Common Teenage Love Problems

Teenage love problems never change.

Are you finding navigating the world of dating and love to be challenging? You are certainly not alone. The problems you are experiencing as a teenager now are probably not all that different from what your older family members and friends have experienced in the past. Ask them for advice and guidance as you navigate the stress and joy of the world of dating.

15 Common Love Problems

Dating as a teen can be certainly be complicated. Whether you're looking for guidance with a problem that you are experiencing now, or if you're just wondering what may be in store for you in the future, take some time to learn about the common problems teens face while dating, and get insight in how to solve them.

1. Unreturned Love

It's pretty common to fall for someone who doesn't return your feelings, and it can certainly be painful. Keep in mind that just because one particular person does not share your interest, that does not mean that there is something wrong with you. That particular match just isn't right - possibly because of timing or fundamental differences that aren't apparent to you at this stage. Remember "when one door closes, another door opens."

In the same respect, if you are a teen who has never been kissed or in a relationship, you would be surprised at how many other teens or people in the their 20s or even 30s are in the same boat as you. Don't worry about a lack of experience; living your life and just being happy are the some of the best ways to attract someone. The right match will like you just the way you are.

2. Getting Noticed

Getting someone to notice you takes more than great make-up and cute clothes. Find out what you have in common, and chat him up about that. Smile, and be yourself. If your love interest doesn't notice you and seems to return the attraction when you've spent time together, gotten to know each other, and you've even flirted a little, it may be time to move on to someone else. If he's just not that into you, find someone equally fabulous who is.

3. First Love

Teen Love Problems

First love is a good teenage love problem to have, but it can also be like a rollercoaster ride. IT's normal for the feelings to be quite intense. After all, the experiences are brand new, and you're also dealing with the confusion, hormones, jealousy, and even pressure to have sex. There are many consequences of having sex, and you unlikely to regret waiting. Love that comes from the heart and love that comes from hormones are two separate things - and it can be hard to tell the difference when you are experiencing first love.

4. Interference from Friends

Even though teens you might not like to admit it, chances are that you really care about what your friends think about you - and anyone that you may be dating. It's a fact that peer pressure can ruin a relationship. If your friends don't approve of your high school sweetheart, you might be in trouble. The same goes for dating within a group of friends. There might be pressure to date that certain person and fit in, even though you would rather choose a guy or girl from another group at school. Keep in mind that friends who make negative comments about your love interests might be motivated by a desire to protect you, but they may also be motivated by jealousy or fear of being left behind if you get involved in a relationship. Listen to what they have to say, but make up your own mind.

5. Lack of Maturity

While you may not want to admit it, the fact that you are young will have an impact on your dating relationships. You're not supposed to have the maturity level of an adult; after all, you are a teenager. Learning how to stand up for yourself and say what you want when you're still trying to figure things out can be tough - but it's a learning experience that will help you grown into a responsible, assertive adult. A guy might think a romantic evening is playing video games, while girls might have high expectations for love and romance. Being in a relationship takes two and there is a give and take that must satisfy both people, no matter what the age.

6. Isolation

It's not healthy to get so involved with someone you are dating that the two of you become isolated from other people. Don't distance yourself from your friends just because you have a boyfriend or girlfriend While it's not uncommon to feel the need to be with your love interest all the time, it's not good for either of you - or the other relationships in your life - in the long run. It's human nature to need more than one person in your life. Isolation can be especially devastating if you break up. Keep your friends in your life and spend time with them, in addition to scheduling alone time with your romantic partner.

7. Communication

Communication is an essential part of a relationship. It builds trust and prevents misunderstandings. When you don't talk to your boyfriend or girlfriend about your thoughts and feelings, you could be keeping your relationship from growing. Without growth, love isn't able to develop and continue. When you first start going out with someone, take your time opening up, but if you find that you aren't able to speak freely with this person after a good amount of time, that may be a sign of a serious problem. If you're boyfriend/girlfriend doesn't open up to you, it may be a sign of a lack of trust or comfort. You can help this by asking questions and listening intently. The more your love interest tells you, the better he or she will feel about telling you more.

8. Commitment Challenges

As a teenager, you're still figuring out who you are going to be - and this can lead to differences in a desire for commitment in young relationships. It's common for one person to want a long-term commitment while the other person does not return feelings at the same level, or is simply not ready for a long-term commitment at a young age. When commitment and feelings aren't reciprocated, it can become difficult for a relationship to continue. If you the one pushing for commitment, stop and ask yourself what you really want. IF you want to enjoy spending time with someone you care about, try to focus on "now" instead of what may happen many years down the road. You still have plenty of growing and developing to do.

