On the surface, bisexual dating may seem like the best of both worlds; the option to date both men and women. The reality, however, is that bisexual dating can be difficult for the bisexual person and his or her partner. The important first steps toward successful bisexual dating are to learn about yourself, if you are bisexual, and understanding the needs of your bisexual partner.
What Is a Bisexual?
A person who is bisexual is someone who is attracted to males and females. How much they are attracted, and in what manner, will vary from person to person. For example, a bisexual man may be physically attracted to women, but feel emotionally and intellectually attracted to other men. It can also be even more subtle. A woman may prefer the company of men both physically and emotionally, yet may still feel some attraction toward other women.
The definition of a bisexual, then, is someone who has the capacity to love both sexes and to be attracted to both in one form or another. It does not necessarily mean acting out that attraction sexually. It may never be more than a feeling inside the bisexual, yet it is those feelings which make him or her bisexual.
Understand Your Bisexual Feelings
If you know or suspect you are bisexual, learn about your feelings so you can better understand yourself and what you desire. Some questions to think about include:
- Are you physically attracted to one or both sexes?
- Which gender are you the most comfortable around?
- Do you identify most with being heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual?
- When seeking emotional comfort, do you prefer men or women?
Answering these questions will help you identify what you need in a relationship. Maybe you will determine that you are sexually attracted to one gender, but prefer the company of the other gender in all other situations. Or, perhaps you will realize that you greatly prefer one gender in all aspects of dating, but still have feelings for the other.
My Partner Says They Are Bisexual
If you are involved with someone who reveals she or he is bisexual, you will need to speak with your partner about his or her feelings. Your partner, for example, may love you deeply and feel sexually attracted to you as well, but needs to spend some time with the other sex in order to be fully satisfied. Talk about this together and determine if you are comfortable knowing this about your partner. If you are, then work on a solution to keep the two of you together but provide for the needs of your partner as well.
Starting a New Bisexual Relationship
If you are currently single, now is a good time to think about trying to start a relationship with another bisexual person. But before you do, consider your feelings and what you need from a relationship.
For example, will you be comfortable knowing your partner is attracted to both sexes? Do you need someone who is emotionally connected to you, even if he or she isn't as physically connected? Would you allow a partner to find physical fulfillment outside of your relationship?
You should consider questions such as these before getting seriously involved with someone new. The great thing about being in a relationship with another bisexual is that he or she will understand you in a way that a non-bisexual cannot.
Begin Bisexual Dating
There are some websites available that cater to bisexuals. You can use them to help you find other bisexuals to start a relationship with. Keep in mind, however, that some people on these sites are truly bisexual while others may just be curious.
- BiCupid. This site allows you to search for other bisexuals and participate in message boards, online chat and blogs. There are advice columns as well.
- Bisexual Fish. They tout themselves as the safest and most secure way to find bi-sexual companionship. You have to register to be able to look at the profiles.
- Bipeople Meet. Memberships are free on this site, and there are lots of ways to search and find people to connect with.
Being bisexual may feel like it makes relationships more complicated, but it involves basic interpersonal challenges everyone faces. Knowing who you are and what you need in a relationship are the questions everyone must figure out in order to be happy.