Free Relationship Advice
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Whether you have a new relationship or a secure marriage, free relationship advice has the potential to be helpful.
Who Needs Free Relationship Advice?
Free relationship advice is just what you need when you're new to the dating game and even the experienced daters need a bit of help sometimes. When you meet a new guy or girl you like, you may find yourself baffled. What do you do to impress them? Keep them? Not many budding relationships need or want to pay for a bona fide counselor. That's when it's time to turn to free relationship help. It is easy to find online or at the library.
Online Advice
- Ask Men is a good place for men and women to turn when they want free advice on dating. You can get date ideas, interpretation of what they say and what they mean and more.
- Real Sex Ed is a place for teens to look for answers to some of the questions they're too embarrassed to ask their parents. Explore everything from dating etiquette to myths and truths about sex.
- The Home and Family Network is a compilation of links where you can seek out information on love, dating, and free relationship advice. This site covers areas from Couple Talk to Ask a Guy.
- Ask the Dating Coach is LoveToKnow's free offering of relationship advice. Ask any burning questions and you will receive an answer on the site within a couple of days.
Advice in Print
Never underestimate your local public library. There are tons of relationship-help books out there. If you borrow instead of buying, they certainly qualify as free relationship advice! Often written by those who have their Master's or Doctorate in Psychology, relationship advice books offer a range of opportunities for personal growth. The best authors are qualified individuals who have experience in the field and they know how to conduct experiments, analyze survey results and offer advice for problematic situations.
Books to Check Out
The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman is a good place to start for helping you learn how your partner expresses love and the most effective way to show your partner you love them. It walks you through five types of love languages--gift giving, words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service and touch. Not everyone interprets love in the same way. Not everyone expresses love to their partner in the same way. You and your partner could both be thinking you're showing each other your love, but in such different ways that love goes unrecognized.
The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands by Dr. Laura Schlessinger is very to the point and has been met with a bit of controversy. It's meant to make women think about the role they're playing in the marriage and how their actions affect the marriage--in good ways and bad. It preaches the importance of making a man feel needed in the relationship. Though it seems to be targeted toward women, men can also use this book to get a better grasp of the dynamics of their relationship.
His Needs, Her Needs by William F. Harley, Jr., PhD is designed to help you and your partner identify each other's needs. From there you can work to fulfill them and bring the passion back into your marriage. The book addresses the emotional issues of a marriage like talking and affection, as well as the practical, day-to-day ones such as household chores and finances.
Warning Against Using Free Help Exclusively
Free relationship advice is great for those little kinks and quirks (new and sometimes even old) which need to be worked through. Advice can make you think, help you choose your battles, or give you food for thought to hold onto for later. What it cannot substitute for is legitimate counseling. That counseling means both of you in the same room with a mediator. Simple advice will not help you through an abusive or controlling relationship. What it can do is give you the motivation to seek help or leave, but that's about all.
Please don't treat free relationship advice as gold if you and your significant other are having serious issues. Sometimes the quality of the counseling you need will cost something, but it can help you through some of your relationship's most trying times. Also, if you're seeking free relationship advice, keep in mind that advice is not always given by certified, licensed professionals. Some places do have a licensed psychologist or counselor on staff - others, though, do not.
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Comments
Tammy, after an abusive relationship, it is not unusual to have trouble with a normal relationship. Counseling for both of you might allow you to work out not only your individual issues, but to improve how the two of you communicate with each other.
-- Contributed by: HVLongI am 32 years old with two child ages 11 and 13 i was in a very abusive marriage after ending my marriage i have had trouble dealing with almost everything mind me i will be seekign councelling again. I since found teh most wonderful man he treats me like gold most of the time. I have been treating him like crap and i am just starting to notice it now. He said that he put a guard up he is sick of crying i am having trouble showing him i love himm because he is acting really mean more distant than anything. He does love me alot he tells me that but he feels i do not show him i feel i am trying my best, what is love? how do u show someone you love them?
-- Contributed by: TammyAmanda,
Sounds like your friend is controlling and that could be a sign of trouble in the future (as in domestic violence). If possible, separate yourself from him and find someone who will want to commit to you and treat you the way you should be treating. If you are unable to get away from him due to fear of abuse, please read this article: Teen Dating Violence
It has some great information and advice for all ages. Good luck to you!
-- Contributed by: Marcelina HardyThis page has been accessed 8,452 times. This page was last modified 15:19, 26 August 2008.
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