Writing a letter to someone you're breaking up with can help bring closure to the situation, and it can even take the place of a face-to-face breakup. However, it's easy to get lost in your emotions and lose track of what you really want to say. Sometimes it's easier to look at a good example, and use it to help you end the relationship.
I'll always have a special place in my heart for you. At times, our relationship felt like it was the best thing that had ever happened to me, but lately everything has felt wrong. It pains me to admit this, but my love for you has faded away.
I can't stay in a relationship where there is no love, and it isn't fair to you to be stuck in a relationship that's a lie. I hope that you're able to move on, and meet someone who will love you the way you deserve to be loved.
It's not easy to tell you this, but I recently began spending some time with a man from work. You don't know him, but over the course of the last few weeks I've realized that he and I have a connection that I can no longer pretend doesn't exist.
It's not fair to you for me to pretend that our relationship is going to work when I know in my heart that my attention is elsewhere. You deserve someone who will love you, and only you, and I know that you will find someone who will treat you right.
I'll always remember our time together as a special time in my life. I hope you can forgive me and realize that my leaving is the best thing for everyone involved.
To a Cheater
Jack, You may not realize that I know what you have been up to with Delaney. The truth is that what's done in darkness will always come to light, and I can't ignore the fact that your attentions have turned to someone else.
We're over. I can only hope that someday the same thing happens to you, and you can know the pain that comes with having been cheated on. Here's a preview: It feels horrible.
I know you've been cheating. I thought I meant something to you, but obviously you only care about yourself. I never want to see you again. Don't call me. Don't text me. Don't even mutter my name.
Goodbye, and good riddance!
Long Distance Failure
I thought that I could handle a long distance relationship, but I'm afraid that this is just too much. I spend too much time worrying about what you're doing, who you're doing it with, and wondering if you even think of me often.
Our relationship might have had a fighting chance if a great deal of distance wasn't involved. I have to let you go so that we are both free to move on with our lives.
I hope that we can remain friends, and I hope you agree that this is the best decision for the both of us.
I love you so much, and that's why it's become too hard to maintain our relationship long-distance. It's just too hard to not be able to hold you, and spend time with you, and to just see your face. We both know that chatting online and talking over the phone is a poor substitute for time really spent together.
If we can't be together in person, then I don't think I want to be together at all. It's too much to bear. We have to end things so we can start healing our hearts and move on with our lives. This isn't easy for me, and I can't imagine that it's easy for you either, but this is the way it has to be.
The way you treat me is wrong. If you don't realize that the way you treat me is wrong, then I suggest going to therapy to figure out why you treat the people you love like you do. If you keep going this way you're going to find yourself alone.
I'll no longer take your abuse. I did love you at one time, but those feelings are long forgotten. Don't try to contact me because we are completely over, and I will never speak to you again.
I refuse to live in fear of someone who is supposed to be my protector. I tried to make our relationship work, but your abuse is too much for anyone to handle. It's not fair to me to have to endure your wild mood swings and temper.
The way you treat me is not the way you treat someone you love. I respect myself enough to say goodbye to you. Make no mistake about it - we are finished.
Have a good life,
When we first met, you duped me into believing that you loved me for me, but after having been with you for a few months it's blatantly obvious that the only thing you want from me is my money.
I hope you enjoyed all the money you squeezed out of me because you won't get another dime. Go find someone else who is willing to drain their bank account to keep you happy.
I've tried so many times to help you dig yourself out of your financial problems, but unless you're willing to make big changes to how you spend your money you'll never get out of trouble with your money. I'm not so shallow to think that money is the only thing, but I am realistic enough to know that I can never have a future with you where we buy a home together or even go on a vacation because you won't be able to afford either at the rate you're going.
If you're not ready to make changes to the way you handle your money, we can't be together anymore. I need to be with someone who is responsible enough to handle his business and not with someone who doesn't think it's wrong to ignore bills, and spend money like it's water.
I hope that you're able to someday get a grip on your finances.
Differences in Hopes and Dreams
We have to be realistic when we look at our potential future together. After we talked about our plans for the future it became obvious to me, and probably to you too, that our futures just don't align. We want different things, and this is just too much to ignore.
It's best that we part now, and learn to live without each other instead of going on together knowing that it will someday end. I hate that it has to be this way, but I can't disregard my hopes and dreams for the future. I also know that you would not be happy if you gave up your own dreams for me either.
Even though it hurts right now, this is what's best for the both of us. I'll always love you.
You are an amazing person. I have always been able to envision a future with you, and I know that we could have been very happy together if circumstances were different. But when we talk about a long-term relationship and maybe someday marrying and raising children, we inevitably start to talk about our spiritual beliefs, and it's obvious that we're just too different.
I would never ask you to resign your beliefs, just as I know you would never ask me to give up mine. For this reason, we can't realistically have a future together.
It's better that we end it now. I will always remember you as a wonderful person, and I'll always have love for you.
Please remember me fondly.
I am so proud of the things you've accomplished with your career. You've worked so hard to get where you are, and I've always admired how you pursue your dreams.
Your promotion was no surprise because you certainly deserve to get promoted. Your relocation, however, came as a bit of a shock to me. You and I never discussed maintaining a relationship long-distance, and it's simply not something that I feel able to do.
It's best that we say goodbye to each other, so you can be free to aggressively pursue your career. I know that you'll go far, and I hope that you will always remember me as one of your biggest cheerleaders.
I can no longer accept being second-best behind your career. I understand that you love your job, but I guess I just always hoped that you loved me more.
I'm letting you go so you're free to work to your heart's content. It's not what I wanted, but it's what best for the both of us. I hope that one day you are able to take a step back and realize that your work may be costing you relationships with people who truly loved you.
It's Not All About the Letter
Your note will help you end the relationship with your partner, but delivering it won't be all that you will need to do. If your soon-to-be-ex does not know the two of you are about to break up, you may have to do some consoling, and explain yourself further. Of course, it would be easier to just hand over a note and say goodbye, but that is not a responsible or sensitive way to break up with someone in most cases. Remember that you did once care for this person, and it's only fair to try to provide some closure.