9. Disapproval from Parents

Disapproval from Parents

Parental disapproval of teen relationships is very common, for a variety of reasons. Your parents may have concerns regarding whether or not you are truly ready to date or if the person you are interested in might not be a good influence. They may also not be ready to admit that their child is nearing adulthood. If you're dealing with this, try to discuss your feelings calmly with your parents. Listen to them and be ready to follow some rules about your relationship. If your parents forbid you from seeing the person, you should abide their wishes. You can still see your boyfriend or girlfriend at school and remain friends. If you stay friends until after you graduate, you can start dating again since you'll be old enough to make your own decisions. While this may hard to accept at first, what is meant to be will be.

10. Changes in Life

As high school graduation approaches, you will face difficult decisions. You and your boyfriend or girlfriend may go to different colleges, join the military or move away to seek job prospects. Distance can make sustaining a relationship difficult. It is possible to keep a relationship going from a distance, but it is not easy. You may decide to break up or to pursue a long distance relationship. Both of you have to make great efforts to keep communication open and see each other whenever you can. It's also important that you both trust each other and resist temptation. By keeping the love you have for each other the focus in your life, you'll be able to stay strong through the distance. Remember the famous quote by Richard Bach: "If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they're yours."

11. Initiating a Break-Up

You're not looking forward to hurting your significant other's feelings, but if you feel that the relationship isn't working out, you're probably going to have to initiate a break-up. There are some ways to take the sting out of it for the other person, however. Do it in person, for example. If you're in a long-distance relationship, using the phone will be better than sending a letter or a text (please don't break up with anyone in a text). Don't point fingers. Not only could it additionally hurt the dumpee's feelings, but if he feels inclined, he could promise to change the things you mention, confusing you further. Don't drag it out by avoiding the other person or making excuses about why you can't go out with him. A clean break is less stressful for everyone and you may be able to salvage a friendship later if the breakup doesn't get too messy.

12. Dealing with an Abusive Relationship

If you're in an abusive relationship, alert your parents. Don't break up with the abuser when you're completely alone together. Remember that the abuser is the one with the problem; the abuse has nothing to do with you. Surround yourself with family and friends as you ready yourself to leave the relationship. For additional information, check with TeensAgainstAbuse.org.

13. Getting Dumped

Take a deep breath. Just because the relationship didn't work out the way you'd hoped, that doesn't make you less of a person. Set a time limit for yourself to be sad, stay in, watch movies, eat ice cream-whatever makes you feel comforted. After that, get back to life as usual, and don't forget to be your fabulous self. Enjoy being single for a while, fill your weekends with things you love to do, and the right person will show up eventually. Getting dumped does hurt your ego, but enlist your best friends and closest family members in helping you remember everything you have to offer. You'll be back to normal before you know it.

14. Dating a Friend's Ex

Should you or shouldn't you date someone who used to go out with your friend? In most cases, the answer to whether or not you should date a friend's ex is a resounding no. There are some exceptions, however. If they didn't date for very long and mutually decided that they were better off as friends, it could be fine. Another time it could be okay is if they dated long ago, and there are no leftover feelings. Ask your friend's opinion first. Be aware that your friend may tell you it's fine even when it isn't. Watch closely for body language cues. Keep in mind that your friend won't want to hear the details of your relationship and be ready to make a choice between the two if it does become a problem.

15. Cheating

Did your significant other cheat on you? Does that make him or her a cheater for life? Maybe. Maybe not. Analyze your boyfriend or girlfriend's behavior once you become aware of what took place. If he or she is proactive in telling you what happened and seems truly sorry, you could consider giving another chance. However, if a great deal of lying and sneaking took place, the situation is different. If you can't trust the person or if he or she seems disrespectful or defensive even after you've discovered the cheating, end the relationship immediately.

Perspective on Dating

If you are a teenager having love problems, you are not alone. Many teen relationships don't make it. It's no one's fault; it's simply a lesson to learn that will make you stronger in future love relationships. While you may feel as though your heart has broken in a million of pieces, it's temporary pain. Soon you'll see why it had to end and what you learned from it. This knowledge will lead you to the love of your life, whether it's in a few weeks, months or years. Dating or being in a couple as a teen should be fun, no pressure, and enhance your life and your opportunities.

Common Teenage Love Problems