If you're a BBW (big beautiful woman) or you hope to meet one, there are several places online, and in real life, that can deliver just what you want. Whether you prefer to meet someone via online dating sites or to venture into a new club, it's easier now than ever to meet the people you're looking for.
Online Dating for BBW
If you prefer getting to know new people online before meeting in person, there are a few online sites that will help you meet that special someone.
BBW Dating Club
BBW Dating Club is for "big beautiful women and the men who love them" and is designed to help you find your perfect match. Creating a profile is free. There's the option to upload a photo of yourself and questions cover things like what you like to do for fun, favorite foods, and interesting facts about yourself. There's a separate "About Me" section to fill out, as well, along with the typical matchmaking site questions like whether you have or want kids, your career, your marital status, body type, lifestyle, etc. There are several interests listed for you to check if you enjoy them.
You'll need to verify your account once you've filled out your profile. From there, you can browse through pictures and send out introductions, also for free. The site uses common interests to gauge compatibility. You can send winks for free, keep up with your favorite profiles (by clicking the heart next to their profile), search through profiles, and check out the profiles the site shows you through their Encounter feature (you let them know if you like what you see and others review your profile at the same time).
If you decide to become a full member, you'll get more features, like the ability to send and receive messages (not just winks and intros), chat, see who's checked out your profile, and create dating diaries and videos, as well as read or watch others' diaries and videos. Membership prices vary. If you want to pay for one month at a time, you'll pay about $20/month. Committing to three months, six months, or a year will cost about $13, $10, or $8 per month, respectively. You'll be billed for the full amount in one transaction.
BBW Cupid falls within the Cupid Media group of dating sites and it's free to sign up for an account. First, you'll set up an account with your name (your first name shows on your profile), gender, birthday, whether you're looking for a male or female, and where you live. In the next step, you'll provide details like whether you're willing to relocate, nationality, occupation, what you're looking for in a partner, and what you want potential partners to know about you.
From there, you can add an optional photo and begin to browse the profiles. First, you'll see a range of matches from your area and near your age (younger and older). If you don't see anyone you're interested in or you're feeling a little overwhelmed, you can select "Improve Matches" at the top of the page and edit your preferences. This allows you to narrow your options down by factors like age, appearance, where they live, lifestyle, cultural values, and more. You can select your interests and what you like to do in your spare time and add details about your personality, favorite things, the type of person who'd be your perfect match and more.
There are several pricing options if you want to upgrade your account and gain unlimited communication via chat and emails. Depending on the amount of time you'd like to commit to the site, you can pay anywhere from about $8/month (12-month commitment) to $30 for one month. There are two paid levels - Gold and Platinum. Platinum gives you more profile space and visibility, no ads, additional search features, and advanced matching algorithms.
From the Large Friends front page, you can put in the gender, age, and location of the person you'd like to meet. The next page will tell you how many active local profiles were found that fit your criteria. You won't be able to see any of them until you sign up for a free account though. Once you've filled in the basic details, you'll move on to the type of relationship you're looking for (friendship, casual, marriage, etc). Then you get to go through and answer questions about yourself and your ideal partner, like whether there are kids in the picture now or whether you'd like kids in the future, body type, relationship status, physical appearance, education, occupation, religion, etc.
You have the option of leaving a "Please ask me" response if you don't want an answer to affect how others view you or feel you need to include an explanation. Finally, you'll have the opportunity to do more than check boxes or select from specific answers. You'll get to write a quick paragraph about yourself and another about your ideal match. Upload a photo if you'd like (profiles with pictures get more views), then browse!
With a free membership, you can receive messages and winks, send winks, see who liked your photo, receive photo requests, update your status (similar to Facebook), and access some of the features, like BBW first date ideas and dating advice, that make this site stand out among the rest. If you upgrade to the Gold membership, which is around $1/day, your profile will get more visibility, you'll gain mobile access to the site, and you'll gain extra features like being able to see who viewed your profile, who's interested in you, and more.
In addition to its cute name, Chubby Bunnie has a lot to offer in the world of BBW dating. On this site, you can even earn a free gold membership if you can't pay for one. Simply add dating and safety tips, offer suggestions for making the site better, promote the dating site in your social media, and email them to let them know what you've done.
