Adult Dating Online

Can Regular People Find Love Online?

Finding love online is certainly a possiblity. By now, most of us know someone, or have at least heard of someone, who met the love of their life online. And really, if you're using an online dating service, wouldn't you think that there are other people just like you out there?

Unfortunately, we have also heard the horror stories. People have been drawn into relationships with online matches who lied about their marital status, finances, even gender. When you meet someone through friends or co-workers, you have at least some idea of what sort of person they are. When you meet someone online, you intially have no idea. Adult dating online requires the same caution that we, as adults, apply to other important transactions with people who may not have our best interests at heart.

Behaving Like an Adult Online

Hidden behind a computer screen can often bring out the worst in people. Behaviors that would not be acceptable anywhere else in the public world — such as using explicitly sexual language without knowing whether it's welcome — are the norm for many online daters. But grown-up, responsible, people approach adult dating online with respect for their fellow daters. Here's how to date like an adult online:

• Post up-to-date pictures that actually look like you. Many online daters use a favorite old photo taken before the grey hair, weight gain, or wrinkles. That old picture might get you more responses to your online ad, but when it is time to meet, it's not like your date won't notice that you have gained twenty pounds or aren't twenty-five anymore.
• Tell the truth about your education and employment. Lying about your college degree can get you fired from a job, and it can get you fired from a date just as fast. If you're not proud of where you're at in life, make a plan to get where you want to be; but don't pretend you're already there.
• Be honest about activities and hobbies. Adult daters know their perfect match will like them for who they are, not who they used to be or wish they were. If you haven't been on the slopes in ten years, don't say you're an avid skier.

Communicating Online

Part of being a mature adult is understanding that people won't always be as we expect, and sometimes they surprise us. But somehow, this social skill seems to diminish online. Online daters often imagine they know what the person behind the profile is like and then are disappointed or even angry when the person isn't what they hoped.

• Successful adult online daters understand that profiles don't always reflect the real person. How someone sees himself might not be how you will see him. Or, he might have intended the profile to convey something entirely different from what you had thought.
• Grown-up daters know misunderstandings happen easily in email and instant messaging. If you're surprised or offended by something, take the time to ask the person to clarify before you get too upset.
• Adult daters employ good manners when it comes to sexual language. While many people do enjoy explicit emails and chats, others will be offended or simply annoyed. If you're serious about finding a soulmate, not just a one-night-stand, don't use this kind of language until you know it's welcome.

Meeting Your Match

Realize it's common for online daters to ask potential matches for a real-world meeting and then never follow up. Also, just like in other kinds of dating, after the meeting, people often say "I'll call you" when they have no intention of doing so.

• Successful online daters don't say what they don't mean. If you're not interested in meeting someone, there's no need to pretend you are. A rejection is easier to take when it is upfront and honest.
• Truly grown-up daters feel confident enough to end a bad date without future plans. Try saying, "It was nice meeting you" instead of "I'll call you."
• Mature adults understand that not everyone is going to like them. One of the good things about online dating is that if both people are approaching the process in an adult way, then they can keep a healthy perspective on the potential relationship. If someone doesn't call for another date, don't worry. They probably weren't right for you.

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