Dating Indian Women
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Are there rules for dating Indian women? This reader wanted to know! Let our dating coach provide you some general ideas.
Dating Indian Women Rules
Reader Question
Are there any rules for dating Indian women?
~~Lost
Expert Reply
Dear Lost,
What makes answering your question difficult is that you did not give me enough information. Customs and traditions that apply to one region of India may not apply to another region. This is because India has about 29 states, each with a different language, customs, etc. It also is a land of diverse religions. In general the people of India tend to marry within their community, whether that community exists within India or those of Indian decent living in other countries.
So there is no “one set of rules, traditions or customs” which apply to Indian women. Add to that Indian women living in other countries and whether or not they are first, second or third generation in that country makes answering your question impossible. So I am going to suggest that you seek out the answer from the woman you are interested in yourself.
This time of year there are a lot of holidays. Each religion, family and region of the country celebrates differently. This provides you with the perfect conversation starter. You can comment to the woman you are interested in about all the different traditions to celebrating a particular holiday. Then you can use your family’s traditions as an example and compare your tradition to that of another family. From there you can ask her what holidays her family celebrates and what are the traditions within the family. Then ask her if there are any difference between your county and India.
Because you have shown an interest in her and her culture, she will be flattered. So it would be natural to guide the conversation on to other similarities and differences on many topics including weddings. You can close the conversation by asking, “So if I asked you our on a date, are there any rules, customs or traditions I should know about in advance?” Everything you need to know will be given to you in her response.
~~Lori
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Comments
Dana,
If you no longer want to be with him, you don't have to be. You need to tell him you are no longer interested in dating him and then stick to that. He should respect your feelings and give you your space. If he does not or threatens you, you should seek out help. If you fear for your safety, look into shelters in your area.
-- Contributed by: Marcelina HardyI have been looking around for some information about dating Indian guy.Because I am dating one, and there are situation that I dont like and I dont understand. I dont like to generalize but, now I know that is true. I am glad for the persons that have good relationships with this Indians boys. The problem is that I tried many time to broke up him but, he chasing me a lot with not reason (that is what I think), now I understand a little more is culture issue. Of course I love him, here is why I am still with him, but not happy . He hide me, no PDA of course too, not way to please me, serious, but WANT TO BE WITH ME AT THE END AND LOOKS SO HAPPY. I think I am in a problem with this boy. How to keep him away? I try all!!!! I am going to ask him to marry me then probably he will run away. . .
-- Contributed by: DanaAmerican Desi has some good advice. My parents were liberal and open. They had no problem with me dating and with men that arent Indians. I have dated hispanic, indian, caucasian men. I'm married to a second generation Indian man by coincidence rather than race.
I think Angelos' advice is based only on one woman.
For everyone - ask the person about their culture and what is appropriate. They will usually appreciate it.
-- Contributed by: Indian Woman
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