A basic, free membership allows you to create a profile for others to view. Gold members can send you messages if they like you and you'll be able to reply. However, the only initial contact you can make with anyone is a wink. Your searches with a basic account are also limited to age, gender, and location, whereas Gold members can refine their searches in additional ways. There are also forums on the Chubby Bunnie site for talking about dating, love, friendship, and everything in between. You can also ask about places to meet BBW or the people who love them if you're hoping to go out one night and meet people in person instead of sticking to online dating.
Subscriptions are available for about $1/day for those who want to pay for only a month at a time, or up to about $20/month for those who are comfortable committing to several months at a time.
BBW Clubs to Visit
Sometimes you just want to get out from behind the computer screen and meet people face-to-face in a place you already know you'll be accepted and appreciated. That's where BBW clubs come in.
Whittier, CA's Club Bounce opened in 2004 to cater to BBW, BHM (Big Handsome Men), and those who love them. It's all about acceptance, so they aim to make you feel welcome no matter what, (just don't show up dressed in your cozy sweats or anything gang-related or overtly offensive). Your age is the only thing that matters; you have to be at least 21 years old. Dressing up is recommended, but they won't turn you away for wearing blue jeans. Expect to pay a cover charge of $10 or $15 and listen to all kinds of music. It's easier to get information about upcoming events from the Facebook page than the club's homepage, but you can also enter your email address on the website to get updates about special events.
Club Bubbles, in Westminster, CA, will cost you about $10 in cover fees. Dress up in at least dressy-casual clothing and get ready to enjoy $5 drink specials, DJ Thorn, free birthday parties, and the opportunity to meet and dance with new people who love your body. This is a BBW club, but everyone's accepted as long as they're 21 and up. Yelp reviewers mentioned lots of parking, a good mix of music, delicious drinks, clean bathrooms, and sexy people. The overall review is positive, but complaints included a small dance floor and slow bar staff.
BBW Club Las Vegas
BBW Club Las Vegas is right off I-15 and offers easy parking. Enjoy appetizers, drink specials, upbeat music, and events like New Year's Eve parties. You'll have to pay a $20 cover and be 21 or over, but there are plenty of photos and videos to check out on their website to see if it's a place you think you'd enjoy before you go. The club is open Saturday nights from 10:00 PM until 3:00 AM Sunday. Reviewers call it fun and drama-free with a good mix of people.
Club Ample isn't a set location but instead hosts BBW club-style events in hotels in different states (eight states over the course of ten years at the time of this writing). Cover charges will vary by venue and event, but some have no cover charge at all. In some cases, discounts are offered on hotel rooms, so you won't have to worry about arranging for a ride home. Club Ample strives to find the best hotels, DJs, lighting, and sound possible when they host an event. There's a Club Ample Facebook group where you can get a jump-start on meeting new BBW and admirers, get a feel for the club's vibe, and find out the latest news on upcoming events.
Heavenly Bodies is similar to Club Ample in that it's a string of events hosted at various venues. They've been in business for over 10 years and host Saturday night events in the New England area that bring in 150-200 people each weekend. You only have to be 18 to attend the events, but you'll still need to be at least 21 to drink. There's a public Facebook group where you can get to know new people you may meet in person at the events and find out more about what's coming up.
BABS is centered in Linden, NJ, and hosts events for the BBW crowd. They put together dance parties, bowling nights, seminars, weekend getaways, and more, and there's no single venue. There are online and offline components to BABS, as it's meant to be a community for larger women and their admirers. There's a whole social club devoted to helping you meet new friends and love interests. BABS is also very active on Facebook and quick to respond to messages.
BBW Night Club Meetups
BBW Night Club Meetups will allow you to track down the BBW clubs and events closest to you. Right now there are under 4,000 members in 11 cities and three countries. That's not extremely widespread, but you may find just what you're looking for.
What to Remember in BBW Site and Clubs
Though you should always take note of the general dos and don'ts of online dating, be sure you also read over any rules before entering a BBW site or club to ensure you don't risk getting kicked out. Call ahead to find out what to wear so you're not turned away at the door to a dance club you've recently discovered. Always remember to take all the safety precautions whether you're meeting up with someone you've met online or you've really hit it off with someone in a club. It always helps to take a few friends along so you can watch out for each other.