Cheating Relationships

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Cheating relationships can be heartbreaking and difficult to understand.

Cheating relationships are difficult


Cheating Relationships are Difficult

Discovering that your partner is cheating on you can be extremely painful. Questions, anger and hurt become your constant companion and you may feel lost as to what your next steps should be. If all you have are suspicions of cheating, then proceed carefully. Accusing a loved one of cheating when they aren’t can cause a rift in your relationship.

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If your partner matches one or two signs of cheating, don’t overreact. Occasionally fighting, or feeling as if your partner is not paying attention to you, is very common. What you are looking for is a marked change in behavior. It would be as if your partner has become someone completely different. This marked change in behavior and personality is one of the best indicators of cheating.


Signs of Cheating

The following is in no way a complete list of all the signs of cheating, but it can help you begin the process of separating fact from fiction. If you feel that your partner is exhibiting some of these characteristics, talk to them, but keep in mind that there may be a perfectly logical explanation for their behavior.

Signs of Cheating
Sign Explanation
Your partner is more attentive than usual.This only applies if there is a distinctive change in behavior. Often, a cheating partner experiences guilt at the beginning of an affair. One way to compensate for these feelings of guilt is to become more attentive to you.
You get lots of gifts. Gift buying is an outward, and tangible, manifestation of the guilt a cheating partner feels.
Something doesn’t feel right.Sometimes you just have a gut feeling that things are wrong. Don’t dismiss these feeling outright. It may be that your gut is trying to tell you something.
There is an increase in fighting.Your mate picks fights with you and then storms out of the house. Again, what you are looking for is a marked change in behavior. Fighting is perfectly normal in a healthy relationship, but if it’s suddenly a huge problem or happening with greater frequency, then it may give you a reason to pause.
Talk revolves around the relationship ending.If all of a sudden every fight ends with talk of the two of you separating, be suspicious.
Mate becomes very moody.Acting upbeat or excited when leaving, but having a somber and depressed attitude around you is also suspicious.
The two of you never talk.This can be a telltale sign, especially if you once enjoyed frequent conversations together.
A change in taste.For example, your mate, whose fondness for rock music is legendary, begins crooning to country.
Criticism increases dramatically.This is especially telling if he or she is criticizing you over the very things they used to love about you.
All attention stops.This means that they no longer show an interest in you, any children you may have together, and have no desire to participate in hobbies the two of you used to enjoy.


Here are some more signs of cheating:

Cheating is hurtful
  • Changes passwords without telling you.
  • Buys completely new and different underwear.
  • No longer wears wedding ring.
  • Sex stops completely.
  • Works a lot of overtime, but it never shows up on the pay stubs.
  • You notice unexplained bruises on his or her neck and back.
  • Becomes overly preoccupied with his or her appearance.
  • You find gifts around the house that neither of you purchased.
  • Hang-ups calls become frequent in your house.
  • You actually catch your mate sneaking out of the house.

Next Steps

If you are suspicious that your mate is cheating on you, or have been able to confirm it for sure, consider taking some of these steps:

  • Talk to your partner
  • Decide if you have the strength and courage to work through a cheating relationship.
  • Seek counseling.
  • Investigate your options.
  • Seek advice from friends and family.
  • Look for ways to re-establish your own sense of worth.

A Final Word

There is no doubt that dealing with a cheating relationship is difficult, and at times, absolutely heart-wrenching, but you can get through it. Talk to qualified people, read what you can on the subject, and do whatever amount of soul-searching you need to, and know that you will be able to overcome this.


 


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