How to Make Out

From LoveToKnow Dating

Do you know how to make out? Odds are you'll answer yes. Have you ever made out with someone who could've used some make-out lessons, though? Again, you're probably rolling your eyes at the memory of some eager-but-unskilled kisser who was something of a cross between the monster from Alien and a labrador retriever. Here are some things to keep in mind next time you are looking for some of that sexy second-base magic.

Secrets of Making Out

When people think of making out, they usually simply think of kissing. There's nothing wrong with that; kissing is possibly the finest form of communication known to humanity. At the same time, kissing only occupies one part of the body: your lips. Think about the other ways to express affection:

Holding hands is more than just a clasp – use your fingers to stroke, to gently squeeze, or even giving the person's hand a saucy little scratch with your fingernails. Since the hands are by nature some of the most sensitive parts of the body, this can really focus your partner's attention.
Body language – A hug is a pretty obvious way to show affection, but try some subtler forms. While going for a walk, simply pressing your arm lightly against him or her, or allowing your bodies to brush against each other can make you both very aware of each other.
Vocal cues – There is a very easy trick to making your voice sound sexy: speak slower and at a lower pitch than normal. Add in a breathiness to your tone, and you could read a cookbook and make it sound hot (in fact, try it sometime – food is very romantic). Other keys to making the person feel special is to use the person's name often.
Breathing – A technique known as "rapport" involves the very simple task of synchronizing your breathing with your partner – whether in conversation, in kissing, or simply snuggling up.

The Kiss

Of course, the primary element when thinking about how to make out is the kiss. The best way to become a great kisser is to find a book or article about how to have a great conversation and apply all of those skills to your lips.

A good kiss is like a conversation – so make sure you both have something interesting to communicate and (even more important) that you listen. Everyone has different ways they like kissing – using the lips, the tongue, the teeth, with hard pressure or feather touches from the lips. The mouth is one of the most articulated parts of the body, with hundreds of muscles. You should use them to communicate what you like, and sense what your partner likes – in the best kisses, you both learn new things from each other.

Some feel that "French kissing" –using the tongue – is inappropriate too soon on a date, and some don't like it at all. Simply inviting a tongue kiss by opening your own mouth during a kiss, or by lightly touching your partner's with the tip of your tongue, will give them a chance to respond with whether they like it or not.

How to Make Out BETTER

If you think you've gotten all of those skills down, here's a few more things to really make your make-out experience stand out:

Pay attention to the environment. Romantic locations are great – parks, museums, even the classic back seat of a car on a starry night. If none of those are available, though, light a small candle and play some music on your iPod to set the scene regardless of location.
Chocolate and other foods are sensual delights, with the intimacy of feeding each other combining with the advantage that you both will taste the same when you kiss!
For many busy people, shifting from working all day into a making-out mood can be hard. Use things like romantic text messages, emails, and cards to let your partner know that you're looking forward to the time you're going to spend together, and that will help keep them in that frame of mind throughout the day.

Finally, see if you can make making out an end unto itself – rather than simply something to get through before more sexual activities. That's not making out, that's foreplay. If you can enjoy the kisses and snuggles and touches and joys for themselves, you will have learned how to make out like a master.

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