French Kissing Techniques

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Anyone can French kiss, but can anyone French kiss like you can? Not after you pick up a few techniques that will certainly wow your next date. All it takes is a few minutes, and you could have skills that could last you a lifetime.

Nine Ways to Make Your French Kisses Sizzle

You can't just jam your tongue into your partner's mouth and call it a French kiss. Frenching is a delicate art that includes a number of slow, sensuous tongue movements that create pleasure and desire. If you want to be more than just average at this intimate style of kissing, the following techniques can a little finesse to your repertoire.

1. Gentle Tickle

After the first few kisses, lightly tickle your partner's lips with the tip of your tongue. You don't want to lather his lips; just brush across them lightly like a butterfly's wings. This move conveys a touch of innocence tinged with a willingness to explore, and it can be very enticing to the person you're kissing.

2. Soft Murmur

Couple sharing a sensuous kiss

Murmur a little "Mmm..." once in a while as you're kissing. The sound alone lets your partner know how much you're enjoying the kiss, but the soft vibration this creates against his lips just might send a shiver through him.

Be careful not to murmur too much because it can be distracting and may even seem a little fake. Let the sound escape your lips naturally when you're really feeling that kiss.

3. Darting

This technique offers a good way to initiate some tongue contact, but it's also very nice for kissers who enjoy using a little tongue rather than a lot.

Begin with the soft tickle as described, and then gently press the tip of your tongue against your partner's lips. When your partner opens his lips to accept you, slowly and softly dart your tongue into his mouth and then pull it back out. You can continue darting your tongue in and out as you vary the length of the contact. Take a cue from your partner's own response and do what feels natural to you both.

4. Swirling

If the two of you want more contact, a bit of swirling is in order. This involves rolling the tip of your tongue all the way around the tip of your partner's tongue in a seductive, swirling motion.

To mix it up, you can transition between darting and swirling for a great kissing session.

5. Nibbling

After a nice swirl, try pulling back in a slight pause, and then nibble ever-so-lightly on your partner's lower lip. You have to be careful not to cause your partner pain; the nibble is meant to thrill your partner by adding a tiny element of danger to your kisses.

6. Sucking

This move is a little risky, but it can have fantastic results if your partner enjoys it. When he darts his tongue into your mouth, suck on it gently for a brief moment before you release it. If he liked it, he'll be back for more.

7. Invading

Invading is a bold move designed to elicit a big response, and you should only do it if your partner is into full contact Frenching. When passions run high and the moment seems right, extend your tongue all the way into your partner's mouth using a combination of darting and swirling.

When you're invading, these techniques are bigger and bolder, but you still have to be careful not to over do them. Otherwise, you run the risk of gagging your partner, and that's the surest way to ruin an awesome kiss.

8. Embracing

Couple touching each other's faces tenderly

Good Frenching doesn't happen at a distance; there's a lot of embracing involved. The two of you will naturally want to wrap your arms around each other, but you can also use your hands to enhance your kisses.

Try taking your partner's face in your hands for a few moments while you kiss. You can caress his cheeks with your thumbs as you tilt your head first one way, and then gradually to the other. You can also cup your hand against his neck just beneath his jaw line, or softly trail your fingertips across his jaw and then down to the hollow at the base of his neck.

9. Wandering

Wandering can happen at any moment while the two of you are kissing. Leave your partner's lips and trail soft kisses from his chin and cheeks to his jaw line, and continue on to the nape of his neck. Dart your tongue into the hollow just beneath his ear lobe, and press more soft wet kisses against the pulse in his neck. You can even trail kisses along his collar bone to his shoulder and then back again as you make your way back to his mouth. Working some wandering into your French kissing can make your partner feel adored, and what's sexier than that?

Great French Kissing Requires Some Give and Take

You want to have some smooth techniques to impress your partner, but try to keep in mind that he probably wants to make some moves of his own. Be ready to receive and respond to his advances even as you're making a few of your own. The best French kissing happens when both partners relax and take turns leading each other.

French Kissing Techniques