Does Someone Have a Crush on Me

Marcelina Hardy, MSEd, BCC
Crush

You might be asking yourself, does someone have a crush on me? It can be hard to tell whether someone is just being a good friend or if he or she has a romantic interest in you. Some people are naturally loving to others, which can make it appear like they have a romantic interest. This is what makes it hard to determine whether someone has a crush on you. The good news is that there are ways to know if someone likes you more than a friend.

Answering the Question: Does Someone Have a Crush on Me?

The easiest way to find out if someone likes you romantically is to come right out and ask, "Do you like me?" However, this can be embarrassing and make the relationship awkward afterwards. There are subtle ways to know without coming out and asking directly. Here are some of the most common attributes of people who have a romantic interest, which can help you answer that burning question: "Does someone have a crush on me?"

  • Staring

Your potential love interest stares at you while you are in the middle of something or talking to someone. He or she may look away when you catch them staring at you.

  • Smiling

He or she smiles at you much more while you are talking.

  • Laughing

An increase in laughing or giggling at your jokes or just in normal conversations can signal romantic feelings.

  • Interested in your life

He or she has become overly interested in your hobbies and your close friends. It is a way for him or her to get closer to you and know more about you.

  • Behavior changes

When you first met this person, he or she may have acted much differently than he or she does now. This behavior change is usually dramatic and there is no mistaking that something has changed.

  • Finding reasons to talk

You may receive calls to ask you a simple question that he or she could have found the answer to elsewhere much more easily.

  • Spending more time

This person suddenly is changing his or her plans to spend more time with you. Your potential love interest may make excuses so you will spend more time with him or her.

  • Popping up everywhere

You start running into your friend in places you normally never see him or her, especially if you visit that place frequently.

  • Making plans

Your friend invites you to events in the future. This is a good way to ensure that you are available later on so he or she can spend additional time with you.

  • Touching more

Your potential love interest starts to touch you on the arm, back or hand more than normal while talking.

  • Friend's help

If you have a friend who is also close to the suspected love interest, he or she can ask about interest in you. Usually done without the person thinking you know anything about it, this person can say something like, "I noticed you are acting different, do you have a crush on him or her?"

The Knowledge of Having a Crush

If you answered yes to most of the above attributes than you probably have someone who likes you romantically. Now, it is up to you what you want to do with this information. If you feel the same way, this is your chance to move forward.

Feeling the Same Way

Of course, you may still be afraid that you are wrong about how the other person feels about you so move slowly. Give the person more attention and notice the reaction. Start making plans with the person and use some of the same attributes above to show that you are interested as well.

Letting your Crush Down Easy

Alternatively, if you do not want to move forward try to find ways to let your love interest know you are not interested. Simply avoid some of the advances such as changing your schedule or hurrying conversations because you have somewhere else to go. After some time, he or she will either understand or grow tired of the chase since you are not feeding into it.

Does Someone Have a Crush on Me