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Dating Indian Women Rules
Reader Question
Are there any rules for dating Indian women?
~~Lost
Expert Reply
Dear Lost,
What makes answering your question difficult is that you did not give me enough information. Customs and traditions that apply to one region of India may not apply to another region. This is because India has about 29 states, each with a different language, customs, etc. It also is a land of diverse religions. In general the people of India tend to marry within their community, whether that community exists within India or those of Indian decent living in other countries.
So there is no “one set of rules, traditions or customs” which apply to Indian women. Add to that Indian women living in other countries and whether or not they are first, second or third generation in that country makes answering your question impossible. So I am going to suggest that you seek out the answer from the woman you are interested in yourself.
This time of year there are a lot of holidays. Each religion, family and region of the country celebrates differently. This provides you with the perfect conversation starter. You can comment to the woman you are interested in about all the different traditions to celebrating a particular holiday. Then you can use your family’s traditions as an example and compare your tradition to that of another family. From there you can ask her what holidays her family celebrates and what are the traditions within the family. Then ask her if there are any difference between your county and India.
Because you have shown an interest in her and her culture, she will be flattered. So it would be natural to guide the conversation on to other similarities and differences on many topics including weddings. You can close the conversation by asking, “So if I asked you our on a date, are there any rules, customs or traditions I should know about in advance?” Everything you need to know will be given to you in her response.
~~Lori
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Comments
American Desi has some good advice. My parents were liberal and open. They had no problem with me dating and with men that arent Indians. I have dated hispanic, indian, caucasian men. I'm married to a second generation Indian man by coincidence rather than race.
I think Angelos' advice is based only on one woman.
For everyone - ask the person about their culture and what is appropriate. They will usually appreciate it.
-- Contributed by: Indian WomanGR,
NO!!!!! This is not typical of Indian culture or religion. No religion of India (if there is such a thing) says that kind of behavior is acceptable. This is considered shocking even to other Indians. Even in India, the father would be arrested.
I've known Indians that dated outside their race without any problems.
I am married to an Indian guy that my father at first didnt approve. We communicated and worked it out. And my Indian father NEVER hit me or laid hands me. My husband is a very loving man. He treats me like an equal.
For me, years ago I dated a Caucasian American man and his cousins and brother threathened to gang rape me. So u see this isnt just specific to one race.
One rotten apple does not reflect a whole culture or group of people. I personally find your comment prejudiced, judgmental and offensive. I hope you understand.
As for your situation, I am very sorry that you have to go through this. It can be tough.
I'd advice you to have your son call law enforcement. His threats should be taken seriously. It doesnt matter whether he is Indian. He is in America and should follow the law. Actually, he could be barred from citizenship and even if he escapes to India, he may have citizenship and immigration issues if there are charges on his record. He may still face other consequences. I'm not a legal expert but thats what i think. This man has some serious personal issues.
Dont hesitate. Call the police. This is serious. I hope for the best
-- Contributed by: Indian Womanrespect tradition,laws and lifestyles of each individual.
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