Remember, you won't be doing anything too obvious but this step will help you get a little more insight about his feelings. The next time you see him in passing, just smile at him. He will most likely smile back but pay particular attention to what he does next. If he looks down or runs over to you, these are two signs that he likes you. If he waves his hand and goes back to what he was doing, it doesn't mean he doesn't like you but it does mean you have to dig a little deeper.

Your next flirting tip is to go into your closet and choose a favorite item to wear. It has to be something you feel comfortable in but also something that you know he will find appealing on you. Wear it the next time you expect to see this guy (work, school, gym). The first thing you do with your sexy outfit on is walk by him and smile. Watch to see if he continues to look at you while you walk away. If he doesn't, try talking to him. If he doesn't make eye contact or has a perma-smile, you can bet that he is finding you very attractive. If he doesn't react to the way you dress, see step 5.

Step 5: Watch Him Come to You

The last step if none of the above has helped to figure out if he is attracted to you is to step back and let him come to you. Don't call him, don't walk up to him, don't initiate conversation. Notice how many times he tries to make contact with you and how he acts when he does interact with you. Don't be cold when you do talk because then he will start to think you don't like him and he will give up on you. This step is just so you know that he is making his way to you on his own terms because he is attracted to you.

What to Do if He is Attracted to You

If you conclude that he is attracted to you, it's up to you to decide what you want to do next. If you're not attracted to him, don't seem interested in him by seeking him out when you need something. If he is flirting, you can gently let him know you aren't interested by not flirting back. If you are attracted to him, you can either wait until he asks you out on a first date or you can ask him. .

Six Ways to Tell if a Guy Is Attracted to You