Luckily, for those who haven't yet found their inner flirt, there are many flirting books available to help. Flirting is an art that often comes naturally. However, for many, it's a skill that must be learned in order to be a part of their personality.
Flirting is Fun
The first thing to remember about flirting is that it is fun. There should never be any pressure or fear when flirting opportunities arise. For the more shy at heart, though, flirting is a mystery that doesn't come easily.
For those who have yet to find their inner flirt, they wonder what it is about that person who, upon entry to a room, just seems to attract everyone's attention. It's not about looks or appearance. It's all about attitude and making everyone else in the room feel good. While it may sound nearly impossible to attain these skills and pull them off naturally, it is very realistic when armed with the right resources.
The Right Resources
There aren't specific "tools" to have in order to be able to flirt well. There aren't certain props that are foolproof or outfits or haircuts that will instantly make you flirt better.
Available to you, however, are many, many books on the topic. These books are written by therapists, social workers, social butterflies and psychologists. The trick is not to just read one book, but to read many and combine what they all have to say in order to develop your own style of flirting.
Here are some options:
- 101 Ways to Flirt: How to Get More Dates and Meet Your Mate, by Susan Rabin and Barbara Lagowski. This book appears to be an easy read full of 101 quick tips to use to become a better flirt. One critic complained that the book seemed too vague, but it seems that it would be a good read for a beginner.
- How to Flirt: A Practical Guide, by Marty Westerman This 89-page paperback gives a general all-around approach to flirting. It's a good read for the young, the old, the experience and in-experienced.
- How to Attract Anyone, Anytime, Anyplace: The Smart Guide to Flirting, by Susan Rabin and Barbara Lagowski. This playful read with 160 pages teaches you to let your inner flirt out. It stresses that flirting should be fun and includes "Tips from a Master Flirt" and instructions about "How To Make Your Own Luck."
- Superflirt, by Tracey Cox. Written by a critically acclaimed sex expert, this book delves into the fundamentals of body language and helps readers to decipher mixed signals.
- How to Flirt and Be Seductive (How to Guides), by Valentina Artsrunik. This is a tongue-in-cheek guide to exploring what makes people stand out in a crowd and how they do it. The end result of the book is that anyone can accomplish this feat.
- Flirting 101: How to Charm Your Way to Love, Friendship, and Success, by Michelle Lia Lewis and Andrew Bryant. Written by a former Australian matchmaker and a motivational speaker, this book focuses on developing self-confidence, understanding non-verbal communication and overcoming one's fear of rejection. The premise of the book is that a good flirt makes everyone feel good.
Will you be guaranteed to be a successful flirt after reading these flirting books? There are no guarantees. You must combine your own personal style with the flirting tips mentioned in these books. These provide a way for you see some things that work. However, if you don't open yourself up to being social and having fun, none of the tips will ever work. In addition to studying these books, you must work on having an open mind and wanting to have fun and enjoy the process. Flirting can be a lot of fun when you're not afraid to do it. Flirt at work, on the bus, at the grocery store, with your neighbors. After all, practice makes perfect!