Chemistry Eye Contact
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Reader Question
Hey, there is this boy who I don't know what do about. He looks at me when he thinks I’m concentrating on something else, and he looks at me in the hallways the entire time. When I catch him looking, he either just stares at me or looks away quickly at whatever's in front of him. I’m not really sure if he likes me or not. My friends tell me to make the first approach but I don't know how to. I really do want him to talk to me first before I do. HELP!!!
~~Reni
Expert Reply
Dear Reni,
The boy you are interested in is talking to you. He’s just talking non-verbally. In order for him to say something to you, he’s going to need some encouragement. To encourage him, I would recommend you do some flirting. The next time you ‘catch’ him looking at you, look at him and smile and then drop your eyes down like you are shy. You might even tilt your head down slightly while you look down. Follow this movement by looking up again in a couple of seconds to see if he is still looking at you. Should he be looking, repeat the flirting a second time and then go about your business. By flirting with your eyes and smiling at the same time, you’re letting him know that you noticed him, are interested and it is OK for him to come and talk with you.
Sometimes the flirting move listed above isn’t enough for a boy who is very shy to come and talk with you. If this sounds like your guy, you might have to make your encouragement really obvious. To do this, you’ll need to get close enough for him to hear you say hi. When you are walking by the boy you like, say, “hi” to him while smiling. You’ll want to walk just slow enough to allow him to respond back. Should he respond, encourage him more by saying, “how’s it going?” This should be enough to get him talking to you.
~~Lori
Comments
Hey, I goes into the place where I pay my phone bill and this guy smiles and looks at me and then before I left he asks Can I ask you a question and I was like yea and he ask How old are you and I said 20 and he smiled and said ok and I left. Could he be interested in me? I also be nervous because he be in there alone. So next time I go back in there if you think he is interrested what should I say?
-- Contributed by: NeecieDear Elsa, thanks for the question. He may not feel its appropriate to ask you out on a date when he is working, even though he has made other advances. He may have also not asked you out yet because he is a little nervous and is not sure that you are interested in him as well. Make sure that you are always smiling and happy to see him and any other ways of showing your interest that you are comfortable with. You can also try talking with him, such as ask him what he enjoys doing in his free time. If there is a restaurant you want to try or a movie you want to see, casually let him know this. Or, tell him how much you appreciate the wine but mention how you'd rather share it with someone instead of drinking it alone. The point is that you'll be expressing interest in him and providing a way for him to ask you on a date, all without having to make the first move.
-- Contributed by: Rick FulksI have been working as a nanny for the past fice years. The UPS guy who delivers packages to the building has been flirting with me for a while now. He seems very shy but everyone at the building acknowledges how respectful and a nice guy he is. Over chirstmas holidays he buzzed the door bell and brought me a bottle of whine (sweet). I honestly do like him alot. He has asked me several times what I like doing in my free time and I told him. Even if he has packages for the other floors, he always buzzes the apt where I work so get him in the main door. The only thing is he has not directly asked me out. He has difinetly hinted. what should I do? I honestly do like this guy but I wouldn't dare make the first move. Help!!!!
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