Double your Dating

Have you ever wished you could double your dating? You have so much to offer, but you spend many nights alone. All of those nights add up to lost time that you can never get back! Never! Don’t just sit back and let the dating world pass you by! It’s time to take matters into your own hand. Only you are truly responsible for you!

Double Your Dating

What does double your dating really mean? Unless you are extremely extroverted or you are in a serious relationship, you may not be meeting and dating as many people or as often as you’d like. Can you really increase the amount of dates you have? Sure you can! First, you’ll have to decide just how many dates you want to have in a week, month, year, etc. In other words, set a goal. Before you become too goal oriented, however, remember that this isn’t a race, and it isn’t a contest. You aren’t in competition with anyone other than yourself, so don’t get discouraged if you don’t immediately meet the goals you have set. As you become more confident and adept at securing dates, you’ll find the whole process becomes easier.

Finding Success

Before you can double your dating, you have to find some people to date, right? That means forgoing the couch potato position you are so comfortable with! You’ve got to get out and get busy! Now is not the time to be a hermit. That being said, you still need to be true to yourself. Don’t try to become something or someone that you are not.

• Find hobbies you truly would enjoy.
• Visit popular places that other singles might frequent, such as the bowling alley, parks, outdoor concerts, ballgames, etc. Find some friends to take with you and to give you added support.
• Broaden your education. Again, don’t waste your time (or your money) on college or continuing education classes that really hold no interest for you. While of course you want to meet other people, you are also improving yourself as well.
• Volunteer in your community. The volunteering possibilities are unlimited. Contact your local Chamber of Commerce, look in the “life” section of your newspaper, and contact your local chapter of the United Way.

What’s Next?

Ok, now you’ve found some great places to meet lots of new people, so what’s next? It’s time to take the next step. You can’t go out on a date without making your intentions or at least your interests known. Before you think that this article only addresses men, think again. It’s a new century, ladies, and you have just as much right to pursue your desires as men do, so don’t be a wallflower. Go for it! The following steps will get you started!

• ’’’If there is an immediate attraction, then use it!’’’ This doesn’t mean you come on like gang busters, but it does mean you already have somewhat of an advantage. If you’ve attracted someone to you, take a few moments to notice what there is about you that attracted that person in the first place. Is it chemistry? Is it a common interest, age or appearance? Don’t spend too much time trying to figure it out, however. Just use it as a diving board for things to come.
• ’’’Don’t overdo it’’’. You’ve made the initial contact, and things are going great! You can’t wait to talk to her. In fact, you can’t resist calling her ten times a day. Whoa! Control those impulses. While double your dating might mean you want to see her 24/7, she may back track quickly if you appear too eager. Give her time to miss you!
• ’’’Don’t be needy’’’. Many people confuse neediness with love. While of course couples should and do need each other, you are not part of a couple…yet. If you become too needy or possessive, you’ll turn him off. Don’t lose yourself just because you think you are in love with someone. What turned that person on to you may have been your independence, strength, and individuality. Don’t lose that!
• ’’’Date others’’’. Don’t commit to one person until you are certain that person is ready to commit to you. While it may seem as if you are playing games, you really aren’t. You won’t really know if you’ve met Mr. or Ms. Right until you’ve played the field a bit. The fact that other women or men are interested in you only makes you that more interesting to them!
• ’’’Finally, don’t settle’’’. While it’s easy to settle into a comfortable, habit forming relationship, don’t! Not if it means giving up part of yourself or giving up the dream you have of a real relationship. Keep looking, and good luck!