Guide to Understanding Women

Getting Started with the Guide to Understanding Women

Let's first think about women and what they want from people. They look to people to provide them with something, whether it is support, encouragement or someone to talk to about things. While many will ask for this directly, others will only provide clues to what they need; thinking the man in their life will understand what they want. This is the confusing part about women. You need to learn how to read between the lines and give your woman what she wants. Here are some common scenarios you might have been in yourself, how she might have reacted and what you can do next time.

Scenario #1

You come home and your wife or girlfriend has been home from work sick all day. She is completely miserable. You give her a kiss and then go do something. A few minutes later, she is suddenly furious with you.

• Why she is mad

In this situation, your significant other was looking for comfort from you as soon as you came home. While a kiss is always nice, she was looking for more. Perhaps she needed you to ask her if she would like anything or get her something without asking. The key here is she wanted more from you than what you gave her.

• What to do

Learn from experience, the next time she is sick try to ask her if she needs something or bring her something nice to help her feel better.

Scenario #2

She comes home from work one day and had a bad day. You listen closely and start to tell her what she can do to make the situation better. All of a sudden, instead of yelling about her co-worker or boss, she is yelling at you. You have no idea what you did wrong because you were just trying to help.

• Why she is mad

When girls vent, they usually do not want anything fixed. They are looking for an outlet for their frustrations, which built up throughout the day. When you start to try to make the situation better, it frustrates her even more because she still hasn't released all of the tension inside. If you solve the problem for her, she feels she has nothing else to say and still feels angry.

• What to do

When she comes to you with something upsetting, listen to her and support her without trying to solve her problems. When she is through, she may ask you what you think or what she should do, but don't give advice until she asks for it.

Scenario #3

You call your girlfriend or wife and let her know you want to go out with your friends one night. She says she is okay with it. When you come home or call her several hours later, she is upset with you. You don't understand why she is mad because you asked her if she would mind.

• Why she is mad

Even though she said she didn't care you went out with your friends, she really didn't want you to. She didn't want to say no because she doesn't want to appear controlling or like your mother.

• What to do

Next time, spend some time with her and then mention you would like to go out with your friends later. Many times, girls just want as much or more attention than you are giving your friends.

Scenario #4

One year for her birthday, you forgot to buy her something, so she was mad at you. The following year, you bought her flowers and candy, which excited her. The year after that you buy her the same flowers and candy. However, she is not as thrilled as she was the first year you bought them for her.

• What happened

Even though flowers and candy are great presents for a girl, they love it when men put thought into gifts. It means more to women when you go out and really think about what she might like instead of buying her the same thing every year so you don't get into trouble.

• What to do

It doesn't take long to think about what she might like. If you have some time, take her out to the mall just to do normal shopping. Watch her and see what she looks at. Usually, you can get ideas on what she might like by what she picks up and admires.

Final Tip

Even though this guide can help you in some situations, there may be times when you still can't figure out what she wants. For these times, there is nothing wrong in asking what is wrong and asking her how you can make her happier. She will appreciate that you are being thoughtful and attempting to improve the relationship.