How to Get a Girlfriend

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For many guys, figuring out how to get a girlfriend often becomes a lifelong series of failed advances and painful rejections. The following guide offers some valuable advice for any man of any age who is sincerely interested in finally meeting that special someone.

How to Make a Good First Impression

How to Get a Girlfriend on the First Try

There are few experiences that are more terrifying, humiliating, and painful than walking up to a beautiful woman at the bar, the gym, or at school, and getting painfully rejected with a snide comment or a disgusted roll of the eyes. However, if you take a moment to carefully learn about the psychology of dating and your role in it, you'll never find yourself in that awkward predicament again.

Human Psychology Drives the Male and Female Dating Ritual

Human psychology is rooted in humanity's earliest existence many centuries ago. Back then, human life was a daily ritual of survival. That survival meant men and women needed to split up responsibilities in order to exist. Over many thousands of years, those roles of responsibility that were inherent for human survival became ingrained into the human genetic makeup. For this reason, even today the hunting and gathering instincts of males and females often influence daily interactions and activities in ways that people don't even realize. The dating game is one of those, primarily because it is directly related to procreation. People often deny they are genetically influenced in this way, but the effects of these instinctual drives often overpower thoughts, needs, and basic desires.

What Girls Like in a Guy

There's a significant difference between what girls want, and what women want. The process of maturing vastly changes what women look for in a mate. If you are a guy in high school or even college, it's important to understand what girls within this age group are looking for in a guy if you want to stand any chance of dating them. What girls like in a guy is heavily influenced by what society considers positive male traits. In nature, male animals fight to establish territory to show dominance. Female animals will gravitate to these males to enjoy better protection for themselves and their children. In modern society, humans have evolved to the point where dominance is defined in far different ways. Male strength is recognized in the form of wealth, personal achievement and athletic ability. The strongest of these in the younger years is more physical - athletic strength, physical ability, and confidence. The following tips will help you appeal to even the most beautiful girls in school.

Be an Achiever - Devote time to establishing yourself as the best in any activity. It doesn't have to be athletics, many girls are insanely attracted to guys who are at the top of the academic ladder. Other girls are very attracted to guys who are gifted musicians or singers.
Establish Confidence - Many younger guys confuse the term confidence with arrogance, and end up turning off most girls with their boasting and bragging. The sort of confidence that girls value at this stage is a borderline "aloof" nature, appearing as though you're not very concerned what people think about you - you're comfortable in yourself.
Excel Academically - Whether or not you're a gifted athlete, or you have a girlfriend already, make sure to excel in your academics. If the next stage of your life finds you without a girlfriend, the advantages that academic success will bring you later in life will help you find a wife as well.

What Women Want in a Man

In the later stages of your life, it's much simpler as a man to learn how to get a girlfriend. By this stage, most women have suffered through enough traditionally dominant "bad boys" so that they've learned what they truly value and want from a man. At this point, the preferred male qualities are best described as:

Gentle strength
Inner confidence that radiates as a calm demeanor (not arrogant)
Financial security
Drive and motivation
Maturity and love of children

By the time (most) women approach and pass thirty years of age, the biological drive to procreate is almost unbearable. If women are single at this stage, they have little interest in the sort of guys who were popular in high school, instead opting for the "strong but silent" men who are confident and financially secure. To establish yourself as prime dating material, focus on topics of conversation that accent those characteristics about you. When she asks what you do for work, briefly mention your success without bragging. When she asks about your family, mention how close you are to your youngest siblings or nieces and nephews, and how much fun you have with kids in the family. Before long, you'll find that she's responding very positively to the conversation, and from that point on - the sky is the limit.

Is it All About Genetics?

While basic instincts certainly drive desire and behavior, never fool yourself into thinking that you've "figured out" women. Every person is wonderfully unique, and while the advice listed above will give you a tremendous advantage, it's important to focus more on what she's saying than on what you're saying. This will help you learn more about what her individual joys, feelings, and motivations are. By being a careful listener, you will have much greater odds of learning the intricate nature of her character and in doing so, your odds of falling in love (and her falling in love with you) will grow astronomically.

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